When people who wronged you die, do you find that at least some of the pain they caused you goes away?

[Anonymous]

My mother was diagnosed with terminal cancer a few months ago and she's currently on her deathbed and could go any day now. When I was 16 she sent me to a psychiatric hospital and the experience left me traumatized with a bad case of PTSD. I never got it treated because help is what caused it and the affects became permanent and when I disowned her 7 years ago I told her that what she did was a complete overreaction. She said I attempted suicide but that was only half true because at the time I was on the fence as to whether or not I wanted to live or die so I put 3 rounds in a revolver, spun it, put the gun to my head and pulled the trigger and in my book half truths might as well be lies. If your help isn't wanted, don't give it; parenting and mental health are really that simple.

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Even when your children are in mortal danger, there's still a such thing as going too far to protect them.

[Dannymadness]

Man that’s deep I’m sorry to hear you’ve been through so much.
the only comparable thing I can think of for myself is there was a woman I used to work with who bullied other colleagues until they would quit. The manager did nothing to solve it, and eventually the bully woman died suddenly - she was about 68. I wasn’t glad she was dead but I was definitely glad I didn’t have to interact with her anymore. At first I felt guilty for not feeling sad, but me and some other people she had treated badly met up and talked about everything horrible she had done over the years kinda like a informal group therapy session and it actually really helped me to come to terms with it,, and I didn’t feel guilty for not caring anymore

[Anonymous]

Your history is sad and you have my sympathy. To answer your question, from my point of view the death of someone who has wronged me without reconciliation is a source of pain and remorse. The pain gets worse, not better and it blackened with remorse.

[Pj1981]

No but I can say I didn't cry about their early passing.