How do you respond to a catfish?

[Anonymous]

Let's assume you have been talking to someone for months or maybe even years and you discover that they are not who they say they are. But you have developed a very close relationship with the person they claim to be. Do you confront them and destroy the friendship or allow the ruse to continue as if nothing is wrong?

Yes Daniel. I'm on to you.

[Anonymous]

this has recently happened a few months ago it ended. one of my friends (aka the catfish (lets name em Taylor)) was dating a guy called (lets name him Nathan). and well. nathan and I assumed taylor was a female, and we were close to her for about 2 years id say, and well. this year we got to know from her/his brother that she is a he. its a guy. and well, his whole family got to know about it and he basically got grounded. and i haven't talked to taylor since and well poor nathan he actually was committed to meeting taylor and perhaps making it work, but knowing he was a catfish, Nathan was heartbroken, and well he's moved on now. (not to me by the way i already had a S. O i love
(and no, mines not a catfish, and neither am I))
but honestly, my response to a catfish would be a "i hope you have a good rest of your life" and a block.
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[Medicalbug]

I dunno, I don’t join these sites with the intent to meet anyone, so people can present themselves as heads of lettuce for all I care. In general the internet is a place where you can be whatever you want and real life is for the rest. Obviously if you’re on a dating site with in person intentions, things are wildly different. Or if you exchange sexual material and don’t know if the person is underage. Those aren’t activities I take part in, so be a head of lettuce! I’m interested to see how the leafy community lives.

[cosmos1958]

If my best friend, who I loved all my life like a brother, suddenly told me that he was gay, I would have no problem with it as long as it didn't cross the taboo line. Any kind of romantic, or sensual emotions that are acted out prior to my being privy to his sexual orientation, would be the ultimate act of betrayal. The ultimate insult.

[Iron_Man]

Are you talking about a girl on the site around here?

[Asker]

Yes.

[Iron_Man]

Daniela Right?

[Iron_Man]

I think I might know her

[Asker]

No, not Daniela. Not sure who that is. I don't want to call "her" out because I actually enjoy our conversations a lot. So I think I'm going to let it slide and just continue on as if nothing is different.

[Iron_Man]

Or you could private message me

[Asker]

I messaged you

[Iron_Man]

Ok good

[Daniela1982]

She said Daniel, not Daniela.

[Iron_Man]

Thank you so much for most helpful Award

[Daniela1982]

I don't know how you can talk to someone for years and not want to talk to that person on Facetime or something. Sounds like you can be catfishing yourself if you dismiss your suspicions.

[Xtcy2083]

If this happened to me, I would use the knowledge about them that I had gained against them. I would use every opportunity to embarrass them, humiliate them, and put them in as many awkward positions as I possibly could.
Then, if they came to the realisation that I had found out their dirty little secret, I would resort to blackmail.
Are there any catfish here for me to fish for? Here, kitty, kitty, kitty...

[Anonymous]

It depends on what they lied about. Physical appearance, age, gender, marital status, name, all of above…


Certain things I would let slide, like the name… and confront them.
However, if it’s any of the listed or all of above, I wouldn’t even confront them, I would just be disgusted and block them.

[Aakash_Hangargi]

It really depends on what they had lied about if something that could affect me physically or mentally would end it.

If not then would take it lightly as fun.

But to give any advice on your topic need to know the context and your relationship type with them

[AGhostSpider]

let them pretend you haven't noticed. move on from them but keep them in the dark. You can block them but they might try stalking you and you might get paranoid about it. Happened to me, i didn't trust that person after 8 times I noticed they were lying. I didn't know what to believe

[Cherry234]

I'm not even sure I would confront the person. If I did I would say we can no longer be friends. If I don't confront the catfish I would either completely ignore him/her or block him/her.

[Cherry234]

I would feel very deceived and betrayed and wouldn't trust that person ever again.

[MrHopper]

I just try to bore them into giving up... too nice like that, but I guess they obviously have their own issues that's why they doing it.. No need to make them feel worse

[all_hayl]

I’ll rephrase your question for you.
“should I move on, or should I continue living what I now know to be a lie?”

[Lou41]

I was catfished on Gag before. He told me that he had to admit that he was a catfish because I'm such a good guy that he felt bad.
I wasn't mad, I told him that I was impressed with his catfishing skills, then he left.

[cosmos1958]

Sounds like you wanted him to stay.

[Lou41]

@cosmos1958
I truly was impressed because he was very good at pretending to be a woman.
I was actually shocked that he was able to trick me. I really wasn't mad, I respected it.
I was kinda dissapointed that he cut the conversation short out of fear or something?
I just wanted to laugh about it and ask him some questions.

[cosmos1958]

Chalk it up to a learning curve that only cost you a little dignity. It could've cost a lot more

[Lou41]

@cosmos1958
It's okay, I'm used to talking to all kinds of real women from all over the world.
I never send any money or meet them without video chatting first.

[FreyaRed]

You don't respond. It's your fault you have build wrong imagination about the person you talked with, because you wanted to believe them.

[Pj1981]

I take it personally when someone wastes my time so I tend to make them think I'm clingy, or completely insane. Mess with my head and I'm gonna get you back

[Razp_Sorbet]

I usually call them out immediately but I'm pretty good at spotting them. Called a few out on here.

[Albino010]

Just let it go, time is too valuable to be wasted with stuff like this.

[Danny_dan92]

I’ve gotten catfished once. She saw and heard me burn rubber as she came up to my car as I pulled up to her residence.

[clampfan101]

It would mostly depend on just how different. Catfishing about weight VS catfishing about age, for example. That can be an enormous difference!

[Subarugirl]

I've never been cat fished. It's not really that difficult to verify someone is real.

[Anonymous]

Daniela a catfish? She had these weird ideas of being modest

[Anonymous]

then you need to find out who they really are or you'll never get closure on the situation

[Paris13]

Block them. xxoo

[jennifer_bloom]

I would say nothing but ghost them.

[Wise4myage]

I would confront and then block them.

[LegendaryIcon]

how do you know if they're truly a catfish though

[Fuentes]

i'd BLOCK them

[In_Trance]

I wouldn't