Do you prefer to listen instead of speaking yourself? Or are you someone who likes to talk a lot?

[melanieeeB]

Daaamn I'm on a flow tonight lmaooo

But yeah back to the question, personally I'm more a listener and I can talk and I'm a pro in small talks but I rather just listen tho

And I do listen to actually everything someone tells me, that's probably why others always call me up when they need someone to talk to

[HighlyVolatile]

I really enjoy both. I'm both the ultimate chatterbox and a Japanese-style listener able to turn that off when someone is talking to me in person and listen most intently with only interjections to show that I'm listening, like so:

https://www.youtube.com/embed/G-GQRYA_yMw

However, when it comes to my turn to speak (for which I can wait most patiently), I love to chat and open up about myself. I always violated the general rule on dates to avoid speaking about ourselves too much. I can't help it, so instead, I learned to turn it into a performance that's entertaining and funny and gets crowds huddled towards me to listen and laugh.

I haven't mastered this art over writing though. On text, I might inadvertently chat many people's metaphorical ears off since I can't see how they are responding to adjust what I'm saying as I'm saying it. I also haven't managed to learn how to make what I write anywhere near as funny as what I say. :-D

[HighlyVolatile]

Another difficulty I have over text is that Aizuchi is practically impossible over text. So I find it difficult to show that I'm reading very intently and enthusiastically. I find texting incredibly awkward to me that way and prefer to look at it as writing short letters to each other rather than a conversation.

[Citizenkirk]

A wise old Owl sat on an oak.
The more he saw, the less he spoke.
The less he spoke, the more he heard.
Why can't we be like that 🦉 wise, old, bird.

[lokaloon384]

That's a super cute saying, got a smile now

[Citizenkirk]

@lokaloon384 glad too hear it🦉

[AndrésC64]

Oh I remember that one! Good advice.

[AndrésC64]

Something along the same lines is: "You learn more from listening than speaking."

[Citizenkirk]

Thanks for MHG

[CrazyGirl2]

I’d rather listen… The old idiom my grandma used to say “god gave you two ears and one mouth for a reason… you learn twice as much by listening that you do by speaking!” Of course, being the consummate smartass, I would say “but wait, I thought good gave us two ears so we could have directional hearing, and hear in stereo, but it’s for learning? Ok… do I have a few words for my biology teacher on Monday!” I thought that was hilarious… my grandmother (AND my mom) however, found NO humor in that whatsoever? Beats me 😅😂🤣😂😅

[Tweetybirdii]

Love to listen to others. You learn so much more listening than you do speaking

[melanieeeB]

Exactly 😂🙏🏼

[NathanDavis]

although I am for a balance between the two, I do prefer and rather to listen more than to talk because I've always found myself intrigued and interested in other people... and the more interesting they are the more I'd like to know about them

talking about myself is always the same for me... with everyone I know, I sure can talk about me, but I've been telling them the same because I do not change, however... knowing about others, everyone is different and have their own unique story which is way way more interesting for me, always has been

[TheSpaceGnome]

I prefer doing things.

To listen or speak is to either learn, protect, be comforted, comfort another, or laugh. I'm not sure why anyone would prefer to be talkative or quiet about all topics as a whole unless their throat hurts or they are some kind of ego driven person.

[Patmedley26]

God I really don't like speaking a lot nor being the center of attention. If it's one on one interaction with a friend or family member it's fine, but I choose to listen the majority of the time and respond if need be. If people verbally present me with a problem, I like to offer some insight and hopefully a solution if I can.

[Gorge95]

If they are worth listening to then I’m definitely keeping quiet and listening. If they’re an empty vessel making a ton of noise, well I’ll still keep quiet. Only difference is I’ll probably walk away straight afterwards…

[Phoenix-gb]

Definitely a listener, I try and include myself where I can make a contribution, but generally just stay quiet and listen to what the other people have to say. (I'm a bit more active in a one on one conversation obviously)

[laurieluvsit]

I like to listen to others but once I get started I have a hard time shutting up... lol

https://www.youtube.com/embed/_fHxFS9PiYM

[2Wheels]

I always listen for sure. You don't learn anything if you're too busy talking about what you already know.

[yesthisisNicholas]

I talk a lot. I'm not sure if I ever want a wife who talks like me a lot, talks more than me, or just listens. Lol. , I must have an ego ,😜😐😐

[pearlypink22]

I’m definitely more of a listener and observer rather than a talker. I’ll speak if necessary, however I prefer soaking up details.

[DarkCarousel]

I like to listen. Sometimes I have lots to say and I appreciate those willing to listen.

[GMANN56]

I am a really good listener. I love to get people talking about themselves if I am interested in them. But given the need I can talk about myself with the best of them. And on occasion a good public speaker. No fear at all.

[DizzyDesii]

I like to talk and have others listen and then provide feedback

[SmokyOne]

I prefer to listen rather than talk about myself.
I can talk a lot about subjects that I'm interested in but not so much about me

[weysally]

I'm about 50% each way, I like to be heard and I like to hear what others have to say

[Juxtapose]

I'm a fantastic listener and much prefer it but I can carry a conversation if I have enough creative juices flowing that day. If I am all tired and worn out than I have to really force it.

[AndrésC64]

I definitely I am a listener. I'm an introvert and I don't like the attention and I only like talkin if I have something worthwhile to say. I can't stand idle chitchat

[LC123]

Listen is my thing. I find it hard to add my opinions to conversations because I think they made just judge me for it. It’s easier to do it online.

[Alyssa_11]

The older I get, the more I prefer to keep quiet lol.

[chulo1992]

I'm not the type that likes to hear myself talk. I rather listen and give my feedback if it is needed

[Jamie05rhs]

I'm a listener. I honestly don't have a whole lot to say. I'm more of a stoic.