I've been living in my homecountry for years now but I was raised in the USA long ago. I'm very disappointed with my folks that are always tardy on meetings, sugarcoat things or say what they want in an more discreet, indirect manner.
I tend to arrive either on time or 10-15 minutes earlier, will tell you straight forward if I'm not going to make it or call in advance if I'm coming late. If I have to disagree with you I'm not sugarcoating things and will ask ''What's the catch?'' if someone is trying to BS with either love messages or offers that's too good to be true. If I'm not interested, I'll say it directly so they don't have to keep insisting.
I've been told that I sound more americanized than hispanic with that direct, always punctual approach. Is that too harsh? I don't like getting BS nor people that always come late.
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Girl, I feel you on that cause I'm kinda the same way - I like to just be direct and upfront with people. And honestly, I think that's totally fine! Those indirect, beat-around-the-bush kind of people can be so annoying sometimes.
Being on time and straightforward is really not a bad thing at all. I'd rather know exactly where I stand with someone than have to try and read between the lines all the time, ya know? I don't think being direct means you're harsh or rude or anything.
It sounds like maybe you just have a more American/blunt style compared to some of your fam who are used to more beating around the bush. But both ways can work - it's just personal preference!
I wouldn't stress too much about what they say. As long as you're respectful when you're upfront with people, I don't see an issue. Better than wasting time waiting around for people who are always late! Keep doing you, girl.
I have same issue
I always come in time or earlier but there isn't much to do about it
for most being direct is being rude n it causes unnecessary drama so I just ignore it n keep peace of my mind
True but I what would be more offending, being direct but at least the person is honest or someone being polite by sugarcoating things but you know very well they're lying and BSing you, even wasting your time?
its waste of time but unfortunately thats how certain societies r
Indeed. Men think Latin culture is all that great but really it isn't. Most people are always late on social gatherings or they won't even inform you if they're not coming (they just ghost on you) and then talk to you as if nothing ever happened. Or if someone is dating you but that's not your type, instead of saying ''I'm not interested, this isn't going anywhere'', they will waste your time, sugarcoat it and date others behind your back. Nope, we're not all that great as many think.
this really sucks
makes me feel better about my home country where people actually brutally direct
yeah it would be great if more people were like that, straight to the point.