Mistakes girls make in a Relationship

[Anonymous]

We have all had those moments after a break up where we sit and wonder why.

Did I make the mistake?

Is there something wrong with me?

Does he like someone else?

Girls , we all know how to shift the blame , and yes our partners are at fault many times too, but what about us? It takes two to tango.

1. Ladies , stop dumbing yourself down to get his attention. At first it will be cute, but eventually he will get tired of it. It has been proven that 90% of men find smart women very attractive. Besides for Love and sex, eventually the passion will dry up and you will need something to replace those silent moments. He will appreciate you knowing whats going on in the world.


2. Stop nagging him when he hasn't replied in a while!!! Ladies remember he does not live on his phone. If he takes slightly longer to reply , give him a chance. Do not go all crazy and message him, break up with him three times and call him nineteen times. this will project that you do not trust him or that you have drama. You are afterall, his girlfriend and not his mother.


3. Except that there will be prettier girls than you.Just because he is dating you does not mean he is blind. The fact that you hassle him about it (Do you think she is prettier than I am?) will show your insecurities. Ladies , the guy you are dating chose you. There is something special about you. If he wanted to be with that pretty girl at the gym , he would have.


4. Stop making him feel like he doesn't deserve you.This is something I have heard of many times. Girls saying that "My man will never find someone like me". A relationship should build you up, not break you down. Remember that every one can be replaced. So let your man know he is something special.


5. If you are upset with him,tell him. This is one of the biggest mistakes us women make in relationships. The silent treatment. We hear of something he did, and instead of calling him over to have a civilised talk about it, we freak out, send angry texts and then give him the silent treatment. Your man will eventually grow tired of this game , as he knows a mature woman would have spoken to him about it and not thrown a temper tantrum. Stop making him beg , be a grown up and face the problem. I have a rule with my current partner about this. We never go to bed angry. We talk it out like adults, compromise and get it behind us.

[missy223]

Lol honestly all the guys I date seem to have the problems you stated above. Guys expect girls to be all emotional and when girls are the complete opposite they freak out. All girls are different... some of us could care less about texting and you checking out other girls because hey we do it too. We check out hot guys when you're not looking, we flirt with hot guys when you're not around too so girls who freak out over those things are being hypocritical.

As for the silent treatment i've had way more guys who I have dated do that to me than I have to them. Some guys think you will chase after them or something when in reality it's like okay you want to be immature and not talk to me about it then I am not going to keep asking you and texting you I'll move on.

[myTake Owner]

Hey Missy :) then you are an exception. I myself have dated a guy that acted like I stated above. It is truly a deal breaker because you dont want drama. The article was written whilst keeping the general girl population in mind. heads up to you girl for not being part of the status quote. :)

[youngandhappy]

I like that you admit that ^ flirting with guys and what not , honestly I don't think anythings wrong with that but I feel like so many girls pretend like that's not going on.. stereotypical it's always the man that's having his head turned and looking at cute girls. It honestly goes both ways and people fail to see that these days.

[Anonymous]

Getting together with a guy you know that has a flaw and thinking you can change him. The problem with guys in relationships is that they don't change. The problem with women in relationships is that they do change...

[Anonymous]

I had an ex boyfriend from hell and even after breaking up, it's been hell. He refuses to let me off. He calls me from 5 different numbers, leaves nasty voicemails and texts. I always told him how I felt from the bottom of my heart while trying to keep my cool. I never believed in the silent treatment. Where did it get me? NOWHERE. I tried to accept that there were girls who were prettier than me and tried to never get jealous and where did it get me? NOWHERE. To him, I never got 'jealous' enough and it was a problem. I tried, I really did, but I realized that it was too one sided. Make a guy's version please😁.

[PonyCar]

1. Stop being fake/trying to be someone you're not
2. Understand that he has a life outside you and be okay with that.
3. Develop some self-esteem (& use it)
4. Check your ego & chuck your elitist tendencies
5. Don't lie about how you feel

I am 100% on-board with all of these.

[Stacyzee]

This should be titled , "Mistakes insecure girls make in relationships ". I've never done any of these at any point in my life. If I did it would scream low self esteem, insecurity , and lack of self approval.

Someone that is confident in themselves does not come off that way.

[JessTheMess]

I feel like these are things that younger girls do.. but I could be wrong. You get older and get responsibilities you stop texting your boyfriend 24/7, stop caring what others think of you, and stop being a baby and tell others how you feel. It's a part of growing up.

[CumminsTomic]

My ex did this and she was 23 at the time. Some people just don't grow up.

[iamyourneighbor]

I think she and maturity have no correlation. I have seen more mature and respectful men in the 16-25 age category on this website. The 26-50 age group seem immature and rude and bitter on this website, probably because they had bad experiences and can't get a woman to like them

[iamyourneighbor]

*age

[pavlove]

#5 is especially bad when as a seasoned dater you can tell when a girl is upset but not being upfront about it and so you call them on it and encourage them to be direct and that you will be receptive and they still insist on being upset but saying nothing is wrong.

[Anonymous]

Both genders are guilty of doing this not just girls. Believe it or not men can be clingy too. When I met clingy guys I had to pinch myself to make sure I was awake but yes they do exist

[sailorjupiter]

yeah I agree, I had one too

[heywhisper]

I know a lot of my female friends who make those mistakes. I'm lucky and smart enough to know my boyfriend isn't blind to other women but I know he wants me. I also never nag him or blow up his phone. He has a life and is busy.

[hsshannah96]

I tell guys when I’m upset, I don’t act dumb ever, the one about “she’s prettier” I do but no Therapy is working right now, I never make him feel he doesn’t deserve me and in fact I usually do the opposite

please don’t generalize

[Roostah]

6. Don't behind his back then don't tell him about it. He'll find out one way or another,

[LuckyLittleLucy]

*Accept
However, your points are fairly okay, but a lot of women don't do those things anyway :/

[VincentValentine]

Haha, yeah that kind of bugged me too :D

[Prilee1992]

Everyone hates immature, insecure people. Even when you feel it, try to do other activities to dismiss the feeling

[Tissivest]

I can relate with the silent treatment, I tend to be childish and pout. Hopefully my boyfriend still has the patience until I fix this problem

[jormungand]

recognizing there is a problem is the first step to solving it (y)

[Tissivest]

True that
Next step: solving it

[GirlsLie]

I don't understand why or how women who are out of the teenage age range do any of those things lol. Nice take though.

[janaina]

Immaturity and desperation has no age

[GirlsLie]

That's very true, I think my opinion was more wishful thinking than a fact lol

[Jager66]

Good take well done, very reasonable, not blowing sun shine up anyone's asshole or being overly critical either and the advice is probably helpful to a lot of people.

[Anonymous]

How typical of most of the girls here saying this doesn't apply to them. I guess they just can't acceptant form of criticism at all. They think they are the perfect angels.

[RHEC4LIFE18]

I can't stand it when girls think that she is the boss in the relationship. It gets old real quick.

[Yasmine_yasmine]

There shouldn't be any bosses in a relationship.

[Cookies_AndMilk]

@Yasmine_yasmine men are natural born leaders, being a submissive woman doesn't make you a weak one, but it's important to allow your man to be a man.

[Yasmine_yasmine]

That is such a sexist statement based on sexist traditions that don't apply anymore. Both partners should be equal in decision making, conversations, actions, intimacy, etc etc etc. A man can be a man. But that does not mean he is better or more of a leader than a woman. Women work now. They have rights. They've fought hard and long to disintegrate your sexist statement. They are equals.

[RHEC4LIFE18]

no one is really a boss in the relationship. If I'm being bossy, I would rather have my girl tell me. @Yasmine_yasmine and @Cookies_AndMilk. Both of you have good points, but I do agree that BOTH partners have a equal say in a relationship.
My dad told me that a real man is not above his wife or any woman.

[Cookies_AndMilk]

@Yasmine_yasmine Well then keep playing the victim sweetie and see how far that gets you.

[Yasmine_yasmine]

@cookies_andmilk Keep thinking you were born to be the only leader in your relationships and see how far it gets you hun

[Cookies_AndMilk]

@Yasmine_yasmine Lol what? I said nothing near that.

[mangaka92]

I feel like this is from the perspective of him breaking it off with her. I've been in two relationships, but both times they broke up with me, so...

[Bimbobambo]

TRUTH! A woman posted this? This woman is fuckin smart! Good job!

[Sammy256]

I feel this only applies to some women, because I do none of those things.

[bloodmountain1990]

Shit, some girls I've met off dating sites would do #2 before meeting them in person. That's a major turnoff