Why would a guy hide the fact that he is married?

[Anonymous]

I was wondering the reasons behind a guy's mind in hiding their status? I have a friend who I have known for about 3 years and I know from another source that he is married- I guess it happened just recently, a year or so- his closest friends know he is married but he never told me he was going out with someone nor that he is married up to this point. Am I not close enough to him? I mean I don't think I need to be one of his closest friend to know his personal status. I talk to him on a regular basis on the phone, and he never gives any sign that he is taken. When he mentions he went out over the weekend, never mention any girl. So what's going on there? It seems that I am the only girl he knows to whom he has hidden the fact that he is married. One more thing, we go out clubbing once in a while with his friends and he never show up with her, why? You might wonder why I don't ask him, well I think that he has his own reasons to not tell me and I am not the kind of person who kinda throws personal questions to anyone.

[soulman99]

Maybe this guy likes the single life and is not committed to his wife. Is he flirting with you? Also, you might want to mention the wife in a subtle conversation, if you are at the club just ask 'how is your wife doing'. And see what his reaction is. Also, it might be that it just hasn't come up and he's not really hiding anything.

[Asker]

Yes, he flirts a lot with me. We met in college and it started since then but things did not progress. We went out a couple of times to hang out back then but I was not into him at that time so nothing happened.