I realised that I’m loser?

Question

I just realised that I’m loser and jealous of everyone and think that everything is unfair. I constantly complain and place myself in victim position and get offended by little things. I overthink everything and can’t communicate with anybody properly. I currently don’t know what to do and live with parents. I’m just existing like plant. And of course nobody ever liked me, while people younger than creating families. Did you experienced such thing?

MrOracle · Accepted Answer

Leftist politics teaches everyone that they are a victim and are being oppressed by other people and that their failures are to be expected and are someone else's fault - and getting people to believe that is how the left controls them. Keeping them miserable also means they maintain their control.

It sounds like you're starting to realize this, but it takes time to change your thinking and escape the victimhood cult. You're going to have a hard time accepting the truth at first, because it goes against all of your previous programming, but here it is: the world is a tough place, and it always has been and always will be. Chances are, no one is specifically out to get you, and no one is oppressing you - most of your failures are going to be the results of your own decisions and the consequences they come with. HOWEVER, mistakes CAN be the best learning tools and teach the best lessons IF you take personal responsibility for those decisions and their consequences, figure out where you went wrong, and make better decisions the next time - EVEN if those better decisions make you uncomfortable (and in the beginning, they definitely will!).

There's not a successful person alive who hasn't made plenty of mistakes - sometimes VERY COSTLY mistakes. The reason they are successful isn't because they had it easy, it's because they didn't let their mistakes derail them, and they didn't try to blame others for their mistakes - they OWNED their mistakes and LEARNED from them.

Do yourself a huge favor, and start distancing yourself from people who have a victim mentality, and instead seek out people who are much more likely to tell you the truth, even if it's not what you want to hear. It won't be "comfortable" at first, but you will quickly come to appreciate the truth, because even when the truth is "bad", you can figure out a plan or a solution to deal with it and make things better. Your "victim" friends have no real solutions to everything - they just make themselves more miserable every day, kind of like you've been doing for years.

It's hard to change your thinking, and to change the people in your life, but the people in your life are negative, and can't help you, while the other ones are positive, and WANT to help you. Give it a try. The miserable victims aren't going anywhere, so if it doesn't work out, you can always go back to them - but once you escape their "gravity", you'll never want to go back.

Anonymous · Accepted Answer

You have become humble. Now it is time to make something of yourself. Find a job any job and start working up.

Treat the people around you with humility and don't take offence. Trust me you will slowly start rebuilding your life and friendships. There are people out there for you just have to accept them for what they are and they you.

Breanna_nonbinary · Accepted Answer

Ben Franklin once said, “the person that think they can and the person that thinks they can’t are both right”. It means you are what you think you are. It means that you are the master of your own destiny. Sometimes things can be dire. I know from personal experience. But there are enough forces out there to hurt you without you doing it to yourself.