My boyfriend called me a tramp what should I do please I need help?

[Anonymous]

We have been together for 5 months now we love each other a lot, we have had some problems at first but then decided to forgive each other and get a new start.
I'm a virgin am 20 yo and he's not he's 28 and slept with 9 girls before, he knew everything about my past and I told him that I gave a my ex bf bj 3 times I don't know what's wrong with him he must've forgot I told him that, he keeps telling me that I lied to him and told him that I gave my ex just a hand job, he called me horrible things after this and told me am a tramp liar and co** sucker and that amnot pure as he thought I was, although he had sex with 9 girls and when I told him u r not being fair he told am a man I can sleep with girls! :/
I really don't know what to do especially that am very strict when it comes to any sexual behavior before marriage and I have had a very hard time getting over the fact that I gave someone a bj! And now my bf just made me feel like shit!
he just flipped the table around and now am the one telling him not to leave?
what should I do please I need some help over here

[Anonymous]

Well babe you shouldn't feel bad at all knowing that you are a virgin and he isn't he has no reason the bw angry at all ofc the past has to be left in the past and you both can't throw each other's past in each other's faces but he has no right to call you those awful stuff cause you haven't done anything wrong there are girls who do worse and he has to respect you a guy who calls his girlfriend that isn't something good maybe he's angry but he has to watch him mouth, as about what you should do follow your heart but think with your brain too do what you think is the best for you. He should be greatful that he has loving girlfriend and being a Virgin is really rare so he should be thankful and not he angry and that's just stupid of him to say he's a man he can have sex

[Asker]

He keeps apologizing to me r8 nw but am really hurt, fingers crossed I hope this problem gets solved whatever the results are :)
ty

[Azara]

dod you respond and tell him giving your bf bjs is a normal natural healthy thing to do in a relationship?

did you ask him why he thinks him having sex with 9 women is normal but you giving your bf sexual acts makes you dirty?

he may have made you feel badly, but imo, this is secondary. as is the fact he's a hypocritical delusional control freak...

the primary salient feature is e does not respect you and you call that love.

I don't know why you're asking him not to go. if you let him go you have the option of having a relationship with a guy who deserves and is fit to be in a relationship with another human being.

[Asker]

Very tre and rational ty

[Asker]

True*

[NnM6290]

Forgive me but, this guy sounds like a complete, immature ass hole. 8 years is a bit much of an age different when we're this young but, that's my opinion. It sounds like you need someone who will respect you because this guy sounds like he'll say ugly things to you because you're young and he'll feel he has an emotional control over you. That's not healthy. Please yourself and take care of your needs before others or else they'll take you for a ride.

[MadeInAmerica]

Be glad you found out his mean streak now instead of way later in the relationship it will probably just get worse. I would leave him. You will find plently of guys that will appreciate you being a virgin and respect that you've done a few things to keep your bfs happy and show some passion in the relationship while not giving in to urges to have sex.

[Anonymous]

"And now my bf just made me feel like shit!"

Anyone who loves you will not try to make you feel like shit. When a guy tries to make a girl feel like shit, it's because he's a controlling, manipulative fuckwit. Leave him. You can and will do much better than this guy.

[Hipfrog]

Dump him! He's jealous and turns mean. Dangerous combo. No good future ahead for you two, sorry to say. True story.

[jointhepatriarchy]

Find a guy who is also a virgin. And don't brag about sucking some other dude's dick to him.

[Asker]

I wasn't bragging I made it perfectly clear that I regret doing it so much!!

[jointhepatriarchy]

Well I see no point in telling your next boyfriend unless he asks.

[Asker]

Yh well my current bf asked I didn't just go bragging about it..

[Asker]

Ty for ur answer :)

[jointhepatriarchy]

You're welcome, hope everything works out for you.

[LaGronio]

My double standard senses are tingling...