What's the use of dating a guy who is not rich?

[Anonymous]

Like, he can't even take me to a drive in his expensive car or take me to some cool clubs. Or, he can't even carry an Iphone... If the financial situation remains like this for the upcoming years, settling down with him would be impossible. Then Guys get offended that a girl considers his wealth. Well, guys also consider a girl's looks.

[pianoisloved]

I don't look for that in a guy, to be completely honest. If I come across a guy who owns a whole estate to himself and yet proves himself unable to put two words of common sense together, I should be very put out!

Sure, having a rich boyfriend would be nice and I imagine that living with him would make for a very comfortable life indeed. But how many people out there are truly capable of being so rich? Not more than 10% of the world's population, I imagine! Therefore, if you don't keep your expectations realistic, I fear you will have to wait for a really long while for The One for you.

Besides, another problem arises- if those rich guys knew that you are dating them only because they are rich, how do you think they would feel? I doubt they'd feel flattered. Rather, they'd feel used.

I know that love does not conquer everything. I know that having money is indeed important for a comfortable living. But you have to understand that money is barely a good gauge of a man's compatibility with you.

[Anonymous]

Firstly you sound extremely superficial. You should not be dependent on the guy you are dating's money. He is not there to support you financially, he is there to support you emotionally. If you want a lot of money, go out and do something with your life that will make you rich, be an independent woman. If you want to go for a drive in an expensive car, wouldn't it be way better if the car was yours. If you want to go to cool clubs then what is stopping you? I'm sure any guy will work his ass of to give some sort of financial support to the ones they love but if that is all the person they are with care about, they should not be with that person. I'm not saying that you should be the one to support the guy financially, I'm just saying why should either one be responsible for the finance when both are perfectly capable of taking care of their own finances. This is not the 1930's, woman can actually build a career and become successful.

[Rcjh1987]

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For future reference listen to this song

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No dude is going to want a gold digger the moment he realizes you are he'll drop you!!

[Nerdvana]

Very well said and very true.

[Rcjh1987]

@Nerdvana thanks

[LovesTVDx]

Why don't you pay for yourself rather than depending on someone else's hard earned cash?

[Asker]

Even if I am earning, I would still consider a guy who is at least of my financial level.

[LovesTVDx]

You aspire to superficial things that actually don't mean anything. Focus on following your heart, not where the money lies.

[Asker]

But does your heart even matter? What if you and your husband both are earning, but at some point, your husband lost the job, and you are earning not enough to pay the fees for your children's education? Or you couldn't take them to their dream vacations? Is it even worth it?

[LovesTVDx]

Yes- love knows no boundaries and we will find a way. There is always a way. I would support him im his bid to finding another job and getting things back on track. You are trying to turn this around now though to practicality when your question was giving shallow reasons.

[Applefan1]

@LovesTVDx exactly shallow reasons is right. If a guy lost his job and you could not go on vacation big deal and the iPhone example she gave was a poor one. I agree with you!

[Applefan1]

pfft o my gosh, because relationships are about love not about $$$$ in the bank. Well they at least should be anyway. The iPhone example is also a bad example, what if he does not like iPhones? Not everyone likes them or what if he wants to spend his money on something else and not an expensive phone. As long as the man is contributing his fair share what he spends the rest of his money on is his business and not for the girl to tell him what he has to spend it on. Women pushed for equal rights and they have been successful, well with that comes their responsibility of earning money and contributing to. It is a joint responsibility now not just the man's. We don't live in the 1950's anymore.

[Applefan1]

I have seen some of what you have posted to people and they are pretty poor excuses, any girl that does not want to be with a guy because he lost his job and they cannot afford to go on vacation is not worth the man's time. Looking after a child is much more of a joint responsibility than it use to be, just like earning money. If a girl judges a guy based on material things she is also not worth his time. You say your grown up and mature but your sure not acting like you are.

[WpCurious]

I love this opinion. If I could I would have given you a high five. You tell it as it is. :D

[Applefan1]

@WpCurious thank you for the support. I would have Hi5ed with you :). I also think that about children it is not just the woman's job to raise the child it is just as much the fathers to. These days with both men and women working it is a 50/50 share. A child needs both his mother and father anyway because there are things the mother can teach a child that the father can't and there are things father can teach a child a mother can't.

[ThisDudeHere]

What's the use of dating a girl who will leech of a guy like a parasite?

[Asker]

Isn't how it supposed to be? The guy works and brings money, and the woman sits and looks after their children?

[ThisDudeHere]

In the early 20th or 19th or any previous centuries maybe. But today, for the first time in 200'000 years, women have the legal freedom to pursue careers and yet some choose to go down the old route. I wouldn't have any problems with your views if you had no choice but to rely on men. But since you're 'an independent woman', you should at least try to bring some equality to the relationship.
If you find a modern man who wants you to be his housewife, then good for you. But chances are, he will probably not think of you as anything more than a fucktoy - much like you won't think of him as anything more than a utility. Such an relationship is an empty one with no soul.
I sincerely hope you will meet someone out of love and not materialism.

[UnknownXYZ]

The use for wanting date anyone is a chance at love. If you really value love then you would fight for it even if you are financially struggling no matter how impractical it may seem.

I thought you were using 'guy' as a just a general term for someone who isn't rich but then you go on to talk about guys valuing looks so I don't know.

[purplishone]

After a big and tired day you sleep with your man, not with money. Also money can't wipe away your tears when you're sad. Money can't kiss from your lips when you're really happy. You can't become pregnant from your money. You can't be happy with a rich guy if you don't love him. Bla bla bla.. If we're healthy we can earn money to survive. But heart's hunger is harder than stomach's hunger. This is my opinion.

[FitnessLord]

Wimen should realise that they are not the center of the World. Just because you have tits and that other thing between ur legs doesn't make you Queen Isabel. If girls like you like guys only for their money, then you should have no problem getting married to a oil-rich kebab from the United Arab Emirates who's turning 45 next month. Do what makes you happy, I personaly dislike the type of girls like the OC's content.

[cavmanier]

Well...
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[TheWiseOwl]

Cool story bro.

When are you releasing the epic sequel?

[rjroy3]

I agree. Stay away from guys unless they're rich. Save them the stress.

[Asker]

But guys chase a girl who is good looking. So...
Guys = Money
Girls = Looks

[rjroy3]

They don't got the Mula you want. Forget em

[Zathura]

Grow up.

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[Asker]

I have grown up!

[Zathura]

LOL! Nope!

[Applefan1]

@Zathura I agree with you mate!

[Zathura]

@Applefan1 Thanks and she's speechless lol! Logic trump notgrownupness.

[Applefan1]

@Zathura up if that is the way she thinks she still has a lot to learn about the dating world, far from grown up.

[AleDeEurope]

You're the type of bitch that gives girls a bad reputation.
What's the point for a guy to go out with such a disgusting human being like you? Answer this question and I'll answer yours.

[Asker]

I am not disgusting but I am thinking only in a practical manner. I am asking this question to you as well. Is love enough for you both? What if at some point your wife lost her job and you won't be earning enough as well? How would you pay for children's school fees? How would you fulfill their dreams?

Moreover, even if parents arrange the marriage, the first they look for is guys' wealth. Then his personality. Then his looks.

[AleDeEurope]

First of all, you didn't answer my question, which proves I was right. You're disgusting, because you just want a man for his wealth, not for what he is as a person, which is the main reason why you should be in a relationship.
Yes, money is important, but it shouldn't be your only focus. Why do you want him to take you in an expensive ride, why can't it be an average car? You don't have to be rich to fulfill your dreams or be happy and provide to your family.
Like I said before, there's no point in being with a person like you, you definitely don't deserve any man.
Oh, and to answer your question: yes, love is enough. You may go through some tough times financially, but you still have each other, which is what matters.
If parents arrange the marriage, of course they're gonna look for wealth first, they don't even care about their daughters opinion.

[Asker]

Maybe I am a disgusting human being. I am too disconnected with my emotions and feelings to even get offended a tiny bit.

[AleDeEurope]

It wasn't my intention to hurt your feelings, I was just stating the truth ;)

[Asker]

I am not hurt at all. You just stated the truth.

[TadCurious]

There is no use in dating a guy who is not rich. Guys like that have no value on this earth, and they should be shunned. I mean really, think about a guy without an iPhone or an expensive car. That's just a pitiful excuse for a human being.

[GalaxyHotChoc]

You're either a troll or you're just a shallow imbecile who make the rest of us girls look bad

[Asker]

But it's obvious. If girls are given two options
GUY 1: Good nature and average income
GUY 2: Average nature and good income
A girl would obviously choose guy 2 because they will have a stable life with them in long term.

[WpCurious]

I would definitely not choose guy 2

[GalaxyHotChoc]

Exactly me neither.

[itsme_goodsamaritan]

I don't think you are serious in asking this question. I can sense sarcasm/anger in you. Can't decide which :/

[catpetter]

If you are looking for a job good point... except if the lady makes her own cash. then she can date who pleases her.

[Xiloquin]

Yet you scream equality equality, and at the end of the day you want someone to take care of you.

[Asker]

I don't scream equality. After marriage, a girl has to look after a baby in every sense, so why don't guys look after the girl?

[Xiloquin]

What's your point? He'd still be paying for everything the baby needs, so basicaly he's taking care of both of you.

[Asker]

But money is not enough to take care of the kid! A woman plays an important role.

[MyThoLoGy]

Whats the use of dating sluts who only care about money? Oh sorry, hope I didn't offend you.

[SuitAndTie]

What's the use of dating a girl who can't drive her own car or pay for herself in cool clubs? And God forbid if she owns anything other than an iPhone!

[Applefan1]

I know the iphone argument by the asker was a very weak one.

[JesushentaiChrist]

You miss are right, what's the point to date an ugly bitch who only cares about money? Mmm...

[gotc147]

Trolling trolling, trolling GAG alone...

[Asker]

I asked seriously.

[gotc147]

Sure you did.

[Anonymous]

iPhone? LMAO... way to be a sheep. I'll keep my high end Windows phone.

Have fun being a gold digger. The rest of us will enjoy our relationships based on LOVE.

[Asker]

Is love enough for you both? What if at some point your wife lost her job and you won't be earning enough as well? How would you pay for children's school fees? How would you fulfill their dreams?

[WpCurious]

Okay let's say at one point your husband loses his job, will you then leave him just because a small hiccup in his career? this is very shallow.

[Opinion Owner]

Fun fact: You don't need an expensive car to go on a fun drive. I mean, it's about being with each other, right? Or do you just want to be seen getting out of a Bentley?

[Opinion Owner]

My fiancee is one of 7 children. They grew up in a trailer for many years. They were happy and successful in life.

[Anonymous]

My mother told me once: "Never be a money sucker, you'll be worse than a parasite."

[kittykatg]

Love, the only reason you should be dating anyone

[Asker]

I will ask you the same question I asked someone.
But does your heart even matter? What if you and your husband both are earning, but at some point, your husband lost the job, and you are earning not enough to pay the fees for your children's education? Or you couldn't take them to their dream vacations? Is it even worth it?

[kittykatg]

I'm currently in that situation. My fiance lost his very high paying job and we can barely afford our old lifestyle on my salary and his military drill pay. We've cut back on a lot of things but our life together is still amazing and I wouldn't change anything.

[Asker]

But how long can you make it work? What if he gets a not-so-good job, and you both remain stuck in an average life forever?

[kittykatg]

I'm working on getting my PhD and he's a music major. I'm well aware that I'm going to be his sugar mama later on when he works on getting his masters in composition and works in the music industry. We are going to be together forever. Our life is far from average, it is amazing and it is only going to get better.