Do Guys Ever Regret Cheating?

[Anonymous]

If so, how long after/ under what circumstances?

Yes

Rarely

Never

[Anonymous]

One of my male colleagues cheated last year on his long- term girlfriend. He regrets it everyday. His girlfriend ended the relationship and she is now dating another guy. He told me he hates to see her happy with someone else, and wishes he could undo the hurt he caused her. So i guess some guys do regret it, others don't

[Vesuvius87]

They sure don't regret it when it's about to happen since they're not thinking about you in that moment. So I would say rarely and if they do it's because they got caught and can't eat their cake anymore.

[Vesuvius87]

If anyone wants to have a partner and cheat, look for someone that's into open relationships. Don't waste a monogamist's time.

[bubble_tea]

Most guys only regret it when they get find out.. voted rarely.

[Anonymous]

Only if they get caught, because we know what we are doing is not meant to hurt our partner, it doesn't mean we don't love or respect her. It is just a biological natural desire and we are only sorry when we are caught and are shamed for it by women.

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=cXMC9MbTnjc

[Asker]

So you would not be sorry if you weren't getting caught?

[Asker]

Or own up to it

[Opinion Owner]

heck no. I don't see it as something wrong. I know I love my partner and that intercourse is just another activity that doesn't have any emotion behind it. It isn't any different than women going shopping. It's something that makes you feel good but doesn't have emotions connected to it.

The only reason we are told it is wrong is because women don't understand how it is different and have created a society of shame around it.

Would you rather have a partner who loves you but spends his life in chains not being able to completely be himself because of your insecurities and views oppressing his natural urges, eventually making him resent you for pushing your biased female centric views onto him.

Or would you rather a guy who loves you without doubt, treats you like gold, is happy and loving because he is able to be completely himself without fear or shame and deal with his natural human urges.

[Vesuvius87]

That's not the type of love I would want. Nope, you don't love someone the way they deserve if you can be with someone else. Might as well be in an open relationship. There are a couple girls that won't mind that. At least she would know about your sexual adventures, wouldn't mind and you don't have to hide it.

[singlebee]

@anonymous - you are full of shit!!

[Opinion Owner]

So you only want love under YOUR rules based on a female mindset which ignores the other genders biological differences... Yeah that seems fair.

AND YES, I CAN love someone completely and fully and still partake in a pleasurable activity that i'm not emotionally connected to... again you don't understand and therefore feel obligated to insist your rules onto it based on female biology of emotional connection.

Open relationships happen when women stop trying to stifle natural human biology.
Unfortunately women ALWAYS get emotionally attached in some way during sex and therefore make open relationships less about emotionless pleasurable activity and more about emotional connection between her and the person. Which will without doubt cause problems.

But like Patrice said, "going out to find a little happiness without hurting your feelings".

[Opinion Owner]

@singlebee If that's what you need to convince yourself so that you can be "a good guy", do what you gotta do bud. We all know how we think, and regardless of what you say... you know as well as I that your desire to roam is there regardless of why you suppress it.

[Vesuvius87]

Well then are you aware there is such a thing as natural human biology in women too. Historically, she can mate with the strongest and good looking male but only choice the supporter male as the one who will raise her child. The supporter could have ended up raising someone else's child for endless years and never find out about it. The woman sure didn't love the strongest male and only used him to have a child with his strong genes while choosing the supporter (aka ''father material'') as her life partner.

Hey, that's female human biology too. Technically, neither gender is monogamist but I don't cheat. I still don't give a damn about biology. Cheating is sooo low.

[Opinion Owner]

Yes and the natural human biology of women is not shamed!
Women can openly and vocally state that they will ONLY date tall men, rich men, built men, black men, successful men, etc. No one tries to FORCE them to go against those wishes and insist they conform to biological standards they don't agree with.
Women can make the decision if a male is able to raise a child or not, and society will take her stance. Women DO sometimes have a baby with someone simply for their dna and tell another man it's his and even when the other male finds out it isn't his, is required to still pay for that child as if it were his. NOTHING you said doesn't already happen!
Women take advantage of societies belief in "motherly instinct" and "women's propagative" every chance they get... and it is LOW, often times disgustingly underhanded evil acts against men. BUT society allows it because women can be women without question or justification.

Men on the other hand are expected to concede theirs.

[Opinion Owner]

and this is why when you confront your partner about it and insist he tell you the truth... 99.9999999999% of the time, he will lie to your face. Because if we told you the truth, we would be shamed and belittled and made into monsters. Then when you do catch us lying (which you force us to do) we are also shamed, belittled and made into monsters.

[Asker]

@comment owner, I appreciate your blunt honesty. However, your argument is completely flawed in respects to what I women want. Not ever female has "mother instincts" nor go for appearances or wealth. Everyone is different. In addition, I would like to simply point out your opinion, AND your age, and compare that to, for example, the second male opinion on this thread and HIS age. I think maybe maturity has a lot to do with how you argue about this. Or preference too, but like I said not everuone is the same.

[Vesuvius87]

The point I was trying to make is anyone that uses biological needs as an excuse for cheating on their partners is a scumbag. Both male and female cheaters are losers.

[Opinion Owner]

I believe I said "Women take advantage of societies belief in motherly instinct"... which is not a flawed argument simply because not all women have a motherly instinct. Society still assumes that women are the nurturers and that view is even wrong, but still exists.
I also never said all women want appearances or wealth, I said women can openly state what they want which included things like appearances and wealth.
I am 24, it is 2 years older than the male in question. Maturity I am sure has a lot to do with the fact that I am willing to tell you the honest truth without candy coating it for the sake of conformity and feelings. I am sorry if it sucks that we are biologically different and you can choose to believe anything that eases your mind, but assuming or stating that I am immature for pointing out actual tested differences between sexes does not make it less true. I don't believe that how I have gone about this is inappropriate, it's just you don't agree with me.

[Opinion Owner]

@Vesuvius87
Calling men scumbags for their biology and trying to shame actions simply because your unable to relate to the mentality of the actions isn't a fair point. I don't understand thermodynamics, so therefore I have no right to tell a scientist that what they are doing in the field of stem cell research is wrong, simply because I don't understand it and from my standpoint seems like a bad thing.

Throwing males and females into the same ring over completely different biological differences is not fair. It would be like saying that men and women who can't grow full beards are not real people.
You are treating the act of sex like it is the same for both sexes based on your female view of it being an emotional and connected act. When for men, sex does not have to be that.

Both male and female cheaters are losers.

[Opinion Owner]

Sorry Thermodynamics was so not was there when I typed it... it was stem cell research as with the line below it.

[Vesuvius87]

For me cheating is cheating, whether it's an ONS or a full affair. Yes, they're different types of cheatings but they're still cheatings.

Trying to excuse a guy's needs by saying ''it's just sex, nothing else, he can still love you, try to understand him'' is the same as stealing $100 and when getting caught for that, you saying ''But I only stole $100, I didn't steal a bank nor committed armed robbery, so it's not really stealing''.

Also, I didn't just call men scumbags for cheating, I called all cheaters scumbags (read again, I said ''anyone that uses their biology need'' as an excuse to cheat is a scumbag).

[Opinion Owner]

Yes cheating is cheating, but cheating is not a catch all term.
I am not "excusing a guys needs", I am simply explaining them.
Shaming them and trying to disregard them as some evil is wrong.

Your $100 analogy doesn't make sense. The reason for stealing would have to change.
Scamming you out of $100 because I'm a business, is just business.
Scamming you out of $100 when you are a drug addict is stealing.

Men are "business". Sex is our drive (our "$100") it is what we are built to do. (Spread our seed.)
We strive for it and work for it. Once we get $100 we don't just stop wanting money.

Women are "drug addicts", You aren't always out looking for the $100, you are happy as long as you have your fix (loving relationship), but when the fix wears off, even a little, you start to think about how you can get your next fix, the $100 starts to come into play, eventually when it gets to the point where you gotta have your fix, you will steal the $100 somewhere else and get your fix again.

[Opinion Owner]

I actually said calling men scumbags for their biology is wrong... not cheating.

But since the conversation is about how male biology is the driving force behind "cheating"...
you in a nondirect but direct way said exactly that men are scumbags for their biology.

[DocT1977]

They should. The idea of throwing away trust once instilled should definitely be a warning sign to stop what they are doing. If they don't own up, and show no remorse and attempt to justify their actions, Then they are worthless pieces of shit no matter how you slice it.

[Kshppatel]

The ones who cheat most likely have feelings at times of regret but really they probably would do it all again if it meant they didn't get caught. Same with girls who do it.

[Anonymous]

Do Girls ever regret cheating? Probably about at the same rate.

[Anonymous]

Maybe if I cheat emotionally. Sexually? No. I like to bang bitches, fuck anyone that tries to stop me!

[malakkaman]

Regret for cheating no. Getting caught maybe!

[Anonymous]

Never cheated