You should talk to him about it. It's pretty hard to tell if he is just playing with you, so he won't lose you. I had this same thing happen to me, and it turned out he was only using me.
The deal was I met him and we went to a party with our friends. Me and him were drunk and we went back to his house for the night. And we hooked up that night. After that for about a month, we went out to dinner, and acted like we were dating. But it turns out he was just using me for sex. Then a few days went by and he stopped talking to me.
Then around 3 months later I was with a new guy, and then HE texted me and I had a smile on my face. Well lets say I fell for him all over again. And I told him how I felt about him and he ignored it. We had sex again and I told myself I wouldn't, but he got to me like always. But now I'm starting to see his true colors and surprisingly I'm done with him. I'm done with him using me for just that.
But I really hope that doesn't happen to you, him playing games with your heart. But seriously talk to him about it, and if your gut feeling is telling you he is just using you then walk away. But if not then yeah be his girlfriend. But I'm sure you will meet a guy who will respect you and wouldn't do those things.
I wish you good luck.
Well, time for him to put his cards on the table. Ask him if he means that he wants a relationship with you and all the things that go with it. Like calling you his girlfriend, and going out on dates, and introducing you to his friends and family. In other words taking this public and not just basing it around sex. That will tell you the difference between whether he is trying to keep his booty call (guys will do that) or really wants a relationship.
I had to do this with a guy last year. I actually was pretty sure he was trying to string me along and I was right. He definitely did not want to tell me all we were was FWB because he knew I would start dating. But he wouldn't say he was ready for a relationship either. It was irritating. When I mentioned that I was going to start dating he didn't say boo to that either but kept contacting me like we were still going to see each other. I did start dating, I stopped responding to any sexual texts he sent and kept any other responses brief. It was funny. Finally I had to tell him to stop contacting me at all because I had a boyfriend.
I think he fell for you. See to some people the sex buddy is just that. While for others they start to feel things for that person. Bcuz lets be honest when we have sex every so often with someone we create a bond which some people might confuse it with a real relationship. You need to str8 up things with him. Let him know what you really feel for him. You need to think about it because if you love him as well you two my actually start somethings serious. Which is what you really want. Good luck!
I think you guys need to sit down and have a long talk. It is quite possible that this guy does have feelings for you and is serious. You need to sit down with him face to face and discuss this.
And, looking at your comments below - "he calls me everyday", if he does this then he is serious. Maybe you should give him a chance, you never know. If you get on well as FWB it is very possible that you would make a good couple.
Just straight out as him "WHAT ARE YOUR INTENTIONS AND WHERE ARE YOU WANTING THIS TO GO".
If you have been friends with benefits for a while, you will know whether he is lying or not.
I think you should just sit down with him and ask him. Honestly I don't know the situation so it could go either way. I would think that he would at least do semi romantic things to show you that he cares. If he hasn't done anything to show you that he loves you then he is probably afraid to lose his booty call. GL
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tell him that the FWB thing you have isn't a relationship and if he wants to start a relationship you have to stop being a booty call. you have to date and be a couple like everyone else and work up to sex. make sure it you that he wants to keep not just parts of you.
If you love him and he loves you apparently, make it clear that you want to be exclusive and not a booty call/friends with benefits (basically no seriousness... just all sexual friendship). He might be saying 'love as a friend' (that does him favors), but you have to ask him what does he mean and tell him what you want from him. If he doesn't want to be exclusive, then break it off because he will only treat you as a friend... and only want to have sex with you without strings attached.
Stop having sex with him but, Continue hanging out with him.
If he could handle that, Without just trying to get in your pants, Then yeah, Maybe he does have feelings for you and, Sees you as something more then just 'booty call'.
If not, Then, He's just saying that.
If the guy contacts you as often as that. He is serious. End of discussion. Give him a chance if he can make you happy and you enjoy his company.
Just give the guy a chance to prove himself to you! If you have already been seeing him regularly then that shouldn't be too hard!
You should give him a chance. Talk with him. Go on dates with him, outside, as in public. You might even consider not going past a certain point with him to see if it'll work beyond a physical relationship.
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