Should you delete old Facebook photos with you and an ex?

Question

I was asked to delete photos of myself and an ex, that were on Facebook. We haven't been together in about a year and let's be honest they are an ex for a reason. However it makes my new partner kind of uncomfortable to see photos of me and ex. We aren't kissing or anything. But they mentioned I was looking at my ex the same way I look at them. what do you guys think?

AGonzalez · Accepted Answer

I believe that if both parts in the relationship are mature enough, they shouldn't care about their past relationships. Sometimes you need to believe you are better that any other girl/guy he/she has ever been with, because if you don't you'll end up being pretty jealous. The one who needs to make the decision to upload and/or delete photos is the person who owns the Facebook profile, whether they are with a girlfriend, exgirlfriend, strangers, family or whatever.
You both need to accept that the other relationship is over and if she/he is with you, then there is nothing you should worry about. If he/she eventually goes back to his/her exgirlfriend/exboyfriend, then it's their problem and you don't have to worry about it, it's just experience you gained and a closed door that leaves space for another girl/guy to come.
I once was asked to delete a guy who I had been with from Facebook, I was young and inmature, and "in love with the idea of love", so I did so and now I can see hoy inmature I was and how I regret doing it, because it makes me feel embarrassed. The point is that if you love your partner and trust him/her, there is no need to ask them to delete pictures with their ex or unfriend an ex or someone you don't like. That's just inmature.

BunnyBoomasaurus · Accepted Answer

I would say keep them. Its not like you're forcing her to look at them. Even if you did delete them, the fact that you took them and those things happened still wouldn't change, so all that would happen is that you would regret not keeping them later. I think it's a shame that she doesn't have enough confidence in you to just leave it be.
My boyfriend has photos of him and his ex. Hell, he even still meets up with her sometimes to have a catch up. She should have faith in your relationship and not burden you with her insecurities because deleting a bunch of photos will not improve the situation.

LastGirlScout · Accepted Answer

Who fucking cares? Try dating a grown up who doesn't get upset about you having a past. Just untag yourself in them if it's that big a deal, but she sounds like she's insecure (surprise surprise!) have fun with that.

Hibernia86 · Accepted Answer

I think it is strange for a person to request that the person they are dating delete Facebook pictures of past relationships. I get that she wouldn't want her boyfriend to carry around a picture of his ex in his wallet, but Facebook pictures are just a collection of past pictures. It would be like a wife in the past asking the husband to go through all his old photo books and cutting out his ex-wife from all of the pictures. It is just a red flag for insecurity. And given that she is refusing to delete pictures of her ex-boyfriend from her Facebook page, he is under no obligation to pander to her paranoia.

john9871234 · Accepted Answer

It reminds you of things you used to like and how you have developed over time, I still have photos of my ex on my phone. Though for me I still care whereas she doesn't, it just nice when you're looking for something and you see them briefly, it just reminds me of the happiness that the photos brought

Hiitsmejen · Answer

Always hated this problem. For me it feels like deleting a part of me. Though the relationship is over, its still a part of your life. Its your history, its what shaped you.

I am a very honest person with a conscious the size of the grand canyon, but this I won't usually do until I am ready, if at all. In the interest of keeping the peace, i would copy them to a secret place and hide them well. Don't keep looking at them. No harm can come if you, and only you are aware of them. As long as that is your ONLY intention. I dont condone cheating or lying or such shenanigans. But that belongs to you.

NoDoubt · Answer

Well if the ex is really an ex, and your current partner is requesting you to delete them, then delete them. It shouldn't really be a big deal to delete them if they are of an ex. If the roles were reversed she should also delete the pictures of her and her ex.

wonderhappytime · Answer

Well I deleted because I personally wanted to move on. I felt like I had to move on and keeping a picture of her would remind me of her. However, your boyfriend should not have any say on whether you should or should not keep them. If you love him and he loves you, and there's no additional bullcrap, then he needs to trust you in that its just him in your eyes. insecurity really.

HellOnEarth407 · Answer

if u want the girl your with to take u serious ya. You don't have to be insecure to want photos like that deleted. Its more out of respect n any right minded person can see why it would bother her. Yea she's an ex for a reason but its still grimey to keep pics up of your past with her, almost like u still think about her or have feelings for her. Roles reversed I know damn well I dont want to see a pic with my girl n her ex all jolly n what not... would u?

godfatherfan · Answer

It comes down to how much you like the person your with. I save the pic and delete the one on Facebook. I really don't want to look at them. But once I dated someone that mentioned she always had to see that one picture every time she logged in as it was in an album. so I just took it out. no big deal. You can put it back after you break up with her.

bunnyy · Answer

my boyfriend did but he deleted them after they broke up not when we got together. Some of his friends didn't though and it does kind of make my stomach turn seeing pictures of them together but mainly because she treated him so horribly and he is the sweetest kindest person ever, he never deserved that.

Hannah591 · Answer

I said keep them because mine are still on my FB, well one ex is. I never really thought about deleting them, they were a chapter in my life which once made me happy. I believe I deleted the abusive ex ones.
It's entirely up to you. If you feel they bring bad memories, delete them. If you don't care, keep them or delete them. Do what you want and don't let your new girl tell you to take them down. She's insecure and on the path to controlling behaviour.

FastTrackHeart · Answer

I personally delete everything from an ex. I give back their things left at my house, old texts, pictures and all. I see those things as reminders and they no longer have a place in my life. I would expect my boyfriend to delete them if I asked but some people do not feel the same way I do about this and we had an argument before he finally understood how I felt. Those "momentoes" have no place in our relationship!

YourFutureEx · Answer

Don't waste your time, if she doesn't likes these then handover your account to her & tell her to delete the every photo which irritates her. If she deletes them then it'll be good for your relationship & if she doesn't then they'll remind you of sweet memories like 'oh man! I banged that hot girl'

Jerusha · Answer

You can limit the privacy so that only you can see them. But deleting them shouldn't be a problem if you have moved on.

Anonymous · Answer

i think its kinda naggy and annoying that she asked you to take them down. she could get over it, and not look at those pictures. but since she is your ex and thats old news, there's no reason to not delete the pics. honestly i delete pics on my fb every so often.. especially old ones with people i dont talk to anymore.

GingerBiscuits · Answer

They'd be gone as soon as am online after the breakup. Only reason someone keeps pics of exes is for the nostalgia in them.

AnayaWilliams · Answer

If you don't want any flashbacks or memories of your ex popping up in your head then I would delete them

Anonymous · Answer

I'd say make it private to you but we all know how girls love to "accidently" see (open) your computer and happen to fall on an old page (snooping) to see something about your past
So overall delete it

misselectricred · Answer

I personally wouldn't have pictures of me and my ex on any social networking sites,  etc . If you do want to keep them just keep them on a folder in your computer or something. I think it's best just to remove all of that before even getting into a new relationship. It has nothing to do with being insecure but I wouldn't appreciate it, especially if the person I was dating had an ex who still liked him or something.

allwood · Answer

delete them and if she has any with her ex, get her to delete them too.

CommieDearest · Answer

I delete everything, what he does with his shit is his business. I don't even know about it because... no contact

lurker · Answer

I would delete or at least hide all photos of my ex before entering a new relationship... not sure how you can get over someone if you have their pics all over your profile..

TinyThugFace · Answer

I have been broken up with my ex (of seven years) for a year now and my new boyfriend recently asked me to delete them, I honestly replied to him that he was in my life for a long time but there are no longer feelings for him anymore but those pictures are a part of past. You just need to reassure your partner that they are your current and future or have them reassure you. If it really comes down to it--- just put the photos on private or the "only me" setting.

ilovemysex16 · Answer

She should accept you having a past but, I can see where She's coming from.
The first week me and my boyfriend was dating without me even asking he deleted them.
She's probably thinking you have feelings for the other girl, You need to set her straight and tell her pretty much there's a reason for her being an ex

lePoivre · Answer

You can't erase the ones you used to care about from your life, so I say keep the photos. What happened between you and your ex happened and there's no use pretending it didn't.

ohshiznit · Answer

Honestly, it's your call! It's a small thing that would make your new girlfriend more comfortable.. Most girls don't actually like telling you what to do.. So if she's asking you to delete them it must really bother her! But at the same time if you really don't see the issue then you can keep them and maybe just make it so your girlfriend can't see them?

lananoel · Answer

Delete them... I don't know why this is even a question? It is about respect. Why represent your past when your present is with them?

Michael-in-SC · Answer

Personally, I'd delete them, but I'm about ready to leave Facebook for good at the end of the month. I'm so sick of the constant drama and nonsense posts.

Katy16 · Answer

I delete mine if there is an ex in them so I would want the same done

singlebee · Answer

Yes you should delete it... for the sake of your new partner... And your relationship

Findesemana · Answer

not delete them... just place them in an old folder... with the only me setting.

Anonymous · Answer

this is why you shouldn't have uploaded pics with her in the first place

TheWayfaringArt · Answer

If it were me, I'd delete them as I would want to start completely fresh.

curiouswoman25 · Answer

You could mark them to private so only you can see them and that way if you and your partner don't work you will still have then or save the pics and delete them off your fb

Klaatu51 · Answer

i would keep the photos for... homework... if you know what i mean... XD XD XD

KleinTeef · Answer

I don't delete them, not because I don't want to delete them, but because I just don't give a shit.  If my gf asked me to delete them, I would.

This_guy_here · Answer

Both us and them gotta move on. Keep her as a contact if you will but pics as a couple, either just walking together OE having intense nasty coitus belongs to the past.

msg812 · Answer

delete them because probably your future gf/wife wouldn't like this and this would be a problem for your future relaationship

zombiebabe · Answer

just delete em'''... they're part of the past

kangy · Answer

If we break up on friendly term- i would keep them otherwise i would delete them.

Anonymous · Answer

Yassss it shows people you are ready to move on with your life

Anonymous · Answer

I deleted those suckers within a day of breaking up. Bastard. Lol.

Maxemeister · Answer

Well, it's memories and I can't just cut someone like that out of my life

vanillaMaria · Answer

Put them in folder so they are not public anymore. I wouldn't delete them but would make them private or move them.

Anonymous · Answer

I dont delete mine and dont really care if she does.

miserybusiness · Answer

If she won't delete em', you shouldn't have to.

cheonsongyi · Answer

Delete, block. Killswitch.

Anonymous · Answer

Yes delete them they are not in your life anymore so say goodbye to them

maiez · Answer

i keep them up, unless i hated my ex i guess.

manar · Answer

keep them. its just memory

stevephillips706 · Answer

Yup I would delete them

Horuseus · Answer

No i won't delete them.

legalboxers · Answer

delete memories.. out of sight... out of mind

Anonymous · Answer

You should delete Facebook.

Anonymous · Answer

You should delete them I'd say..

Dionysos · Answer

Naah. Leave em up.

Pinkbeauty · Answer

u should delete them

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