Why is have kids seen as a blessing and being infertile as a trauma or curse?

[SeleneSecret]

Everyone congratulates you when you're going to be a mother or father for the first, have another child or have a large family. It's a blessing alright.

Yet if you're infertile, it's a trauma or you feel cursed. You might not be able to conceive your own offsprings but there is so much more in life than just having kids. So much you can focus on yourself. You can even accomplish more in life and have more time vs if you have a kid. Besides maybe you have other abilities and skills you can contribute to society.

[bededazzle]

you could also adopt, which is pretty rad because you are saving someone already on the planet

[SeleneSecret]

Exactly. People openly talk about having a large family of 3+ kids but if they're infertile, they keep that a secret from others, even from their own friends or relatives, as if it was some dirty secret, something to be ashamed of.

[bededazzle]

well, I don't know if this is something you experience personally, but don't take it to heart. having kids seems nice, but so is just being kind to people around you and that sort of thing. why? well, procreation is hardwired into us as being quite important, though in today's world it is not so much needed by all.

[SeleneSecret]

yeah the world is already overpopulated. Too many parents are reproducing entitled brats and bullies and then they cover up for their BS.

[bededazzle]

lol hahaha

[LazerBean]

Because having a properly functioning body is a blessing and having a body that malfunctions is not.