In the experience of my father's and my own professional and political work I've had the confirmation that when it comes to work and the method, women and men are really different. That's not a bad at thing at all! But understanding those differences is key to make the step to properly lead the team, use all the human elements to the max profit and make them feel valued and essential. Naturally it's just a general discourse, not all people are the same and those just observations matured during my work.
- Women take more notes than men
I've noticed that whenever me or my father are making observations or giving instructions, be it on field trips or meetings, women are almost invariably the only ones writing down notes. Men tend to just nod and make other affermative gestures, but they write very little. I'm not kidding - some women write down even the laughs and the jokes, or when I clear my throat, while getting a man to write down something seems to be asking them to jump out of the window. The quality of writing is particularly appreciable since they keep better the details of the requests and instructions made during the meeting.
- Men comment a lot more than women
Men tend to comment more on what me or my father are saying, and ask questions, while women are usually more silent. This sort of ''counterweighs'' the women's writing habit - we get an immediate feedback and can see the impact that our decisions have on people, if only in that room for the moment. While women offer comments and suggestions mostly when prompted or asked, men do it on their own - sometimes to the excess.
- They give different feedbacks
The nature of the feedback women and men give is different. In my experience men focus more on the end result and the net of a particular projects, while women focus more on the how to reach the goal and the details of the method employed.
- Their approach to one-on-one meetings is different
Sounds paradoxical, but in my personal experience it's a lot difficult for me to get men one-on-one. They have to make group around me, it's like they are uneasy to talk with me alone. With women is a different story, not only they are more comfortable, but they frequently ask me to give them five minutes. This is a mistery I still have to figure out.
- Work lunches and aperitifs are different
Again, paradoxically enough in my experience women tend to loosen and relax much more and quickly than men. Maybe I have something that puts off men, I don't know. But it's much easier to get into confidence with women and illustrate them my projects and instructions to reach the goals and set new ones. I see this as a half success, because ideally I should be able to communicate with men like that too, and manage to get much closer to them. Not having a close communication with more or less 65% of the work cadres seriously impedes my projects.
Naturally it's my intention to keep working and multiply my efforts tenfold to make sure I'll be up to date with everyone in working for the community.
Thank you for reading, and feel free to comment!