How to effectively communicate?

[Justneedtokno]

I leave space and time for me to gather my thoughts and opinion before speaking I don’t want to say the wrong things. Although here lately that’s been taking asks not being accountable and avoidant. Not actually calling

Is there a better way to speed up the process without.

[ProbablyClueless]

Something I've found EXTREMELY HELPFUL is to make sure I can repeat the other person's argument/position back to them before I respond.

This does a few things:

• It allows them to clarify exactly what they're thinking.
• It allows me to make sure I can empathize with their position. (or at least go a long way to trying my best to do so)
• It generally deescalates whatever tension might be present in the interaction.
• It gives me time to clarify my own thinking.
• It allows me to recognize when I either shouldn't respond or when doing so simply wouldn't be productive.

Most disagreements come down to someone feeling like the other person isn't actually hearing them. And, in those people's defense; they usually aren't actually being heard.

[Maybe_Maybe_not]

It takes two.It takes two to believe in the same overall type of communication, believing or appreciating the same ways to handle communication. If there are no similar notions shared in communication type, then it creates cascading misunderstandings, the visible ones and the ones behind the lines, untold and weighing.

Saying the "wrong things" in the sense of not phrasing them accordingly to what you think is not a problem, it is only a problem when there are stakes perceived. It also takes two, to allow stakes to happen or get rid of them.

[MicahRaine]

• Avoid using "attack" words
• Identify the issue
• Explain why it's an issue
• Explain any part you could have in the issue
• Suggest a solution
• Explain how you can contribute to the solution
• Listen to the response without interrupting

[Nikki1989]

With words from your mouth, not text on a screen.

[Grond21]

You need to lean into your own personality and work with the way you naturally process things. You might be a melancholic, which is not someone who is sad, but it's a particular personality type. And for them they process things slowly

[NathanDavis]

find a middle point...

[Justneedtokno]

That seem hard when they are deliberately having minimal conversation

[NathanDavis]

find someone better (=

[Dongie]

How's that working for you?