DO NOT HIT HER. You need to let her know where she stands that you do not like it and if she continues get mad over it and keep her at a distance for about a week it may be hard but its worth it . If she shows interest during that week and proves that she is genuinely sorry then you start back as a normal couple again. Yet let her know if she does it again you are gone for good. you do not deserve this, no party should hit another. It is girls like this that gives us black girls a bad name
I in some since agree with "acka72 " but breaking up would mean your giving up without cause, simply show her who is boss by a little tough love! Do not directly hit her but shove her maybe, or even during intimacy go harder than usual and don't stop if she begs,^_^
Don't do this, u don't become the very thing you hate, you change. Its cringe to do "tough love", even if its something that you would like, you can very easily turn this around to the male, females aren't powerless, and society sides with females more than males now, so I don't think what you are suggesting will be that valid.
No it isn't normal, the next time she starts hitting you just walk away, if you have a friend that can put you up for a while who she doesn't know go straight to them, walking away doesn't mean that you've failed it is one of the strongest things you can do and it will drive her crazy into the bargain, women do not like being walked away from and from the sound of it she is a manipulator and a narcissist.
It doesn't matter how much you love you have to get away from her ASAP, and by that I mean get away from her completely, If I were you I'd change my phone number and block her on any social media you are on.
Live your life to the best, and if she tries to get back with you just grey rock her, If you do not know what it is see this site; https://www.healthline.com/health/grey-rock .
Honestly there is no right answer here, all these females giving you bad advice though, don't hit back and don't try to restrain her, if she calls the cops and shows the defensive bruises/markings from where you were restraining her and her trying to fight back, you'll be in trouble, legally and on the opposite side if you don't do anything it'll just get worse because she's seeing that she can do this to you. Your only real option is to set boundaries and if she continues to cross them, issue an ultimatum, I get that you don't want to break up with her but in the end it might end up being your only option.
I was always the first to tell men how wrong it is to hit women but having left a somewhat similar relationship where I got abused and confined by force to the apartment I realized violence is the only way out. No police will ever take you seriously if you report her but you should do it anyways so there's at least documentation of your attempts of a non-violent solution.
It should be said that I managed to leave by threats alone. I never actually had to resort to violence but in retrospect I am a bit sorry I didn't.
You'll be fine. Whatever reasons she has (unless you use violence) doesn't justify her abuseing you. Stand up for yourself.
She shouldn't hit you and you shouldn't hit her back or threaten her. She has no right to slap you even if you cheated on her, let alone after little arguments! If she loved you, then she'd respect you and not hit you. She's physically abusing you which is illegal. You need to tell her how you feel and if she doesn't stop then you should leave her. You can do better.
when she's calm, have a serious talk with her. tell her the next time she does it you'll leave her. if she does it again then break up with her.
gender doesn't matter. just because men are often physically stronger doesn't mean that its okay for a girl to hit a guy, anymore than its okay for a guy to hit a girl. violence is what people use to try and control others and that ain't love.
Well the only thing I can tell you is put your serious face on and sit her down and talk to her,tell her to stop hitting you because you don't like it and if it happens again even once you guys are done...she gonna get scared and stop.but don't ever put your hands on woman no matter the case,I know we can be a handful but it makes you less of a man.GOOD LUCK
It makes him less the a man you fucking sexist what does she hiting him what about she idiot sexist dont tell him it makes him less than man before tell that she ics a bitch in the first place fore hiting him sure he needs not to hit back but you are NOBODY to judge anyone
Dont ever put the hands on a man fucking disgusting person why do you only talk for him why dont you say nobody should hit nobody you are apoor exuse to be a woman you are a sexist idiot if a real man dont hit woman a real woman dont hit man got it fucking idiot
She is not a woman she is a idiot and you to are not a woman and if a woman hits a man she is not a woman im so pissed im happy that abortion exist because of you idiots you are talking only about him but dont say anything about her idiot if it makes him less than ma it makes her less than woman educate yourself DONT PUT HANDS on anyone
@Bosi12 i'll tell you what. You're quick to judge on someone. Telling someone hitting their girlfriend is making him less of a man is sexist? You also replied way, WAY more times than necessary. She's saying that he needs to talk with his girlfriend and tell her to stop hitting him. How is that sexist? Honestly, I don't think you're 25. Rather, younger than me. You're acting childish. Please read more carefully next time in opinions so that this doesn't happen again.
No, in my experience, this is not normal. I have never hit any of my boyfriends or now, husband.
I did have a boyfriend hit me once. It was unprovoked, we weren't even arguing. He had been drinking heavily and it literally came out of nowhere. That was it for me - I didn't hit back, I was just done. Over and out.
I'd tell her that hitting me is not about to be tolerated the next time its the streets. Set your boundaries or she will keep abusing them. Women push buttons till ya break. And then they use that to call you a weak man. Step up or get laid out in the current dating market. there's a reason I'm not chasing or with any girls atm. I don't need that energy in my life.
You should get away from her if she is hitting you. The law will likely side with her if you hit her back, although, I say she deserves it. The whole "you shouldn't hit women" thing is complete bullshit, you just shouldn't hit them full force or without prior provocation, and probably not in public. As grandpa always said, "you have to be real tough to hit a woman in public because you have to beat up the other five guys who come to her rescue, too."
I’d say that when she’s hits you get up and move to a friends for a week. Text her that day before she texts you “I love you. And I will talk to you again in a week. Hitting me is unacceptable.” Then ignore her for a week and then come back and sit down talk to her about getting help and if she does it again same producal again.
Just because you're a man and she's a woman doesn't make hitting you acceptable. Hitting her back is absolutely unacceptable. That's not how you solve relationship issues. Explain to her how you feel. If she loves you, she'll respect you enough to stop. If she refuses to stop, then I think you should find someone more considerate of you.
no, it's not normal, tell her to stop. tell her you don't like it. if she continues to hit you, ask her to sit down with you and talk to her seriously about it. and also, don't hit her. it's straight up wrong, and yes it is also wrong for her to hit you, but NEVER hit her. hope this helps :)
Does she hit you when she’s angry or when she’s laughing or excited? If it’s out of anger then put your guard up. If you truly want to stick to not hitting her, voice your concern and don’t be afraid to catch her hands to stop the blow. Personally, I’ll hit whenever I’m laughing but when angry I avoid physical stuff. Talk to her first to see how she responds
YES, you should. And frankly, you should get the hell out of that relationship, even if it means perhaps losing your visa and going back to Brazil. When the Left lies and creates fables about "toxic masculinity", they are really trying to conceal Toxic Femininty.
no don't do that ,don't even think about it ,I'd never forgive my boyfriend if he did that even if I forgave him I'd never forget that he hit me ,I don't know about her but most girls are sensitive and something like that would really affect your girlfriend if she was sensitive
So you are saying that if you hit your boyfriend and he hits back you won't forgive him he may be in the wrong for hiting you back but you can't say you will not forgive him because yuo hit him too if you hit him and he hits back you are both guilty and should talk about it you can't just say that you would not forgive him because YOU DID THE SAME THING THAT HE DID
How can she be a great girl when she has no respect for you ? You should leave her but I think the one way you could scare her if you don't wanna hit her is you can threaten her that you'd leave her and that you want her to be respectful and stop acting like that, if she loves you she'll listen because if she hits you now expect yourself dead like 2 more years from now. and if she didn't listen then maybe you should look for someone else who deserves you.
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As much as men don't like to admit it, it sounds like you are in an abusive relationship. Also, violence is never the solution. Hitting her will solve nothing, and if anything it'll only shine a bad light on you, considering how our society views violence against women. You two need to work on your communication skills and talk things through.
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You need to take it beyond the threat to hit back. And sit her down, let her know how you feel. Say, listen this hitting thing has got to stop otherwise I don't think we can work. That's disrespectful and I merit your respect in this relationship as much as you deserve mine.
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DO NOT HIT HER. You need to let her know where she stands that you do not like it and if she continues get mad over it and keep her at a distance for about a week it may be hard but its worth it . If she shows interest during that week and proves that she is genuinely sorry then you start back as a normal couple again. Yet let her know if she does it again you are gone for good. you do not deserve this, no party should hit another. It is girls like this that gives us black girls a bad name
I in some since agree with "acka72 " but breaking up would mean your giving up without cause, simply show her who is boss by a little tough love! Do not directly hit her but shove her maybe, or even during intimacy go harder than usual and don't stop if she begs,^_^
Don't do this, u don't become the very thing you hate, you change. Its cringe to do "tough love", even if its something that you would like, you can very easily turn this around to the male, females aren't powerless, and society sides with females more than males now, so I don't think what you are suggesting will be that valid.
No it isn't normal, the next time she starts hitting you just walk away, if you have a friend that can put you up for a while who she doesn't know go straight to them, walking away doesn't mean that you've failed it is one of the strongest things you can do and it will drive her crazy into the bargain, women do not like being walked away from and from the sound of it she is a manipulator and a narcissist.
It doesn't matter how much you love you have to get away from her ASAP, and by that I mean get away from her completely, If I were you I'd change my phone number and block her on any social media you are on.
Live your life to the best, and if she tries to get back with you just grey rock her, If you do not know what it is see this site; https://www.healthline.com/health/grey-rock .
Honestly there is no right answer here, all these females giving you bad advice though, don't hit back and don't try to restrain her, if she calls the cops and shows the defensive bruises/markings from where you were restraining her and her trying to fight back, you'll be in trouble, legally and on the opposite side if you don't do anything it'll just get worse because she's seeing that she can do this to you. Your only real option is to set boundaries and if she continues to cross them, issue an ultimatum, I get that you don't want to break up with her but in the end it might end up being your only option.
I would hit her.
I was always the first to tell men how wrong it is to hit women but having left a somewhat similar relationship where I got abused and confined by force to the apartment I realized violence is the only way out. No police will ever take you seriously if you report her but you should do it anyways so there's at least documentation of your attempts of a non-violent solution.
It should be said that I managed to leave by threats alone. I never actually had to resort to violence but in retrospect I am a bit sorry I didn't.
You'll be fine. Whatever reasons she has (unless you use violence) doesn't justify her abuseing you. Stand up for yourself.
She shouldn't hit you and you shouldn't hit her back or threaten her. She has no right to slap you even if you cheated on her, let alone after little arguments! If she loved you, then she'd respect you and not hit you. She's physically abusing you which is illegal. You need to tell her how you feel and if she doesn't stop then you should leave her. You can do better.
when she's calm, have a serious talk with her. tell her the next time she does it you'll leave her. if she does it again then break up with her.
gender doesn't matter. just because men are often physically stronger doesn't mean that its okay for a girl to hit a guy, anymore than its okay for a guy to hit a girl. violence is what people use to try and control others and that ain't love.
Well the only thing I can tell you is put your serious face on and sit her down and talk to her,tell her to stop hitting you because you don't like it and if it happens again even once you guys are done...she gonna get scared and stop.but don't ever put your hands on woman no matter the case,I know we can be a handful but it makes you less of a man.GOOD LUCK
It makes him less the a man you fucking sexist what does she hiting him what about she idiot sexist dont tell him it makes him less than man before tell that she ics a bitch in the first place fore hiting him sure he needs not to hit back but you are NOBODY to judge anyone
Dont ever put the hands on a man fucking disgusting person why do you only talk for him why dont you say nobody should hit nobody you are apoor exuse to be a woman you are a sexist idiot if a real man dont hit woman a real woman dont hit man got it fucking idiot
She is not a woman she is a idiot and you to are not a woman and if a woman hits a man she is not a woman im so pissed im happy that abortion exist because of you idiots you are talking only about him but dont say anything about her idiot if it makes him less than ma it makes her less than woman educate yourself DONT PUT HANDS on anyone
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@Bosi12 i'll tell you what. You're quick to judge on someone. Telling someone hitting their girlfriend is making him less of a man is sexist? You also replied way, WAY more times than necessary. She's saying that he needs to talk with his girlfriend and tell her to stop hitting him. How is that sexist? Honestly, I don't think you're 25. Rather, younger than me. You're acting childish. Please read more carefully next time in opinions so that this doesn't happen again.
No, in my experience, this is not normal. I have never hit any of my boyfriends or now, husband.
I did have a boyfriend hit me once. It was unprovoked, we weren't even arguing. He had been drinking heavily and it literally came out of nowhere. That was it for me - I didn't hit back, I was just done. Over and out.
I'd tell her that hitting me is not about to be tolerated the next time its the streets. Set your boundaries or she will keep abusing them. Women push buttons till ya break. And then they use that to call you a weak man. Step up or get laid out in the current dating market. there's a reason I'm not chasing or with any girls atm. I don't need that energy in my life.
You should get away from her if she is hitting you. The law will likely side with her if you hit her back, although, I say she deserves it. The whole "you shouldn't hit women" thing is complete bullshit, you just shouldn't hit them full force or without prior provocation, and probably not in public. As grandpa always said, "you have to be real tough to hit a woman in public because you have to beat up the other five guys who come to her rescue, too."
I’d say that when she’s hits you get up and move to a friends for a week. Text her that day before she texts you “I love you. And I will talk to you again in a week. Hitting me is unacceptable.” Then ignore her for a week and then come back and sit down talk to her about getting help and if she does it again same producal again.
Just because you're a man and she's a woman doesn't make hitting you acceptable. Hitting her back is absolutely unacceptable. That's not how you solve relationship issues. Explain to her how you feel. If she loves you, she'll respect you enough to stop. If she refuses to stop, then I think you should find someone more considerate of you.
no, it's not normal, tell her to stop. tell her you don't like it. if she continues to hit you, ask her to sit down with you and talk to her seriously about it. and also, don't hit her. it's straight up wrong, and yes it is also wrong for her to hit you, but NEVER hit her. hope this helps :)
Does she hit you when she’s angry or when she’s laughing or excited? If it’s out of anger then put your guard up. If you truly want to stick to not hitting her, voice your concern and don’t be afraid to catch her hands to stop the blow. Personally, I’ll hit whenever I’m laughing but when angry I avoid physical stuff. Talk to her first to see how she responds
YES, you should. And frankly, you should get the hell out of that relationship, even if it means perhaps losing your visa and going back to Brazil. When the Left lies and creates fables about "toxic masculinity", they are really trying to conceal Toxic Femininty.
hit her back!
no don't do that ,don't even think about it ,I'd never forgive my boyfriend if he did that even if I forgave him I'd never forget that he hit me ,I don't know about her but most girls are sensitive and something like that would really affect your girlfriend if she was sensitive
I think you should talk to her
So you are saying that if you hit your boyfriend and he hits back you won't forgive him he may be in the wrong for hiting you back but you can't say you will not forgive him because yuo hit him too if you hit him and he hits back you are both guilty and should talk about it you can't just say that you would not forgive him because YOU DID THE SAME THING THAT HE DID
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How can she be a great girl when she has no respect for you ? You should leave her but I think the one way you could scare her if you don't wanna hit her is you can threaten her that you'd leave her and that you want her to be respectful and stop acting like that, if she loves you she'll listen because if she hits you now expect yourself dead like 2 more years from now. and if she didn't listen then maybe you should look for someone else who deserves you.
As much as men don't like to admit it, it sounds like you are in an abusive relationship. Also, violence is never the solution. Hitting her will solve nothing, and if anything it'll only shine a bad light on you, considering how our society views violence against women. You two need to work on your communication skills and talk things through.
You need to take it beyond the threat to hit back. And sit her down, let her know how you feel. Say, listen this hitting thing has got to stop otherwise I don't think we can work. That's disrespectful and I merit your respect in this relationship as much as you deserve mine.