There has been a rash of this term "nice guy" thrown around lately. And I'd like to take a minute to define it in the way GAG users seem to see the term, at least from a self proclaimed "nice guy" perspective:
Nice Guy: A guy who treats women with respect (at least most of the time), is loyal, thoughtful, and kind.
The problem is that this definition describes the perfect dog pretty well also, and women can just go buy a dog if they want one.
Look, you can be nice and still not be boring, the problem is that these "nice guys" are pretty much only that. They aren't interesting, fun, romantic. They have one side: and it is to be nice.
Women decide on mates much differently than do men. Several studies have found that women will pursue men based on feelings and emotions rather than logic. Where as men will often pursue women based on traits such as looks, intelligence, etc. Why? Because men seek women based on logic. It is actually very logical to select women based on traits, because you are selecting traits to pass on to your kids. Women, as I mentioned, do not think about men in those terms, at least naturally.
Why do you think in every romance movie the guy she leaves is the clean cut surgeon that has his life together, and is usually a decent guy, for the unconventionally attractive bad boy who works at the sawmill? Because the surgeon is fucking boring.
Women do not naturally seek successful men, that would have to be intentional. Women seek men that can tap into a larger emotional landscape. This is why you will often see women dating men that are not very attractive, aren't successful, or whatever else.
These aren't mutually exclusive though. The best catch would be a guy that is exciting, has multiple sides to him, is successful, good looking, and intelligent. But, women, like men, take what they can get.
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