What is more pointless a friends with benefits relationship or a long distance relationship?

[Anonymous]

I find both equally pointless. Neither progress or go anywhere and both leave the participants heart broken. What are your thoughts?

[SillySilberman]

Definitely "friends with benefits". I don't see the point behind that. Two friends act like they're both in a relationship together behind closed doors, most likely occasionally have sex, yet the two are rather inseparable friends? Anyone in a "friends with benefits" might as well be in a relationship together to begin with.

A long distance relationship (LDR), I don't find pointless however. I find that it can easily be made into a joke, yet it can bring some of the best outcomes in a relationship possible. An LDR calls for two who are trust worthy of each other. If the two people make the effort, poor the love and patience that the relationship needs, then it can most certainly work out.

I have two incredible friends that had an LDR for over 4 years. They only ever talked over webcam and the occasional text message. For, 4 YEARS! That's longer than most marriages now-a-days. Hilariously, they've been married for 10 years, now with three kids (expecting the 4th mid 15'), and they both are inseparable.

A long distance relationship can most certainly work out. Don't knock it till ya' try it, or know someone personally who have has successful outcomes from one. A friends with benefits relationship however, is an absolute joke for me.

[Asker]

All the guys I've been shagging have girlfriends that are a long distance away. That's prob the secret of their happy marriage. Non stale sex

[SillySilberman]

Well they are together now. They haven't been "long distant" for since they got married 10 years ago.

[Asker]

He may have stopped by now. The fact he's on kiddy number 4 doesn't bode well. All snot happy

[depeche2015]

For me friends with benefits. If you can see each other in person but don't want to be together but be able to have sex and do boyfriend/girlfriend things is kind of weird. At least in the long distance relationship they're together and actually love each other for why they're still together even though they're apart from each other. Long distances relationship can work it just takes two people to make it work. It takes a lot of communication and reminders that you're in love with them and distance shouldn't bother you if you truly love someone. There's always a possibility in being together in a long distance relationship with mutual feelings whereas a friends with benefits relationship they don't have to love each other or even care about each other. They're just using the other person for when they're in the mood for sex but they don't want them to be their boyfriend/girlfriend so I don't really see the point in that and find it odd.

[Metlahead]

Friends with benefits have always been positive experiences for me that led to great sex and meaningful friendships.

I have never had a long distance relationship, but I think intimacy is too important for me to ever consider one long term.

[Asker]

It's impossible to still be friends with the people you use for sex!!!

[Metlahead]

It is possible when you use EACHOTHER for sex. That is the secret. I have many friends with benefits and we have been friends for years. We have been there for each other through hard times and go out just for fun too. Don't tell me what is impossible when I do it regularly.

[Asker]

Ahhhh, you were actually friends first. I get you now!

[Metlahead]

If you aren't friends, then its just casual sex.

[Asker]

That's what went wrong with me. I didn't know them from Adam. They treat me appallingly and I got pissed about it. Told their ohs. I've now spent 8 months pining after my last but I refuse to replace him as I'm going celibate!

[gobsmacked3]

Both akin to playing leap frog with a unicorn

[Asker]

Nice ;-)

[Anonymous]

Not everyone falls in love with their friends with benefits .

[Illusive_Man]

If you can't yoke the heart why fight it?