Hello! Me again! Hope everyone is doing well despite the pandemic and the current (and rather suspenseful) election going on in the US. Perhaps this can help you get your mind off things for a second. Enjoy!
1. Close the bathroom door.
Yes, being comfortable in a relationship is extremely important because it shows trust. It`s a liberating feeling that you can share everything with a partner, even during those times when you are most vulnerable. However, I strongly believe that bathroom time is me-time, regardless of how much you are willing to share with your partner. You can survive ten minutes away from each other so you can do your private business, no? The reason I say this is because your partner is going to imagine you in all your different forms; when you are dressed up, just woken up, when you`re sick, etc. However, when they see you constantly sitting on the toilet taking a poo, and making the room smell, it can be a subconscious turn-off later. When you`re having sex, such images can also pop into your mind.
2. Take it easy with the sugary name-calling.
Calling your partner cute names during the day can be sweet and an indication of your love for each other. However, calling each other "honey", "honey bunny", "sweetie pie", "pumpkin" and so forth slowly makes the relationship less sexy and spicy. Instead, use each other`s real names or nicknames more frequently and see how that changes things.
3. Stick to your manners.
Of course, it`s funny to have farting contests once you start getting comfortable. It`s hilarious to let out a huge burp, but having poor manners even after years of dating can be quite the turn-off. If you show your partner you still care about impressing them and acting properly around them, it will make your partner more sexually attracted to you. If you happen to let out a fart or burp, laugh about it, but then proceed with saying "excuse me" or "oh my god I`m so sorry".
4. Keep trying new things.
This does not only mean in the bedroom (because that`s pretty much self-explanatory!). If you keep trying out new hobbies, looks, exercises, etc, it will give your partner new ways to get to know you. Their curiosity about who you are and what you like to do will never end! It also introduces new activities to include in the relationship that maybe the two of you can do together.
All in all, these are very small measures and require very little energy to do. Who doesn`t want simple and free ways to keep your relationship feeling new, refreshed, and spiced? 🔥