How my learning disability affect my ability to learn about trashy relationship in the past

[CandacePerry]

Hi, it Candace here i am making a my take on how my learning disability affect to learn about relationship. I am staring off with warning to a experience of trashy relationships

. My learning disability was called 18p .

genetic condition caused by a deletion of all or part of the short arm (the p arm) of chromosome

:High school relationship .

At the time i wast interested in any relationship . in my second or last year . I was in relationship with a guy called Jonas . he was most abuse person that did tried to peer pressure into sex that i wasn't ready yet. i kept saying no but he never respect it . i decided to go told that i am broke up with him.

I couldn't wait until i started college . new people new guy but i was so blind to think like that .

:College relationships

: My first relationship was going very with a guy called Josh P . then after about year this girl called Sophie start calling me name e:g bitch and trying to make me jealous of my first boyfriend at the time . Josh started act weirder and then he broke up with a Facebook text .

:My second boyfriend in college . we didst have much in common . I dislike football . he love football . he was always very busy with his life and leaving college . I got so fed up with him . he through that i cheated on him but i never did . I was one that broke up with him .

:third relationship .

this guy was called Sam and he was a fling since he did cheated on me and dumped me for someone else .

:My last ex boyfriend from college was a different guy called Josh PR .

he was one most worst guy in all the college . he ask me to have more then one girlfriends , I said no but he did anyway . I caught him cheated on me and i dumped him after that .

I very annoyed at this time I was about to give up until I met my worst one yet . here the outside of college relationship my 8 boyfriend was called Alex ans he was in two relationship at same when i was going out with him I told that are going out with another girl ,he said no . I didn't believe him at all . there was lot of drama did happen on Facebook . saying he was in a relationship with girl at the same time of me . i broke up with him as well . I now have 8 ex boyfriend now .

:finished it off with positives relationships

My vies on my past relationship were all bad for me . nobody respect me . I knew now that i wouldn't dab in and course lot of drama . i was about to give with love since I didn't get way what i wanted . every day want pass . i was looking on my friends page of Facebook I saw guy that like . I started talking to him I ask him are you out with my friends and he said no I am single . he name was Jake and he did respect my choice and he knew i how felt about being cheated on more then once . I felt happy every day and grow and Thank to the lord i didn't give up . i am finely found a guy that want the same thing of me but in different gender . that I knew now that i know not every one will find the Mr/Mrs right for first . i want through a lot a trashy relationship ,to get to the good relationship . i did success for once in my life is felt right to be with him .

I couldn't fit all my ex bfs in same my take see ya soon from Candace

Stronger

[lernulo]

I don't think your genetic "problem" has affected a lot to you.
You found true love, you had 8 boyfriends after leaving the college, and those are good marks, I think you should be happy with what you got instead of seeing yourself as someone with 18p.

[CandacePerry]

I don't see my self at 18p. This is my opinions expressed how I view relationship now.

[Hans222]

It's nice how you continue to cope. It must not be easy but meeting Jake proved luck often comes to the people who stay patient and courageous :D

[Hans222]

Thanks for the MH :D

[OldSchool_Metalhead]

Its sad that you have been through so much. But what matters now is in the end you are stronger. Im glad for you that all those stupid cheaters are in the past now

[Ordinarygurl_]

I think that you're amazing

[TonyBologna25]

So here's something that's going to sound very harsh, but approaching something from a realistic mindset will give more clarity on how to handle life's curve balls. Due to your condition, you're genetically inferior to the rest of the society. Hurts, right? Well, you're not the only one, and there are people who are worse off than you. People who suffer from mental illness such as severe depression are inferior on a societal level as well. So many people are dealt a bad card in life, and it's just reality.

Socially, people take advantage of those who they can. It's not even done on a conscience level for most people. Human's by nature are selfish. It's sort of a tough pill to swallow. The most important individual to someone's life is usually themselves. If they can gain something from you, and not have to do anything in return, then they will. It sounds like people are taking advantage of you, and you're allowing it to happen. You don't have the confidence that demands respect. I understand that genuine and raw confidence is harder to achieve given your disability, but it's not impossible. You need to find yourself outside of relationships. Love yourself. Be proud of yourself. Only then can you share your love with someone else in a healthy way. Find something you're passionate about and devote your entire life to it and watch something positive yield from it.

So, I don't have 18P, but I do have a very common condition called ADHD. I have it very bad. Growing up as a child, my teachers wanted to place me in special ed because they thought I was retarded since I couldn't seem to retain any information. I was taken in for testing, and my IQ was well above average, and they couldn't really understand why I couldn't function in school. They deemed me as being lazy and undisciplined. I was treated like shit by almost all of my teachers during high school and middle school because they took me not being able to focus personally. They thought of me as being lesser and lazy. I can definitely say I was bullied by a lot of my teachers in high school. Socially, I was known as the air-head or meathead in the group because it was hard for me to keep track of conversations or where my phone/wallet ever was. I just accepted it and laughed along. In intimate relationships, they always got mad saying I never cared enough to pay attention or listen to them. They lost respect for me when I would showcase excessive scenarios in which I got lost in the conversation and treat me as if I was lesser. I could feel it and it made me uncomfortable. Lost a lot of confidence.

After high school, I figured I needed a kick in the ass, because I was convinced that I was so undisciplined, lazy, and just overall felt like a piece of shit... so, I enlisted into the Marine Corps infantry. This is another story entirely, but going through training was very rough at first. Drill Instructors sensed my issues and insecurities and exploited them just like they did for everyone else. It was a harsh process, but it forced me into a position in which I had to grow up and work on my issues rather than just accept them. I ended up graduating as a Squad Leader and became a good Marine. Marine Corps taught me how to really carry myself.

After the Marine Corps, I went back into college, and I read a ton of self-help books related to ADHD and I decided to take charge of my life. I went for an engineering degree. My family told me not to, and even friends said it's out of my league. I didn't care. I went for it. I studied my ass off sometimes 10 hours a day pulling all-nighters, but I did it. I graduated with a 3.8 GPA and completed a degree in Mechanical Engineering.

My confidence today is very high. I've been through hardship, and I put everything I got into fixing it, and I conquered it. Experiences like this is where genuine and raw confidence stems from. Proving to yourself that you have control over your life and your life doesn't have control over you.

[TonyBologna25]

You're very young. You have so much time to do what you want, and conquer your goals. Don't ever let anyone tell you that you can't do something. If I did that, I'd be a fucking loser today. You've been dealt a shitty hand in life, but your options now are to make the best of it, or to give up. You got one life, so you might as well make the best of it. Hope everything works out for you.

[CandacePerry]

Already had a job 3 job. these type of user I also dislike. idc about your learning disabilities. It if a person take advantage of me In just dump them. If going think that I will stay with cheater. I will dumped cheaters as well.

[CharmingKevin]

Candace, you are still very young and you have been through so much more at this age compared to me 2 decades back when I was at your age. Life is a continuous experiential learning process. We experience, we learn, we apply our lessons learnt in everything we encounter everyday, tomorrow and in the future. Gather all your experiences and aim to do better than before. Be more selective in choosing your partner. Stay confident and watch your sides and back.

[humptydumpty01]

Wow
You really have been through a lot
I'm so sorry for your past experiences :(
I literally feel bad
But again at the same time you found your Mr right
I'm sure you don't care what happened in the past as long as you're in this relationship which I hope lasts long
And here's me, I can't even talk to girls... lol
Take care of you and your guy Candace

[coolbreeze]

Wow you been through a lot. And I'm glad you ok and got rid of all the cheaters.

[CandacePerry]

Yep I am ok. My view of relationship has been taitnt by stupid immature guys.

[coolbreeze]

Yes you are right dating stupid immature people are always the worst. I think cheaters and liers are the worst to date.

[CandacePerry]

Yep as toxic relationship. On top of that. Other types of relationship between homosexually people. That get treated like trash. I prefer to have a friend who is gay. Idc what you into more man or trans gender. They all still human rights

[coolbreeze]

Yes true everybody is human. And racism and discrimination shouldn't exist. Im glad your a great friend and don't judge others.

[sasukeuchiha7]

You are an inspiration to me right now. I'm going through some stuff too so this helps to see how people can really through the tough times.

[CandacePerry]

I just wondering if you in college?

[Gta5fan4lufe]

Very good baby proud of you