Naked pictures on my husband's phone...Does this mean my husband would cheat on me?

[Anonymous]

Me and my husband has had a few ups and downs in our marriage but always seemed to get passed them all some how. Now I was browsing through his phone today and seen where he had been looking at other woman naked. I thought I was enough, I mean our sex life is great I just don't understand why?help me what does this mean.? Does it mean he's tired of me? 4 years together 2I years married ...

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Thanx everyone, very helpful. The pics that was on his phone was not from other girls he knows its just a p*rn site. He told me his buddy at work was doing it on his phone so I guess ill never know anyways is it normal for a guy to blame a buddy if he hot caught up in something?

[Gone_But_Not_Lost]

Is it just random porn, or were these nudes sent by other women? Because it does make a difference.

If these were just porn pics then it just means he's looking at other girls he'll never know. It's not anything against you, necessarily, It's not saying you're not good enough. It's not saying he's tired of you. (Although if he is tired of you, that could be a completely separate issue, entirely.) Porn is just porn. It's a visual medium that people (Guys and girls alike - although it does seem sometimes it's more guys than anything else.) use as an escape, or to look at, or pass the time. Sometimes it's just a visual aide to help get off, or keep the motors running. But it doesn't need to be taken as a slight against you. You might be hurt by the very notion, but there is a chance it has nothing to do with you.

On the other hand, if it's not just porn, and these are nudes sent by girls he knows, or girls online, then that's a different story. Something is clearly wrong here. It does raise a question of whether or not something is going on with these girls.

So, that's how I see it.

If it's just porn, then let it go.

If these are nudes sent by girls he knows, talk to him about it, now.

So yes, if these are from girls he knows or talks to, I would suggest confronting him, but try not to be too in his face. Give him a chance to speak, but think hard about what he says, because you want to be sure he's not going to feed you a line, but you also should be fair here. But really, if things are that bad, I wouldn't at all blame you if you left him. After all, things HAVE been falling apart, and he IS getting nudes from other women and CLEARLY you don't trust him, otherwise you wouldn't have gone through his phone in the first place, and you wouldn't be asking if he's cheating. Maybe you should consider leaving him. Alternatively, perhaps you should seek counseling.

Think about it.

[Gone_But_Not_Lost]

I imagine if he's incredibly embarrassed he might blame it on a friend. Otherwise I assume a guy might own up to it on some level. Still, again, I don't think this really means anything. If it's just from a site, and assuming it's his, then take it as nothing more than a visual aide, and try not to take it personally.

[imjustadude]

Does he ever watch Top Gear/car shows and then stop making car payments on your car? If so, then he may be the kind of guy that would cheat on you after seeing a picture of a naked woman.

I wouldn't worry about it. He was probably looking at pictures long before he met you. Unless you are having sex with him everyday, he may stray into naughty picture land. It doesn't mean it is right, it just happens. Nobody is perfect.

Just make sure you let him know he is great at sex. If he watches a lot of p*rn he will probably wonder why his equipment is small and why he can't go thrusting for 20 minutes hanging upside down from a closet rod while holding you with one hand.

[AngieeBanjii]

No it just means he was curious is all .. I had look at my boyfriends YouTube history and he had been looking at some lesbians kissing online? Lol I thought it was funny.. It's not real, he's just having alook at what's happening out in the world he was curious he wasn't out trying to get a threesome going in real life :P it was on a screen in our lounge.. I started calling him mista lesbian :P hehe he blushed and laughed no biggy :)

[Anonymous]

Me and my boyfriend aren't even married, but we have an understanding about p*rn in our relationship. We don't mind if the other person watches a little but here and there, as long as we tell the other person we did it and aren't shady or defensive about it.

I'm sure he still loves you, just tell him how you feel

[Account]

It depends? Were those pictures from a p*rn site? If yes, then It probably means nothing. Most guys crave variety. There are exceptions of course, but men who use only one woman to get off are extremely rare.

[Account]

I believe he might be lying but you could never be sure.

[NicholasHalden]

It does not mean he would cheat on you. It is normal for men to look at other women who are also attractive. Typically women do the same when it comes to actors because they have the pictures of the half nude actor in their phones as wallpapers or camera roll.

[confugirl]

It's just his p*rnography. Him looking at p*rn does not mean he's cheating on you. Just as you swoon over hot actors, he prefers to look at hot women. Pornography and sex with you are entirely different experiences. To claim he would cheat on you just because he watches p*rnography, is nonsensical.

[Anonymous]

No it doesn't mean he would cheat.

But try to understand, one woman will never be enough for a man.

The only thing you can hope is that the "other women" are purely imaginary like p*rn stars. Not women he actually knows or talks to, or could have an affair with.

[Anonymous]

It is not normal to use a buddy's phone to visit a p*rn site. In fact, I can not imagine anybody doing that! But it is normal to blame someone else when you get caught at something. So my guess is that he is lying. And if he is lying about that (which is most likely) he may be lying about them coming from a p*rn site.

How is it that you have been together for 4 years and married for 21 years? Especially at your age.

[Anonymous1023]

I think the bigger question is why you're going through his phone in the first place. I get marriage and being partners for life but I can't help but think that level of openness would never leave room for miscommunication like this.

[Sadawndra20]

I don’t think that’s the bigger question here. If you get marriages and all then you should know common sense its not really about being open and communicating and honest all of the time.. because of this one big fact when you live together for 10 years and married you can LITERALLY FEEL IT.. you can tell something is wrong their pulling away from you for some reason nothing feels together something’s up & then you ask your partner what’s wrong? Usually they will say “nothing babe” or “just a long day” and you know there’s more to it but they don’t wanna open up and be honest and it’s funny how you can go through your partner’s phone and you’ll see naked girls from porn sites and talking to there other friends/family and etc about what’s really going on things that they would never say to you it’s not about trust oh I don’t trust him so I looked in his phone it’s he’s pulling away and doesn’t have enough courage to say what it is lack of communication and emotionally vulnerable led to not trusting your partner

[abitnaive]

His buddy was using his phone to look at p*rn? LOLOLOLOL! Biggest lie ever! His buddy can use his own phone for that.

[Stark]

Atleast it's just p*rn and he's not doing anything about it. It's pretty natural to want variation.

[blackkid4]

Other women as in p*rn or other women as in Ashley Madison?

[blackkid4]

Nevermind, the answer is "Yes".

[MrAtticusLebowski]

UPDATE: If he feels embarrassed or that you'll think less of him. Yeah, I can see that.

[aMuse]

Maybe one of his guy friends sent them to him bragging about a conquest? That does happen...

[aMuse]

It's not abnormal for our guy freinds to do things that can get us in trouble. lol I don't know about browsing an internet p*rn site on your phone, but if it was just p*rn, what's the problem?

[Anonymous]

Curious at what kind of understanding you two have about p*rn? Seems this is something that should come up before getting married.

[femzee]

It depends if the picture was from a p*rn actress or a real person.

[Anonymous]

If it wasn't sent to him by someone, then don't worry. He is just a normal guy and was probably bored and horny at one point, so looked up some naked girls because you weren't around. On the other hand, if someone sent them to him, BE VERY WORRIED!

[ArabianPwincess197]

Don't be worried and be worried

[Hamburgers]

99% of guys masturbate to women other than their own.

So, not necessarily .

[Hamburgers]

Lmao "my buddy was doing it on my phone." That is most definitely a lie, lmao. But nonetheless, it was internet p*rn and he shouldn't be afraid to be honest it was his intent, and I don't think it's foul play either.

[Anonymous]

Random p*rn is normal. My boyfriend told me that some guys look at p*rn to get ideas and to research sex lol

[Anonymous]

Are they women he's trying to hook up with? If so, confront him and break up with him.

[SaltandVinegar]

no it doesn't mean anything

[valgavv]

If its just p*rn you have nothing to worry about

[Manindark]

no no no don't think that, he loves you still

[Anonymous]

Same boat!

Ill never understand this.:(

[cheesesteak7]

men just like looking at visually stimulating things, at any time any place. Gotta have some backup p*rn somewhere!