I'm a gorgeous unstable girl because of a "fuckboy"... What's wrong with me? Why can't I let him go?

[Anonymous]

At 22, I shouldn't be this foolish. But I keep returning to him. Everyone is telling me he is a "fuckboy"... I didn't even know the term before I met him. He keeps me on a string. When I say goodbye and SWEAR to myself I won't ever see him again, he comes back beggn and pleadin... And I can't say no. First time in my life I can't say no to a dude. I can say no and have said no to hundreds, and now with him, I can't. Everyday I promise I will move on, then I just end up more tangled in my hopeless feelings for him... Hoping and praying he'll come around, he'll stop lying, he'll treat me right. But I can't fool myself anymore... He's no good, but I can't say goodbye yet. What's my deal?

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+1 y

I've never been so emotional in my life. Hah, he's made me feel more than what I thought I could.

[becca123]

I can't help but wonder...

Maybe you're not so much "in love" as totally obsessed with the one guy you can't tame/have. As an attractive girl, guys flock to you. But not this one. He is a challenge, he is different, he is making you work for it while seemingly not caring about you at all. That drives you crazy.

Get a sheet of paper. Write two columns, Pros and Cons. List things under both. You'll see in black and white that this guy is absolute trash and not worth your time. Then, look at the list every time you get the warm fuzzies about him. Be brutally honest on your list.

Until you work this out of your brain, no one will "compare " to him. Work it out alone. I promise, if you delete his number and don't respond to him it will make it easier to walk away.

[Asker]

Honestly I don't think so. The feeling I have when I'm with him I just haven't ever felt before. Never have just wanted to lay in bed with someone on and in me for eternity. When we are together it honestly feels like the biggest high I have ever felt

[Alohaloli]

You are young life is short don't waste your good years with a fuckboy. I regret wasting my good years even though l made a decision to stop wasting them. I stayed in an area with no good dating choices because of my son's dad controlling me. Saying I couldn't leave the county. Now that I am out of that area I am beyond child bearing years! And I am meeting guys but not able to give them the family they need that.

[9mfeo]

Low self-worth, inexperience, having feelings for someone who doesn't deserve your devotion. It's not uncommon. One day you'll have had enough and won't be willing to put up with his shit anymore.

Then, all you have to do is make sure you don't get into something with a guy who treats you worse.

[Asker]

I don't have low self esteem. My father taught me to believe I was great and to believe in myself. And I do. I know I am a great person, inside and out, I love who I am becoming and have yet to become. I know any guy would be lucky to have me. It's not a self esteem issue.
Inexperience, yes, definitely. I've only had sex with one other guy and it wasn't good. The guy I was with prior to him had anger problems that soon had become directed at me. I left rifht away when I noticed it. I don't get why I walked away from something unhealthy then out of self love for myself, And now I am feeling as if I cannot.

[9mfeo]

If your self-worth was as high as you say, you wouldn't put up with his bullshit because you would know you deserve better. I don't see why you would.

[Asker]

I do know I deserve better. But it isn't about what I deserve. It's about what I want.

[9mfeo]

So you *want* to be treated like shit?

Because let me tell you something, darling, he isn't going to change. Why would he? He bats his eyelashes and you fall over yourself to take him back. You taught him to treat you this way because you allowed him to. And now he will never change.

But by all means, stay with him and get your heart broken over and over again.

[Asker]

No, I want the moments we have when we are together because they are incomparable

[9mfeo]

Knowing that he's going to turn around and treat you like shit the next minute? That's just plain foolish. You're letting him take advantage of you - and for what? A fleeting ten seconds? Wouldn't you rather find someone who made you happy all the time, instead of every once and a while, when he feels like it?

[Asker]

Yeah but I can't find that dude... So I feel like I have no other better choice. I know it's foolish :( but it's like a high. You know, like an addiction. Full of withdrawal and tolerance levels as well

[9mfeo]

I can't help you if you're unwilling to help yourself.

[aggressivebunny]

Romance is not just about flowers and poems. What you described above is the irony of romance. It feels so wrong, but at the same time it feels good.

[Asker]

It does, it's so damn bizarre

[GingerGuy]

There's something about him that you "think" you're never going to find in another guy. Might also be some low self esteem on your part.

[Asker]

I don't have low self esteem.

[LateNightss]

A fuck boy is actually a guy that's good looking but all he's good or is a fuck. You obviously have emotions for him so he's not a fuck boy to you, he's more than that. Fuck what your friend say, follow your heart.

[Meezy96K]

it looks that he has a huge impact in your loving life i say stay with him and change his attitude if not or hasn't changed for the good just leave him cuz this love will be full of broken hearts

[Joc4Position]

A fuck boy meaning what? A snake? A pussy?

Or do you mean he's a promiscuous guy? Because a promiscuous guy isn't a fuck boy.

[Joc4Position]

... necessarily.

[Asker]

I guess a guy who just wants to hit it then quit it

[Joc4Position]

That's not a fuck boy. That's just a promiscuous guy.

[Joc4Position]

People keep using that term incorrectly on here. I don't know why.

[Asker]

What's a fuck boy then?

[Joc4Position]

A snake. A pussy. A back stabber. A snitch.

[Joc4Position]

But not necessarily a guy who likes casual sex. I like casual sex, but I'm not a fuck boy. I don't stab people in the back.

[hifromkai]

You need to find someone better so that next time he comes along the door isn't open for him to Fuck with your head

[Asker]

I can't find anyone better tho. :/ at least in bed.

[hifromkai]

That's bullshit and you know it

[ConsultantIsBack]

You need to get with a better guy, go out there and meet other guys!

[Asker]

I have tried. I have guys asking me out left and right but I compare them all to him subconsciously

[ConsultantIsBack]

Well, compared to him they probably seem like great guys right? just let other guys into your life so you can forget him

[Asker]

They are missing "it"... I just end up missing him more

[ConsultantIsBack]

sorry miss oxytocin, can't help anymore, wish i could! good luck!

[Asker]

Miss oxytocin lololol 😋

[ConsultantIsBack]

:) good luck! seriously, i hope things work out!

[Asker]

Thank you!

[Anonymous]

Well eventually he's going to ruin your life completely and then it'll all be over so just wait and look forward to that day.

[Asker]

How? He's not going to kill me

[Anonymous]

Because you simply deserve everything that happens to you. What did you expect? :/

[hosseinmazdab]

Maybe you don't know your respect level
If someone don't care about u
Or disrespecting u
Just calculate it with your brain

[Anonymous]

And if a guy that truly cared about you came along you wouldn't care about him, the irony.

[Asker]

Not true, at all

[Anonymous]

men of the world right that down. fuckboys score and get em hooked, nice guys finish last... .

[Asker]

Nah I like nice guys too.
It's not that he isn't nice. He just doesn't want to settle down, and he lies. The lying isn't nice, but he isn't a total "bad" dude lol.

[zombiebabe]

try to hate him... this will be easier

[Asker]

Believe me, I have tried

[zombiebabe]

:( :(

[johnmsk]

is he so great in sex?

[Asker]

Yeahhh he's Italian and knows how to love

[dudeman]

its because you dont want to be a slut.

[takumii]

Your in love, you're fucked.

[Asker]

Is this what it is?

[takumii]

Yes :P why would someone make the same mistake over and over again unless they were stupid.
And love is known to make people stupid

[Marinepilot]

End it and quit whining.

[Sad_Onion]

blunt and to the point. i like this guy.

[Anonymous]

You sound like an ugly fatty to be honest.

[Anonymous]

be strong and leave him, duh

[COCOCHANEL]

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