My boyfriend and I never fight?

[Anonymous]

OK so I'm told that its super unhealthy in relationship to not fight at all... Is this true? I have been with my boyfriend for 6 months and we have not had one fight .. Its weird.. But I seriously never have anything to argue about with him... Im also scared for when do get into to our first fight... I don't want to lose him.. And don't want to do anything to hurt him either... All I want is to be happy with him but I want a healthy relationship.. Is this possible to do?

[Wondahwoman]

Not fighting because you have nothing to fight about is one thing, but not fighting because you are holding issues back and ignoring them is another. While it's true we learn a lot about the future of our relationship from our first fight, how long it takes, and the intensity of it can vary from person to person.

It could be that you two just get along and nothing as risen yet to cause argument, it's only been six months and in the beginning we tend to put blinders on. They don't do the little things that annoy us or puss us off yet. As long as you don't bottle things up when the time comes to avoid confrontation I'd say you have nothing to worry about.

[SammyGurl]

No it's not unhealthy unless one of you holds their feelings when they feel like the other has overstepped their boundaries. Honest, open communication is the key to not having any "need" to fight and clear the air. Both relationship styles have their place as long as you "Kiss and Make Up" in the end.

I've known my husband and been best friends since I was five, we have only had two immature spats in that time, way before we became romantically involved. We are just so close that we pretty much know what the other is thinking or how they'll react, it's weird. Our friends told us we were as bad as an old married couple even before we began dating.

[RationalLioness]

That's not unhealthy at all. If you have nothing to quibble over and you're both being honest, you're both very lucky. It's actually detrimental to fight ALL the time and I doubt that you want that.

I'm sure you have disagreements and if you work through them, they never escalate into fights which is very healthy.

[AlphaMale1]

Fighting is NEVER a good thing while in a relationship. The problem with fighting is words are said that can never, ever be taken back or be un-spoken. Talk. Discuss what is on your mind. Stick to facts in a loving way on how you are troubled or upset over the issue. If you do this you will be amazed with the outcome. You may very well find yourselves loving each other shortly after. How often does that happen when you are done arguing?

[DarkHumorRUs]

It's only unhealthy to PREVENT yourself from fighting if you ever feel like you need to. So you're fine.

[Oxi112094]

Not fighting is healthy. It means you guys are both on the same page and dont cross each others boundries to the point of wanting to kill each other.
From experience, I thought I was never going to fight with my boyfriend... those were the days:))) But then we got too comfortable and started arguing constantly. Who wants that? It made me lose my mind, but I love him enough to make it work and for us to get our feelings out, and make sure to make up at the end of the day :-))

[throwit]

I'm in a 2 year relationship and we've yet to fight. I'm happy he's happy I don't see how getting along and not being a child and fighting over the stupidest shit is a bad thing.

[Anonymous]

Well... you only fight with people you care about. I don't mean hair pulling , arm punching fights. But little arguments here and there are normal. I find that if there's no arguments then someone is giving in because they just don't care enough to voice their thoughts

[Drooogie4]

I never had any rights with my guy until like, a year or so in. Before that it was easy.

Hahah, it'll come. It will.

Just, handle it well and stay respectful of each other when it does

[jayyyjayyy]

Don't worry your time will come your still in the "honeymoon" stage.

[jakeofalltrades]

it would depend on why you never had a fight, if you legitimately have no reason to fight than I say you are doing good, better than most in fact. but if its because one of you just bits their tongue and says nothing than that is unhealthy

[heater55]

I agree with what some people have said... it's not necessarily fighting, it's more been open and communicating about your issues, which sometimes leads to a fight. It's better to have it out in the open than hold it in and let it eat away at you

[SatanClaus]

"6 months" thats it? give it time gurl shit will happen