I just find it quite odd that you would let something as personal and completely unrelated to your own life, bother you. Obviously in this take I will be talking about the great age gap debate because that is what I relate with. But the same can go for homosexuality in relationships too.
The same people who say "don't judge" and "love is love" also say "that's disgusting" and "this should be illegal". The hypocrisy.
Comments like "What could they possibly have in common" or "how could she find him attractive" really make no sense to me. You aren't present in our daily life together or for our 4 hour long conversations so why would you assume anything about or relationship? Just because you wouldn't do it or it seems "foreign" to you doesn't mean everyone else will think like you.
Differences is what makes the world go round. Imagine if everybody had the same preferences as you. Kind of depressing right? We should celebrate the differences as long as they aren't hurting anyone.
Two adults of legal age, with a large age gap in love? This affects you how? It doesn't. You immediately think "Oh he must be manipulating her" "Oh she must be using him for his money" and it's quite honestly just rude and ignorant. How many age gap relationships have you been in or observed up close and personal to know these "facts"?
Chances are, if you're so disgusted by an age gap, you've never been in a relationship with one so how would you know?
If you wouldn't do it, that's great. But stop putting other people down for their choices. At 18 you can fight and die for your country and everybody loves it but you can't be in an age gap relationship without everyone losing their shit? Honestly weird.
You don't know what life experiences have led me to have the personality to be attracted to an older man. You don't know me. You see the outside of a complex puzzle. Who knows why the puzzle was even made, but the pieces fit together. And it's none of your business.
He makes me happy, I make him happy. I've been manipulated before by someone close to me, who should have protected me. I know what manipulation looks like. I'm young and I have been naive about many things, granted. But I know manipulation. I have never once felt used, abused and manipulated by my partner. Me and him have worked out a system, we've got each others backs.
I'm not going to justify my relationship but to answer a big question many people have asked me "What could you possibly have in common?" Here is my answer, unique to me and my boyfriends experience together:
Yes, I am using the "old soul" defense. I have always had an old soul. Growing up sheltered from social media and many modern entertainment media, I relied on "older" things to entertain me. Books, movies from the 1930s to the 1980s, music from 1950s to the 1980s. It just became a part of my identity.
As I grew up and socialized with people my age, they were clueless to most all my references to things from a "forgotten" time. It was depressing. The only time I had fun socializing was when it was with adults. And while he is mature in that sense, despite his age he is energetic, funny, and the sweetest man I've ever met.
I could keep going but this my take is getting rather long. Maybe I'll do another pertaining to this subject another day. If you read this whole thing, thank you for using your time on my take.
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