I fucking hate my boyfriend?

[Anonymous]

He wants to message another girl and say hey call me on his facebook he let me have the password to. It was the first time i deleted the whole conversation... i feel like a jealous clingy girlfriend. But im so sad and angry that he was so adament about having his friend who he hangs out with a lot call him at a number i dont know about. His phone is off too and i tried calling him like 7 times already. Im really scared he might like her more than a friend and their friendship would get in the way of our relationship. Im so depresed right now... i feel like drinking and getting drunk bc i can't sleep. I already took two shots of bacardi rum and some other alcholoic beverage i found in the house. He wanted to talk to her more than me... he wanted her to call him at 2 in the morning... why? For what reason? I feel like kicking him in the balls right now. I want to talk to him so bad and tell him how i feel but his stupid phone is off and i can't. I want him to realize that it hurt me that he would rather have her call him and be so friendly towards her and like all of her statuses and pictures and hang out with her all the time and say how she has a big butt to me and how he even picked her up one time... I feel like he's just going to leave me for her and i will be the fool once agin. I hate him right now. I just want to cry and go to sleep but their messages are keeping me up and i just dont want to see them together anymore. Is it such a bad idea to suggest he not talk to think friend of his? I know im jealous ok... i dont care... he's my boyfriend and i dont want him cheating on me 😞😞😞😞😞😞😞😞😞😞😞😞😞😞😞😞😞😞😞😞

[Darkfairie17]

First off, I'm really sorry this is happening to you. But you need to calm down and stop calling him and trying to talk to him.

Give him some space. The more you call and try to talk to him, the less likely he will want to talk to you. No one wants to talk to their girlfriend when they are upset like this, because it's only going to cause a fight.

I know you are upset, but there is no clear cut evidence that he has cheated or is cheating on you. Yes, his conversations with her and maybe what he has said to you in the past about her is making you jealous. That's not cool on his part, but you have to refrain from getting overly upset and angry with him at this point.

Try to keep a cool head and take a minute to process everything.

Worst case scenario is that he is falling for this girl. You lashing out on him is only going to push him further away.

in my opinion, maybe there is some flirting going on. But we have no idea how this girl feels about him. If she is that close of a friend to him then she probably knows he has a girlfriend. I don't know about you but if I knew a guy friend of mine had a girlfriend and was being flirty with me I would put the brakes on that real quick. Even if I liked the guy, because starting a relationship like that is not good. Also, I don't want to get involved in another person's relationship. If the guy really wants to be with me, he should have the respect to at least end the relationship before seeing me.

Now, as for the 2am phone conversation, there are many reasons why a person could be up at that time. Especially when they are young. I know many of my friends stay up late. Sometimes people work at night too. Perhaps that's the only time he can talk to her? It does seem odd, but I feel there are some reasonable explanations for it.

Basically when it comes down to it, you have to trust him. I know it's hard, but trust me if this guy is going to cheat on him, you reacting like this before anything has happened is only going to push him away from you. This might result in him breaking up with you.

My advice is to give him some space. Then come back and when you are with him next sit down and have a calm talk about how you feel. Let him know that you are concerned about how it makes you feel. Definitely mention that he would probably feel the same way if the tables were turned and you were the one talking to a guy friend.

If he really loves you, he will understand and should be able to explain the situation.

[Ozanne]

Cheating or not, what your boyfriend is doing is stupid. So you have two realistic outcomes here: you either both fix this together and move on, or you break up. I guess you have to ask yourself if you can live like this for the rest of your life, because right now, shutting you out seems to be a game to him.

You should be the most important girl in his life, and to give some other girl privilege to things like a phone number you don't know and late night phone calls when you're not awake is not what solid couples do. You have every right to feel left out and hurt. Whether or not he's cheating or will cheat is a different story. But YOU have control over you and what you're going to do about this.

If it were me, I'd tell him, "Look, I don't have secret guy friends and phone numbers, because I put you first in my life and not other guys. That's the point of having a boy-"friend", emphasis on 'friend' because I don't need other boy*friends* I've got one already." And I would also add that by causing all this turmoil between you two over this has really hurt you and for you *both* to come up with a way to fix this. He should recognize he's being hurtful and you should recognize you're being jealous. This isn't just his relationship, it's both of yours.

If he shrugs this off and says no, he won't help with this problem and will continue doing what he's doing, again I ask you - how long will you live with this and allow him to make you crazy, and what is it about him that this behaviour is justifiable to keep him around? Anyway, good luck, I hope you two can talk this out properly and come to some compromise. If not, I hope you do what's best for YOU. :)

[Anonymous]

I think he done it on purpose to make you jealous... there is no other reason for him GIVING you his password and then messaging his ex or any other girl for that matter telling her to call him. SO he done it on purpose to make you jealous, my boyfriend does this type of thing all the time and it is obviously his SHITTY way of asking well begging for your attention, he is obviously feeling like he isn't getting your attention enough... still its a shitty way of asking for your attention yes, maybe you just need to talk to him about it and ask him honestly why he did it!!!

[BellePepper]

Why is he still your boyfriend? He obviously doesn't respect you.

[ilovesexyfeet]

If he's going to cheat he'll do it at some point. When u know he has then dump his arse. Until he does it u just have to trust him or dump him now or you'll always be insecure and the relationship will end anyway. Life's too short to be worrying about a partner cheating all the time.

[Dragonblood21]

You PROBABLY shouldn't be with this guy.

If you let people treat you like this, you need to look at yourself before taking any steps in a relationship.

[Deft_maiden]

I stopped ready!!! But based on your question the answer is pretty clear

[Anonymous]

did you check out the archives after deleted messages go there!!

[Ozanne]

I'm not so sure about this, because there is a drop-down on every message that you can delete them completely. Some people just archive thinking they're gone, but you can also "Delete Conversation".

[Asker]

When I click on the archive, it just deletes the whole conversation

[OnionsNstuff]

"and say hey call me on his facebook "

what, you can make calls on facebook now?

[Asker]

Yea its connected to facebook messenger and you are able to call through there. But he didn't suggest to call him from there, he gave a different number i dont know about to her..

[OnionsNstuff]

the details dont really matter

what you should be asking yourself is why on earth would you CHOOSE to be with someone that does not add value to your life?

[Asker]

I know right... thank you. He fucking sucks cow testicles i hate him

[OnionsNstuff]

bestiality is actually against the law in most countries, you should report that

[KandyCandice]

Fuck one of his friends then dump his ass

[IvankaSanchez305]

I love the way you think hahahaha

[mooky06]

He sounds dodgy as fuck.

Cut him loose.

[Anonymous]

You don't need a man to feel whole.