In general, who do you think gets more attached in a relationship?

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I mean mentally, we all know that guys are usually the ones eager for sex

mjz00 · Accepted Answer

hi, this is intriguing... i read something on this site recently about women not actually being able to really completely love a man... with apparent research given it was with regard to our make up, biggest example i remember was our life giving ability for offspring and our make up is designed to favour our energies to them above all else. this made much sense to me from a evolutionary sense, loving another and being in love are energies from the same vibration of energy in the universe. a man is designed lets say to find a suitable mate through most likely sexual attraction then procreate and protect the female and offspring into adulthood, no different than many other species. if we see his emotions as being in love with these people in his life, its deep real deep so deep perhaps us females dont see it for its realness, which leads to a great deal of disharmony and misunderstanding. a man is a fixer a doer a provider a great deal of responsibility driven by his love but can all of this sometimes create the appearance of distance not giving the lady of life more time or spending more time with the kids. the females love and drive and time and a lot of effort are upon her children perhaps appearing less love for the man. if we consider the above as a possibility then a break up happens, often the female is with the children so a massive part of her energies continue the same but for the man pretty much his whole world has been destroyed and been lost... these are obviously just an opinion FLUID thoughts i have to add here I've had etc in no way being detrimental to any sex and every situation and person is different. So after all the waffle its not who loves more or deeper more like the porthole in the soul that feels depth of emotion and on a one to one level i feel men feel it on a different deeper level, which im learning to appreciate and accept and respect which hopefully will teach me to be a better person so i can love more xx

LilWeezey · Accepted Answer

It really depends and your question is *kinda* sexist under the assumption men care only or almost strictly about sex because its simply not true..

But I think men get more attached.
Because like others said *often times* woman fall in love faster but *often times* a man falls in love harder.

In my experience unless under *special* circumstances [cheating] men are usually more broken up about a breakup and take longer to move on from it than woman which to me means the man was more attached.

But again. there's no solid answer for this.

Glitz_Glamour · Accepted Answer

Girls do , from my personal experience anyway

I get very attached to the person I love. My entire word revolves around him. I'm not possessive and clingy though , but I get very emotionally attached. I'm trying to be different though because in my experience it's not appreciated.

I'm not the sort who objects him spending time with friends or away from me. I just get attached in the sense that all my thoughts and feelings are wrapped up in him. Once a guy has my heart , no other guy could ever take it away from him.

Jennyg123 · Accepted Answer

Nice guys get attached soo fast, especially virgins. I've never been particularly attached to an friends with benefits because i just wanted the sex and we were always doing it instead of having conversations 😂 the first time we actually spoke he said he didn't realize how cool i was and asked me out a week or so later on a date, i didn't see him again after turning him down because I started seriously dating my current boyfriend. So yeah lol most will say girls but i think it depends on the girl.

Rawrzz · Accepted Answer

I would say that guys, in general, feel more pain when it ends, for an extended period. If they're in an actual relationship, and not just for sex. Females seem to just carry on like nothing happened, after a week or a month. For it to be real attachement, I feel like it would hurt more if you were deeply attached. Of course, I've met a few women who were deeply pained for an extended period. Oh. No. Her boyfriend died. Sorta similar.

But, in general, I think males feel it more, and so were more attached. It's like if someome steals something from you. You're going to be more bent out of shape the more you valued it. If it was just a sentimental thing, maybe you cry for a week, then forget about it. Also, I think women don't dwell on exs the way many males do. It's a hard thing to measure. And I'm sure there's a lot of bias that's hard to bypass, because if you say "they were more attached," then it's like "I won", but you want to feel like they hurt you more.

We know women are more openly emotional. So they express a lot more than males, so it just seems like they get more attached, but to guage the guy, you really have to look at his medium-term actions, I think. Because most guys aren't going to be as openly expressive. And a lot of guys are going to pretend like they had no attachment at all.

Hell. It took me years before I was mostly over one of my exs. She was married within 3 months of the breakup. Just one example, but guess that's why I feel it's guys. Then, women require more to get attached to a man. I don't think women fall in love as easy as men. They want to more, but its harder for them, in my opinion. Course, I guess that means when they find a strong attachement, it's that much stronger, because it's harder to find for them.

It really is a hard thing to measure. I don't know. Could be either. I feel like it's guys, though.

G-Daz · Accepted Answer

I can quite confidently answer this one. I know that psychologically there is a big difference between men and women.

Women tend to fall in love more quickly but it's much easier for them to fall out of love and get over it quickly (relative).
Men generally take a longer time to fall in love, and it is more of a conscious decision in most instances to allow ourselves to love. There have been studies that also indicate that some men don't ever fall out of love. But either way, it is harder to end it and get over it.

Guys can have sex more detached than girls though, as i mentioned.

Paris13 · Answer

On Gag, and Another relationship Site I am Helping with as well, it Seems... Guys with more Cries. Good luck and Great question, @clarezero xx

InDetail · Answer

The common answer is women but On average women also just show a lot more emotions than we do because we don't want to be looked down on and we know if you know that you have the power and you'll stop trying then seek another guy to get attached to you to add to your worth... Obviously everyone is an individual but i'd argue guys get more attached because we keep things under raps in fear of losing you already so the longer the relationship goes on the harder it gets

Anonymous · Answer

"Behind a great man, there's a great woman"
I think the reverse is also true. I see the spirit of many guys being destroyed very often by evil woman, so I will say guys get so attached they either can't see what's right in front of their nose or they simply cannot leave.

It happens to many women as well, but on different grounds. In such cases, women are usually aware of all of it and are maybe more financially than emotionally tied.
Not like men, when women stop liking the guy, the sex will also lose meaning, as opposed to guys. Kinda ironic.

JerichoJared · Answer

... sex is a very important part of a healthy relationship. It's not something that gets tacked on.

To answer your question though, in a relationship that works, both are equally, "attached" to their partner.

Anything else depends on an individual's needs and maturity levels.

TheSpartan · Answer

Equally, but in different ways.

Traditionally, men have been willing to fight, kill, maim, and be fought, killed, and maimed in turn for their wives and lovers. We're not perhaps eloquent when speaking our emotions, but we'll do absolutely anything we possible can to protect and provide for our women whom love us.

Women tend to show their devotion through speech, kissing, body language, etc. They show their devotion in different ways than men do. Since I'm not a woman, I'm not totally an expert in how this works. But, essentially, they show their attachment through emotional expression.

ogutbomb · Answer

I voted guys because from my personal experience, I was in a relationship once (both of us were willing) but then, I was the one who had to do everything I could to keep it going and when she was contemplating to leave, I was the one who had to try over and over again to convince her. So yeah, by personal experience, I voted guys.

behnam1999 · Answer

We can't really talk about a specific gender. But I voted the girls. Girls are more emotional than guys, so they may care more about the emotions such as love and of course they may be more stronger when it comes to emotions. If they love someone for a good reason, they will absolutely continue the relationship.
But again I remind that, it was just a guess. We can't talk about a certain gender.

somebodysaycheese · Answer

Mentally? I've never heard of women getting attached mentally but emotionally. I think women dont get attached mentally and thats why we can break from a relationship that we know isn't going to work in the long run. So mentally we are always analyzing a situation so thats logical its our emotions that sometimes fogs things up

AriadneSky · Answer

I've dated both women & men, and in my personal experience guys. but i think it depends on the person. their history. their experience. their influences. their personality. their life goals. their ability to be honest with themselves.

i think people voted women bc thats a stereotype. i dont think it has anything to do with what actually happens. because as anyone who can make an honest attempt at being objective knows, you can't reduce any single behavior to a persons sex.

Unit1 · Answer

This is a very good question.
In my experience, I can get attached like almost shackled to a girl and my feelings and thoughts are fixated at her so much, that even the smallest things she does will be noticed by me.
Oh, I do fall so deep in love, that I barely can stay self aware <3 It's like a drug injection! Love is crazy sometimes.

But in general, I think it's the lovely girls. :)

bloodmountain1990 · Answer

I think both genders can get attached just as easily.

From my experience though, it all depends on the individual and how much I like them. For example, I'm more likely to get attached to someone I click with in many ways as opposed to one I don't really click with.

ManOnFire · Answer

"I mean mentally, we all know that guys are usually the ones eager for sex" - This is funny. You ask a question and then tell us what you think about guys anyway, lol.

AllThingsQuestioned · Answer

I think this is a funny question. I'm probably considered the "girl" in my relationship. I don't exactly depend or need sex, I'm not dominant, my girlfriend consumes more sexual content than me and I am very attached to her. Whereas she could go a whole week without seeing me and she wouldn't mind.

tyber1 · Answer

From a mental health perspective, I believe that men suffer from greater rates of depression following a breakup so I'll go with science and say men despite that being the counterintuitive answer.

Bobbyhill1 · Answer

anyone with common sense knows that guys feel the same just a girls, it is just that if a man shows that emotion he will be called ''whipped'' by his buddies. Guys act cool and like they dont care.

Anonymous · Answer

I think girls get attached WAY faster than guys do. Sex and relationships seem to more quickly become emotional for us. HOWEVER, once a guy is attached, I think it's harder to break that attachment. Since it takes guys longer to be more emotionally connected than for girls, when that attachment is removed, it's more devastating.

Anonymous · Answer

Equally... There is no saying girls or guys have it better...

The partner who loves more is weaker...

So if the guy loves the girl more... he is more attached... and vice versa...

Guys can get really hurt from girls too... We seek relationships too, we need more than sex...

FakeName123 · Answer

I think it is about even. Guys statistically fall in love faster than girls, so pretty sure the girls here saying "its girls" have no clue.

Queen_naki5 · Answer

People will say girls but I think it's the opposite. Once a man loves a woman deeply he becomes almost obsessed.

Ratiocinative · Answer

Well, in theory a woman should be because she has the most estrogen and estrogen makes you more emotional. Simply biology. However, guys these days are being taught to be extra emotional and feminine, so you never know.

devilish-cutie · Answer

I would say it depends on the person
girls are usually the ones that seem to attach more cause they are more emotionaly open
guys re more guarded but when guys give themselves in a relationship they are equally attatched

dragonfly6516 · Answer

When I was younger, before I started having sex, I was the one getting attached. After I started having sex, it was the guys who got attached. Dunno if the sex was a factor, but that was the point at which the tides turned.

LandisLit · Answer

Crap, I chose guys by accident but obviously the girls do. We're naturally more attuned with our emotions and much more empathetic. Guys can literally go fuck 20 girls in one night and not give a shit about them.

Alex88F · Answer

in my opinion guys. there are more suicides in the guys zone rather in the girls zone when a relationship finish for good - plus, girls can recover quickly : you gotta plenty of choices once you dump a guy

skykidx1 · Answer

I think both ways but girls get more attached and guys have a hard time moving on while girls can move on faster even more so if the ex is begging for them back.

April10 · Answer

It really depends to be honest. I think the stereotype is women get emotionally attached quicker but I don't know if that's true. I think girls are just more open and vocal about it. But it doesn't mean the guy doesn't feel it.

Saoirse_Nua · Answer

I am looking for an option C, I think both genders do this.

Anonymous · Answer

Dumbest question going. You do realise people have their own minds and their own way of dealing with things regardless of sex right? I've had female partners that aren't that attached.. and some that are needy af.

melllllx · Answer

Great question! I'm surprised actually at the amount of guys that say they do. It's interesting to see that because society implies that only girls are the emotional ones.

falafelany1 · Answer

Women are usually the ones getting more attached, but every relationship is different. Most guys are really looking forward to the sex, but a lot of women are too!

RedRobin · Answer

I really think it depends on who you're dating, how compatible YOU think you two are i. e. you could fall in love with them but not them with you and vice versa, etc..

PinkMichae · Answer

Depends on the relationship. I have often felt I've been more attached but men don't always show what they are feeling so it might come off that they are fine when the relationship ends.

Embercelica · Answer

I'm not an emotional girl, but I've seen plenty of girls get too attached. Although I've meet PLENTY of overattached, possessive, guys. Or just guy that get too close to my space.

OldTimeFlicksChick · Answer

I think maybe at the start girls can be more attached but in the long run guys. Of course that is just a broad generalization of what I have noticed. Everyone is different.

Winter_Storm_Guy · Answer

As a guy i get more attached but i believe most men like me are rare. I believe girls get more attached than guys in relationships. But when i love a girl i love her forever and never want let her go.

TaureanBull81 · Answer

Both partners are equally attached and invested in the relationship plus sex plays an important part as well! Having two people who are sexually compatible makes for an even more fulfilling relationship 😆😉

GingerGuy · Answer

I don't think 1 more than the other honestly. Depends on the person. Guys can be just as attached as women and women just as little as men sometimes.

Anonymous · Answer

After a while/long period of time? Men. Short term? Women. I am not sure about this opinion and I might be entirely wrong, but that's what I have noticed.

WoOolfy · Answer

I'm voting totally for guys. If He truly fell for her I believe He'll be more attached. We girls fall easily but not so strong as man I blieve. ^^

Sharktank33 · Answer

Definitely women do. Guys sort of do in the very beginning, but shit gets boring after some time and sooner or later, roles get reversed and its the girl who is the clingy one in the end.

OpenWine · Answer

Actually guys did. half the guys I know actually had a past with girls they actually loved and didn't cheat on. one of them now likes the open stuff and the other one now likes hoes over girls

Anonymous · Answer

Girls are usually at least as eager for sex, just usually more shy to say it. I think both get equally attatched though, but maybe guys slightly more cause girls seem to find it a lot easier to go from one guy to another

Pyrofox · Answer

girls are generally the faster to fall but it really depends when it comes to sex as guys are really unpredictable.

vishna · Answer

It SO depends on the person though, I can't pick a gender. I know how my relationships have been... and it's not the trend people assume

genericname85 · Answer

i think "how much feelings you catch" is determined by your gender. rather the quality of person you´re dealing with.

Anonymous · Answer

You girls will be surprised how much guys get attached but try to hide it. We don't get as much leeway to act that way compared to women

diegoD · Answer

relationships are like fat people, most of them dont work out

es20490446e · Answer

Girls, but guys have strong bonds too. Simply they will not show them as easily as girls.

Mesonfielde · Answer

In a healthy relationship, a girl would also be eager for sex.

amarahorrorstory · Answer

In my personal experience, the guy. I'm really distant so most guys seem clingy to me.

Blueeyes2016 · Answer

Usually it's worse for men during a breakup from what I hear

arineunha · Answer

girls in my opinion, after a break up guys are so ready to get into another relationship

19magic · Answer

It's about the same really some guys are over dramatic and some girls are over dramatic

John_Doesnt · Answer

Eager for sex does not mean attachment at all. It means we just want sex and most guys want to avoid any attachments.

Anonymous · Answer

Guys. They're the ones who always beg to stay and call down a girls phone and shit. And they always say "I love you"  Every guy gets hooked. Unless he's just using her for sex I guess.

martyfellow · Answer

Not many girls are into uncommitted relationships...

RandomBritishGuy94 · Answer

Girls get attached quicker but I don't think it's more deep once both are committed.

chc0009 · Answer

Men, since we have to be the ones who impress the women. It's fucking difficult to do that nowadays, especially since women are much more demanding than ever.

JamielovesKU · Answer

I think guys but it also depends on the relationship

Kaylyne · Answer

Personally I believe it to be us women, simply because it is us who generally looks for commitment.

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