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Not Dating Unattractive Men...To me it's called "Being Realistic" (Page 4)
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I agree agree people like myself should do the world a favour and simply forget about having any relationship, getting married or even having kids. I do not want to pass my ugly genes to any of them because I don't want them to feel or experience what I have felt like my whole life; being rejected by everyone in the world. Ugly people should just give up, seriously.
Huh? Looks and appearance are last on the list of important things for anyone who is even remotely intelligent. Attraction and chemistry are important, yes. But attraction is based on more than society's definition of 'sexy' or 'good looking'. Making the world a better place is what matters, not making oneself better looking.
@I_am_repulsive No one said that.
@MargaritaPeach
Let's use common sense. What you've said was from a biased judgmental perspective which is fine.. but don't try to make it out as fact. Looks are important to a great many people especially if sex is important to them in a relationship.
Not all people define their attraction based off of what their culture deems to be attractive.
@MargaritaPeach I seriously didn't read the article, simply the title and it's only what I am trying to imply not anyone else.
OH. This may be what a lot of guys are doing... only reading the title... hmm.
Yeah sorry user, I totally agree with your views by the way.
Females being attracted to good looking fellas isn't being shallow haha. Whoever said it's shallow, they need help.
Ykur shallow when you won't talk to or pay any mind to someone your not attracted to.
Visuslly
No one said that she wouldn't talk to them. The problem is its not shallow to be attracted to a person and not to others. You can't help that. Common sense.
I appreciate you being straight forward because a lot of girls lie on here about physical attraction and call us guys shallow about our preferences
You like what you like.. lol. I'm sure there are some hypocrites on here. Or some girls really don't care about what a guy looks like and think that a guy who will only date a girl that they find SUPER HOT is shallow.
You know?
I agree. I appreciate the take owner being honest. I am tired of women that claim that looks don't matter to women, and that men are shallow, but then only date hot guys themselves. There is nothing wrong with only dating someone you are attracted to. Who cares if it is shallow or not? Is the person judging you for your personal preferences really any better? I just wish women were more honest about what they really wanted in a guy, so guys would know how to improve themselves.
I get it. it's not that we don't give a person a chance - we do, but it never works out because some things can't be force. Ever.
They're just there or they're not.
Ya you are right... No one should be called shallow.. Just because they are not attracted towards a unattractive person... Or they are not sexually attracted towards the person...
And we'll in that case i am preety much fucked... then..
No, you're hot. Relax😎
He doesn't look like he's single, remember? :)
@Ozanne - hahaha LOL
I agree with everything!!! but I know bunch of 9-10 men and women who dont even see themselves that attractve.
so dont discard hollywood hotties you never know! and I'm serious, don't think "im just staying at 7-9"... hell no ;)
Good points but you must understand people are attracted to things other than looks, if they aren't physically attracted to their significant other, it means they are attracted to them in a different way.
Yes I know I metioned it here, just saying.
*you metioned it
I'm truly thinking that a lot of you people simply skimmed. I mentioned that in the post... lol.
Wow, you didn't even give me a chance to post a heads up.
Lol. It's good. I've been getting a lot of "alerts" about this as I refresh. I think what may have pissed people off was the "title".
Why would I ever date someone I'm not attracted to? That makes no sense to me. I'd just be wasting everybody's time.
Great take! Everyone should find the person they're with attractive, if not, that's one way to doom a relationship from the start.
fair enough points you make, but you can still be searching for a miss hollywood
you might be beautiful to them even though you reduce your self to average looking they might not see it that way
If you want to search for that, more power to you. I'm not saying that you shouldn't. I know that I can't get those sexy guys that I'd like---doesn't make them any less sexy. :D
my point is one of those "sexy guys" could be attracted to you and you dont even know it.
When you search you should be open for all options
True. But I'm remaining in my bubble of realism. I think I'd simply prefer someone I think was in my league. More comfortable and I would feel pretty bad if the hot guy was with someone that was less hot than someone he should be with (imo).
If that makes sense.
well he could see you as a 10 you dont know
I think you speak nothing but the truth here. If there is no physical attraction in a relationship I know for a fact I wouldn't want to be with them.
I know a guy who suddenly got a hell of a lot more attractive once he inherited $2.5 million from his grandpa. just sayin'
@taujun That would fall under gold-digging my friend.
That's correct. Maybe I should have mentioned the fact that his present girlfriend used to date a male underwear model before she cheated on him with my friend and they now live together and she wants to get married. My friend is 5'7'', overweight, and wears glasses.
Now surely that's nothing more than a coincidence.
People, guys and girls, tend to try to date someone that is considered above themselves socially or physically unless times are tough. We're ambitious creatures. There's nothing necessarily wrong with that either.
No, I don't think there's anything wrong with that. But it's more unrealistic.
Looks matter most bottom line. I never had a woman say she was with me (I asked) because of my personality, confidence, or compatibility.
That's... kind of mean. I'm sure there are women who would be. That's... messed up...
At least they were honest instead of trying to be politically correct.
I think it's entirely reasonable, considering peoples ideas of 'attractiveness' can vary so much. And to be with someone you need both the physical and emotional aspects
Don't be offended but I would give you 2-3. I really don't tell you this to make you angry but to warn you. As guys we date and sleep with girls who are not attractive, because we think it is free and better than masturbation. This means if you are able to sleep with attractive guys don't think that they desire you. They simply try to ejaculate.
I'm not offended. That's what you think. I've been in relationships with guys that I found attractive and vice versa.
Not every guy is a sleaze like that though. :)
I agree personally and, if course I think no one has to agree with what I think personally.
most girls try to deny it... guys are called shallow for the same reason but it´s merely a biological funciton: To look for a partner that seems to be able to be a worthy specimen to mix with our genes in order to procreate in a effective fashion.
No. Guys aren't called that for the same reason. Many guys only focus on the looks of the woman and not the personality when this topic comes up.
Many women say looks, looks/personality, or simply personality.
ok so when you say it, it´s "realistic" but if a guy says it, it´s shallow? well that sounds fair... not!
do you really think guys don´t care for personality ?
Do many guys NOT date unattractive women because of the reasons that I stated? NO. They don't date them because they don't like the look, not that they COULD NOT sleep with them. Common sense.
When did I say that "guys don't care for personality"? I said "many guys". That wasn't all. That meant " a lot". Many guys care for personality. I know that.
I think my next Take will be shorter because apparently some people aren't getting what I'm saying...
well i think it´s just the common stereotype which is only true for some douchebags... but why would you judge a whole gender by some of the black sheep?
i get what you´re saying :) i even agree ^^ you just assume it´s different from what guys do. well either i am "different" which i don´t think is true or guys are exactly the same. sure there are "some" which are exclusively superficial but there are girls like this too.
Oh my God... I wasn't judging the whole gender. I DIDN'T judge the whole gender. I was speaking factually.
I know that there are guys who can't get hard when dealing with someone they aren't attracted to, but they seem to be less in number than the guys who would basically say "No. She's not cute so that's it".
I think most guys are willing to date a woman who has looks AND personality. I don't see how this is getting lost in translation... lol.
i don´t know about the numbers ^^ but i agree.
^ someone who gets it
I want to get as pretty of a girl as I can get with my own looks and offerings
A girl that you find attractive in your range. Exactly my point. I don't think people should settle for those who they aren't attracted to.
then I can agree with that although some people don't prioritize looks so it's up to individuals.
You're entitled to date whomever you want. I don't see why this is such a big deal.
I've seen a few other women get called shallow on here and I think it unfair to them when their reasons are fair. I don't care what people say about me, but this was to explain WHY some people don't settle.
It's not unfair for them to be called shallow either, people can call each other/judge each other however they want.
The problem with that happens to be they are wrongly labeling people. Like how people cry sexist or racist over issues that easily could not be. It's inaccurate.
Sexism and racism don't exist, objectively, so it's a moot point.
LOL. that's new. I clearly disagree, but okay.
Racism - the belief that all members of each race possess characteristics or abilities specific to that race, especially so as to distinguish it as inferior or superior to another race or races.
Aside from things like pigmentation and facial features, nobody believes that.
Yes that's it. unrealistic goals always lead to unrealistic outcomes. Yes looks are important for first impressions and that's how they go.
*far*