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Men Are Still From Mars and Women Are Still From Venus

Men Are Still From Mars and Women Are Still From Venus

If you've ever sat there shaking your head wondering why it is your boyfriend/husband or girlfriend/wife just doesn't get "it," welcome to the wonderful world of the confusions of the opposite sex. I think to some degree, some more than others, we are all under the impression that the things we do are right, and easily understood by those around us. This notion extends to our relationships, but anyone who has ever been in any sort of long term relationship knows that that is a premise that often fails and we end up blaming our significant other because men or women...just don't understand.

For both men and women, it is hard to deny that there are differences between us on an internal/external level, but add to that, an even bigger piece of the puzzle, which is the cultural or environmental ways in which we are reared. I don't know too many societies that actually raise men and women in the exact same way with no variations to take account for their sex. Men are raised to act and be a certain way, as are women. Sure, on both sides, many break these societal norms, but ultimately most of us are pretty in step with them.

Men Are Still From Mars and Women Are Still From Venus

So then we get into this position where we are dating, sleeping with, and living with the other sex where these branches must collide. Add to that we are each individuals. You can date someone who seems to get it more than the next and vice versa, but there will still be some major or minor bumps in the road to understanding one another and how each of you tick. Instead of trying to force this complete understanding of one another, we should actually accept more so that our differences exist for such previously explained reasons, and that that is okay. The only solution may be compromise in relationships, give and take, or giving in because a lot of us are very hard wired a certain way by the time we are adults. It's difficult to pull apart the strings of how someone was raised to be who they are or that hold true for them personally in concordance with their sex.

Ultimately, this shouldn't be a blame game on who is or isn't more right about something, men or women. Even in same sex relationships, where one might think that there should be even more equality and understanding in the relationship coming from the same sex, you find just as many of the same problems as those in different sex relationships, so it's more difficult to argue that, well, if she or he, meaning your significant other, was a man like you or a woman like you, they'd better understand your entire world and better agree with you. By that logic, gay couples should be the most compatible and happy of all relationships, but that is simply not true. You have equal amounts of fights and relationship woes that you do with different sex couples.

Men Are Still From Mars and Women Are Still From Venus
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