My boyfriend can't carry me?

Question

This may sound stupid, but basically, my boyfriend can't carry me. He's fit enough, and goes to the gym reguarly, but he keeps telling me that I need to lose some weight. I don't know what to do?

loveisbeautiful · Accepted Answer

I'm with everybody else, why does he need to carry you? I mean, I know when people are playing around or about to be intimate or on the wedding night it's very common for the man to carry the woman. But, other then that I wouldn't think there would be a reason for him to do so thus making this a non-issue. So, unless your boyfriend constantly carries you from room to room and even when you're out in public, I don't know why him being able to carry you or not would be a problem.

So, is there a specific reason you need him to carry you or is it just something you like for him to do for you? I'd like to help but I also like to understand this better. So, if you could help me understand why this is so important to you, that would be great.

Stacyzee · Accepted Answer

No, it doesn't sound stupid at all.
I'm pretty sure he can carry you, he just chooses not to.
He shouldn't force his physical goals down on you.
He should love you how you are.
If your weight isn't interfering with your health he shouldn't try to persuade you to
be any different than you are.
Losing weight and getting in shape should come from you.
I think you need to sit down and have a talk with him,
He's needs to cool off or he will end up ruining your relationship.
He will also instill in your mind 'insecurity' and that you aren't good enough for him.

Hannah591 · Accepted Answer

I'm 63kg and even the weediest of guys pick me up without a problem. You don't need to lose weight, he needs to hit the gym more! He's not strong enough but instead of admitting that, he's trying to turn it around on you. He sounds like a dick you shouldn't be with tbh.

GamerArtNerd · Accepted Answer

If he's fit and he can't carry 59kg then he's obviously just using that as a lame excuse to tell you that he doesn't like your body. I'm really skinny and 59kg is nothing to me. How tall are you? Because that is actually a fairly average weight depending on your height.

Anonymous · Accepted Answer

Why do you need to be carried?  Are you cargo that needs to be shipped?  Basically the problem is gravity Become more resistant to gravity  Otherwise, stuff your face with pizza and say fuck it.

zorro8888 · Answer

Oh I'm so sorry to hear that, how did you lose your legs again?

Anonymous · Answer

how tall are you? 130 lbs is fairly heavy for most women, unless you are 6' tall. I think that many men would have a hard time lifting 130 lbs at that age. I can but Im a weight lifter. A rule of thumb is that a man should be able to at least lift his own weight. A person, however is a bit harder to carry due to the awkwardness or the body and the inability to get a firm grip.
Can you lift him? You should be able to lift your own body weight too. Does he weigh more or less than you? What is his height?

LittleSally · Answer

I don't think he's that fit...
OR he has some kind of a disability because anyone can carry 59kg...
So...

He sounds extremely weak for a dude... Even sounds weak for a girl. O. o
I could definitely carry you.

If this bothers you so much - go find a stronger man - in both senses of the word.

Takada · Answer

He can't carry you, because you're not a fucking child. He isn't supposed to be able to carry you.

HoodieGuy · Answer

Your a grown woman. Why do you need to be carried? Are you unable to move on your own?

KDA20 · Answer

There is no point in you losing weight putting your health in danger so he can fulfil a fantasy of his. He will just have to suck it up.

red324 · Answer

You have to help him a little. One of his arms will be right where your knees bend and the other will be in the middle of your back. Then you hold around his neck and hold your legs too. Then he should be able to pick you up off a bed or something like that.

cinderelli · Answer

aww.. thats too bad.. i would really want my guy to carry me.. i hope he does.. how much do you weigh?

PiuBelloAmante · Answer

you dont weigh too much
how tall is he? how skinny?

he obviously isn't doing something right at the gym, if he can't carry you 59kg isn't heavy at all

He obviously isn't fit enough go tell him to eat some chicken and lift heavier

dogbert444 · Answer

So, OK! Lose some weight. It's not that hard as long as you have motivation and self discipline. A slight increase in exercise and changing your way of eating (NOT a diet!!) will easily lose you 1 lb a week. In 6 months that's 25 lbs! Enough?

Jay-Are · Answer

What? 59kg and he can't life you? Tell him to go the gym more.

MusicMayhem · Answer

You could always try having a piggyback ride on him instead haha!

Klaatu51 · Answer

u r not fat generally but this depends on how tall u r... personally tbh i couldn't carry u as well, but i don't go to da gym and i weigh less than u... is yer boyfriend lighter than u maybe?

musicbrain5 · Answer

Is it really that big of a deal? Why do you need him to carry you?

Anonymous · Answer

130lbs isn't a lot at all. He needs to buff up... or you can just use your legs...

Sexualchrist · Answer

If he's fit and strong but can't carry you it pretty much means you're either just a taller and bigger person than him or you're fat.

chrisbigman · Answer

Well, either you need to lose a little weight (about 10 lbs) or find a guy that stronger than him (or at least strong enough to lift you) if it's that big a deal.

Saydou · Answer

I thought that is nothing to complain about, carrying someone is an option but not an important thing, 59kg is good weight by the way

mangaka92 · Answer

You're basically the same weight as me and I could lift you. Sounds like an excuse, to me.

linkywinky · Answer

1. Don't ask him to carry you anymore 2. Lose weight

nickdg · Answer

Try lifting weights together. That is always good motivation. Who knows, maybe you will be able to lift and carry him.

Anonymous · Answer

either you're too heavy or your boyfriend is lifting light weights at the gym

justanothergager · Answer

Wow you're roughly only 122 pounds and he can't carry u?  Wattta beech. .

Anonymous · Answer

I couldn't carry my wife too, no big deal. Love is what matters.

Just_be · Answer

Haha im not a muscular a guy, im rather skinny but i can lift you :p

GirlScoutsRevenge · Answer

Lose some weight or stop asking him to carry you.

Anonymous · Answer

Lose some weight fatty!

BroBroncoski · Answer

Lmao. What you weigh?

Anonymous · Answer

Why do you need him to carry you?

darkfoxjj · Answer

What is your BMI?

mkaya · Answer

I can carry it. hahaha

Firestone · Answer

59kg isn't heavy

Anonymous · Answer

how tall are you?  may be you are more round :p

mgbeauty21 · Answer

Lose some weight LOL

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