I am so sorry but it looks like you will lose her...
She is basically enjoying her freedom (albeit a little too much) and you are something which restricts that...
She most likely will want to date etc and she knows she has promised you other things. You are basically a conscience in human form who reminds her she keeps breaking promises and rules and letting you down.
This negativity will end you so you have one of 2 options:
1) you can tell her how you want it to be and discuss your future together, potentially limiting your relationship at the same time
or
2) you can tell her you understand she is going to have fun with her new friends and that you dont want to be forgotten about. Just ask her to be courteous and let you know if she has been out late that she got home safe so you won't wake her with a good morning text.
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Sadly, it's completely possible. Uni is a whole other world and many options become available to you. If you are her first big love, she might want more experiences in that department. In fact, she may want experiences of all kinds, like partying.
The social group she hangs around with and the stress she has in uni may also contribute to her swearing, drinking, change of mind and personality.
I can't say this will pass over. It might, but she may enjoy life more this way and stay like she is now. But maybe it's just a phase and will eventually pass. It can go either way, I'm afraid.
In the meantime, try your best to have a conversation with her about this so you both know where you stand with each other.
I think she wants to explore the waters some. That can happen, college, the environment, the people, the abundance of guys, maybe she just wants a break from you for a bit.
This is to be expected. This is why pre-university relationships have almost no chances of lasting. There's just no way. How can you honestly expect someone to stay with some significant other that they barely even see when they have all these other new opportunities and potential experiences in college? It's neither of you guys' fault. Unfortunately, you two should break up, at least temporarily. Live your own lives. Then if later down the road she wants to reconcile, you can consider it, but don't count on it. For now, live your own lives.
Meet someone new. Don't be do caught up in whether a relationship lasts, because they usually don't. Just try, give your best, and enjoy them while they do, at least for the next few years.
There is a reason why couples tend to break up after high school and starting college.
This relationship is over... the sooner u accept this, the sooner you'll heal, and the sooner you'll find someone else.
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It might be just a phase. Give her some time... she'll bounce back to herself eventually, I'm sure ;)
She has found a new world, guy's booze, guy's , parties. and did I mention guy's. You should move on! she 's moved on from you!
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