To marry or break up: A decision I can't decide! (Page 3)
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I hope she stopped letting you waster her time with all this BS. If you need to be thinking about it this much you don't want her truly. I hope you let her go be with someone who really wants her.
You should break up. You cannot love someone properly until you can love yourself- if all of her validation over 9 years isn't enough for you, it never will be.
Yeah don't care, just marry her and have kids. Once you have kids all the pesky problems just go away, and all it is about is raising kids. If you can trust her to not leave you the moment you have kids, then stay with her in raising them, you're a good man.
Too long of a story and simple answer. I don't advice any guy to ever get married in this day and age. The way society and the system works created a trap for married men. Just think about it. For a guy to get married there is absolutely nothing to gain and absolutely everything to lose. For gals to get married there is absolutely nothing to lose and everything to gain. Once the wife has kids as a husband you are nothing. Correct me anyone if I'm wrong. I wish I was.
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Wow this sounds exactly like my boyfriend and me. I love him so I don’t want to break up with him, but I know that I could do better. I don’t see myself marrying him until he gets his life together (sees a therapist, gets a good job, etc.)
your question made me think of this
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=DT9kFJq6JCs(watch the whole scene from Netflix you will understand why)
Can't tell you why but it leads me with a sense that it has always been this way rather than something that is future looking, directed and focused. I see nothing that would lead me to advise marriage.
See a therapist to get over your feelings of inadequacy.
If you don’t marry her , you probably will regret it for the rest of your life.
She sounds like a good woman , and you need to pull yourself together and be more positive. Go see a doctor about your low self esteem
She will stab you in the back of the skull when you least expect it. Run Forest Run!
what the heck? sorry i wasn't reading the whole thing but "marry or break up"? what good is marriage gonna do if you're thinking about breakup?
Marry her. Simple and plain. It doesn't matter who makes more money, it matters about the love between you two.
To me, outsider, this is simple. If you are not ready, or if you feel it won't work out, then don't. Explain it to her the way you feel about it. by the way, I understand her desire for different work. Being a teacher really is gruelling.
If you are unsure marriage is NEVER the correct choice.
Just all those years of knowing each other is long and serious commitment. Sounds like only your self-esteem is getting in the way. Marry her!
If you can't say yes in a reflex proclamation then you have your answer.
Why set yourself up for something that could keep you so detained you miss out on the real mr right and not mr right now?
if i even consider breaking up one time, i break up. I've not considered breaking up and marraige in the same sentence
Marry her! For the love of everything, marry her. Don't let this angel through your fingertips!
Tl dr break up simply because you write long texts. The fuck. Lol
With those two options being your only choices, I say break up. Anything is better than signing a marriage contract.