There is never such a thing as being "behind in life." Life does not have a certain time period you have to meet in order to achieve your milestones, and that's because every person's life moves at a different pace. Some people graduate college at the age of 20/21, and some finish later in life (e. g mid twenties, late twenties, even thirties). Every person's circumstances are different. I have a friend who's 24, and has 3 more years of college left but he spent most of his time financially supporting his family and working full time jobs, so school was the least of his worries. He won't finish school until the age of 27, which is fine. I also have cousins who graduated with their bachelor's at the age of 30. As for virginity, you should never rush to lose it. Take your time, make it a meaningful experience-- not just any experience for the sake of trying something on "time" with your peers. Make it an experience that you can say, "yes, I waited but at least I'm glad I lost it to the right person," even if you're 30. Create goals for yourself on what milestones you want to hit, and make that a target for yourself to achieve. Stop feeling bad for yourself. If you want to start school, start applying to colleges. If you want to improve at work, start putting in extra work and pay closer attention to make sure you don't repeat mistakes. Have a more positive outlook on life, because you're not behind at all!
Seems that they have high tolerance because of the labor shortage would be my guess.
Life isn't a point A to point B, first decide what you want out of life. Then set your goals, and don't be afraid if you miss them, just make sure you are always trying. Even if you fail, that is okay as it is a learning experience.
Also learn some work ethics, or else when the labor shortage ends you'll be the last one anyone wants to hire.
Well, if it any consolation, there really isn't that much of a rush. And be thankful your parents didn't push you into college prematurely, only to have you "crash and burn" there. Or worse, cop out on a less serious field of study and a less serious degree. Generally, older students do better, since they are more focused.
OK, what to do:
1. This job - is it something with future potential, or is this just something you do for money that you will likely move on from sooner or later? If it is the latter, fret less, as you will be expected to make mistakes, or at least more likely to be forgiven when you do.
2. School - does something really fire you up? Don't feel bad if the answer is no. If the answer IS no, then do your best and study something real, although it will be frustrating. STEM (Science, Technology, Engineering, Math) degrees are real. Accounting / Business degrees are, well, less real, "Bogus Studies" degrees are not real. Now if you really DO have a burning academic passion for literature or history, well, be prepared to become a professor.
3. Personal - do you crave male company, or do you not care so much? Do you even have "baby rabies" and want to become a mommy? Nothing wrong with that if so, but do ask yourself the question honestly. And certainly don't do it yet! But plan your future with such goals in mind.
Don’t worry about your major, most people change their minds before they graduate. Also, start with your core classes. English, math, sociology. Just get started and see where to go from there.
you can look at your prospective courses and what those core classes are and start with that. If you have two or three fields then compare the core classes and take anything that overlaps. Then you are safe no matter which you choose.
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u Are you suffering from depression?
Join the military. That'll give you four years of working hard, discipline and time to reflect on what you want. During that time you'll get allowances for uniforms, a place to live (or barracks/ship) and food. While there you can pursue a skill that's useful in civilian life (decide this before recruitment). Such as IT or welding. There's also taking the ASVAB.
Once you are done. If you were frugal and lived off allowances. You'll have a bunch of money saved up. Plus you'll get benefits for college. So, you can go through college without worrying about funding. Hopefully, with the time you spent and simply getting older. You'll know what career you want.
You may also like the military or simply not know. You can stick with the military and retire at 40. Then work some civilian job or go to college then. With your benefits supplementing your income.
You can also go into civilian work. With whatever skilled work you decided to go with in the military. There's all sorts of training you can get. All paid for by the government. Most military jobs aren't front line soldiers. So, if that's not your thing. You can go for something else.
At the very least. You'll have some money and be much fitter than you are now. Plus lots of guys to choose from.
If I may help I felt the same way about my life when I was in my 20's, recently just left 20's. I felt all alone, inadequate and left behind. I didn't end up going to college until I was 25 nearly 27 because of the indecisiveness about what to major.
Anyways, if you are still a virgin then dont be so led to give yourself to someone that you don't love because I did that and I still regret it. (not speaking for you) So the story goes, recently I did complete college, recieve a job I did end up enjoying and worked there for quite a while. I currently doing what my major is, but due to the pandemic not professionally yet. Married now and quite happy. If I can give you a word of encouragement, which this is, love yourself.
Don't worry about what a job thinks about you until you are happy with what you do. They overwork you, don't care, and many other things happen when you aren't happy where you work. And don't forget, college will leave you in debt.
Classes are roughly 1,000 dollars a piece in most cases. So if you truly want to go to college, please take the time to invest in what will make you "money" and well as "happy."
You are only 20. You aren't supposed to have it all figured out yet, nor should anybody expect you to. With what I do, my second education got me nowhere, and now I am making $19.25 /hr driving a forklift! If you went to College, you would wind up in a job in your field making the same as I am now. If you apply to DHL Supply Chain (I worked there at one time), they are hiring drivers there for over $15 /hr (depending on the location).
The cash shortage... I worked at a bank and had the same problem almost every day! Some years later, I figured out on my own they did it when I was at lunch to get rid of me. The thing to do is to go to the Manger and advise them of the situation. Tell them you don't understand why money is missing. But if they haven't let you go yet, chances are the higher-ups know it isn't your fault.
I felt like I was 10 years behind in life myself.
As for the school thing, don't worry about a major. Just find a class that you really like to learn about and take it. If there is something you want to learn just learn about that thing. There aren't any rules that say you have to have a major.
As far as being a virgin, if that is your choice, then stay that way don't get pressured into it.
As for work, you need to know that you are doing something right if they haven't fired you yet. But if you want to get back on track and keep that job, then go and talk to your boss or a mentor and ask how you can get better at your job.
Many people your age aren't sure what to do with their life. That's normal. Rather than make no decision about your life, make some decision. College is a starter. Pick a major you might be interested in and go to college some distance away so you live on campus... that gets you out of your parents house and you'll meet new people to make friends and date guys. Remember that a large percentage of college freshman change their major before graduation, so don't lose sleep over the major you choose... you can always change it later.
Good luck!
I wouldn’t worry about being a virgin. I was in a hurry to lose mine because I didn’t want my friends to think I was a loser, but I regret losing it.
Living with your parents isn’t really a bad thing right now. It was tough back in 2008 when I graduated and it’s really tough right now. I was planning on buying my first house last year. Now I’m struggling to find something that isn’t obscurely overpriced. You can’t even find an apartment to rent for less than $1500/month. I don’t know how kids are making due right now.
I suggest you wait on college. Unless you have a free ride you will just end up in crushing debt with a degree that at this point, is a lot less meaningful than it was years ago.
Focus on getting a good job and developing your work ethic until you start getting an idea of where you want to go in life. I’m 31 and I’m finally getting there. Takes time. Especially in todays society.
Exactly which parts of your life do you think are OFF the tracks?
Your virginity? No
Living at home with the 'rents? - Maybe, depends on your relationship
Not in college yet? You can start whenever you like.
Don't know what to major in? The vast majority of students have no clue what their major will be when they start. And once they choose one, it often changes.
Your life isn't off track, you just don't have an inspiration for something to choose to do, or become. That's alright, you will. Don't worry.
You should be proud because your still a virgin girl, this makes you special, you talk about it as if it's something negative, personally i prefer to marry the virgin girl so i become the 1st and the last and a girl should stay a virgin till marriage, that's what i believe in...
Living with your parents is okay, nothing wrong with it, if i had a daughter i'll always welcome her to live in my house even if she's 40 or 50 because growing in age won't stop making her my daughter, also i'll always help her and take care of her as much as i can...
Now about your job, well no one is good in everything, we are good in some things and bad at other things, choose to work at what your good at 🙂
Now about your boyfriend, your not the only girl to live in this situation, the majority of girls had similar experience which makes you totally normal, search for someone who deserves you and who is compatible with you...
I wish you luck!
You need to get serious about your life. It sounds like you are just drifting. Figure out what it is you like to do. Research different careers. Find out what kind of training you need. You are only 20 years old you are not behind. Don't worry about finding a boyfriend. Concentrate on your future, the boyfriend will come afterwards.
you are young, so you really aren't behind on anything.
Sex will happen when it is right and with the right person.
College choices can also be tough, how are you supposed to know at 20 what you want to do with your life?
So many make a choice, get their degree in that field and it turns out that they do not like that field and go on to something else.
So don't be in a rush, you have plenty of time ahead of you.
Wow haha you're probably just a cute face they need at the front to entice customers to come in or something. A college major doesn't matter as much as just doing college in and of itself. Then you can show jobs that you have a degree of some kind and it can boost your hiring potential. Or you can just settle for low entry-bar jobs for the rest of your life too your choice.
I think you should drop your panties and fuck a stranger you so mess
up because your mind is totally on you being a virgin
living with your parents don't stop you from giving up your pussy
think you should fuck several different men get the feel of the different
size cock and suck their cocks swallowing their cum then see which
one you want to fuck your ass
It happens it’s not a big deal take your time and get it right. I never got married never wanted too. I like hopping in my truck and taking off to do whatever I want. I’m retired early too. Now I drive all over the states.
It doesn't matter if your age 20 and a virgin and ask God to lay hands on you concerning your job if you shall ask, you shall receive
>How do I get my life on track?
>My crush got a girlfriend! Where is my psychopath Noah from the notebook?
Bitch got her priorities straight.
You say you are 20, if you browse this site for sometime, you will notice that a lot of people post questions on here about entering their 20s as virgins
You need to know what you want before you change any of that.
I'm trying to figure that out too HaertBreaker so if u need any help or anything just messaged me if u need too
I'm not a virgin, but i wish i was, i still live with my parents... and im not even a college grad.
I'm 32
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