My GF won't delete her ex's numbers?

[CheesinIndian]

My girlfriend and I are in a very serious relationship an have already been talking about marriage. We have both been through very bad relationships before, we both have been cheated on and both of us are slow to trust. The problem I have is that she keeps her ex's number in her phone and then texts them back when they text her! Its nothing bad she's always telling them that she is in love with me and not giving them hope of getting back together. Most of these guys just text to feel her out and see if we are still together. I have deleted all of my ex's that have ended badly, and i feel very paranoid about this because this is how it went with the last 3 gfs I have had, they all cheated on me and it started with me seeing a text from them. Am I being too paranoid? Is this normal?

[engineerboy]

Hello my friend, i am really sorry to say that, but she was not sincere to you. They all say that they keep his number in order to know her ex-lover was calling. My gf did the same thing to me when i told her to remove his number. In addition, she had his forgotten old physics book in her shelf. She didn't throw it away or gave a library as a gift despite my countless fights with her. Now i regret for behaving emotional to understand her. Generally, they are the creatures who lives with their stupid emotions. And as a buy you shouldn't give a crap to her feelings with the past. You shouldn't try to wrap her wounds just like i did. (e. g having premarital sex with her boyfriend's compel) After our seperation i got an email. She was saying "i am happy that i hadn't had my first sex with you" I hadn''t had sex with anyone until her. And i left her for not showing respect me more than the boy she had sex.

So, my theory is : If a girl still keeps her ex's numbers, the probability of having intimate things she had with her boyfriend is high. They don't want to delete her ex's numbers for the sake of the lived things together. They don't confess it but know in their subconcious mind. Even if it wasn't they would change their phone numbers or block their numbers.

Because GIRLS ARE NOT SINCERE. You guys must always follow your logic in your relationship.

To sum up, dumb the girl. And find a new one who doesn't store her ex's number. Cause a people who has a little self esteem, doesn't keep the old memories. ( A phone number is a memory).

Greetings.

[Joelski440]

"I have deleted all of my ex's that have ended badly"
So you've kept ex's # that didn't end badly?
My girl deleted an ex's # out of my phone and now I'm pretty pissed. She lives 5k miles away and is seeing someone. We weren't getting back together, I keep in contact with her very rarely if she needs or wants to talk. And now I can't. I feel betrayed. 😤😠

[Anonymous]

Nope. That's how my last ex and I broke up. She told me i had nothing to worry about, but immediately turned around and told me that she still loved him and he knew nothing about us. That was just one ex though. She actually went on a date with another one (she calls it hanging out, I say if you didn't ask and I didn't know til it was over, it's a date). Don't let her run you around like that. Women are emotional people (at least more than men are). So if she feels any kind of anything for this ex, she's gonna talk to him, and who knows what he's saying to her. If I were you, put a stop to that, real quick.

[smokahontas]

I never delete my ex's numbers except for one of them because we had a bad breakup. I never text my exes, which is wrong of your girlfriend because you're in a serious relationship with her. Out of respect, she should AT LEAST stop texting her boyfriends because all they want to do is bang her and try to get back with her, nothing more to it. If I was in your postition, I would be bothered and uncomfortable about it. Just tell her how it really makes her feel. It is either them or you. She needs to let go of the past and realize that she has a loyal boyfriend by her side :)

[Wondorous]

Shady.
Out of respect for your feelings and the history of these feelings, she should delete those numbers. There's really no reason for her to still have them.
No, you are not being paranoid. What she's doing is inappropriate.

[CheesinIndian]

Thanks, her reasoning is that "I want to know who is texting me so i'm not accidentally nice to them and they get any ideas" but that makes no sense, if you dont recognize the number then dont text them back.

[Wondorous]

-_- Whatever. She sounds full of sh*t. Most likely, she still enjoys the attention she gets from them. There is no reason to still be in contact with your ex. Point blank period. Remaining in contact with someone whom knows your most sexual, romantic, intimate side is inapprorpiate when you are trying to build something new with someone else. Especially considering how her exes may not be over her making it IMPOSSIBLE for them to just be friends. She's putting you in a potentially uncomfortable, awkward situation and it's not cool.

[CheesinIndian]

Thanks, we talked for a long time and she ended up blocking and deleting all of er ex's numbers. She said she is sorry and didn't know it affected me so much.

[Wondorous]

I'm glad things worked out for you!! Thanks for MH :D

[coop5]

I don't think your being paranoid, as I think almost anyone has been through this situation before. In my case, it turned out to be a problem and I ended the relationship after it escalated. I won't ever deal with this twice but that's just me. I believe she is lying to you about her not having feelings about them, especially if she refuses to delete them. You don't want a girl who seeks attention from other men for confidence, TRUST ME

[Hidden_P]

I don't delete numbers. I want to make sure I know who's texting me.

I only just deleted my ex's texts to me about 2 months ago. And I haven't been with him for 2 years.