I'm not looking for a relationship right now- truth or bullshit?

Question

Is this just a total lie and a cover up? I know this has happened to many people besides me lol, just be honest people.

Darkfairie17 · Accepted Answer

Honestly, if someone says that, RUN AWAY! Don't put up with the bs or even the truth. If that person isn't ready and you are, then walk away. You two are not compatible. If you walk away and you happen to talk later down the road and they are ready, great! But unless and until they are able to be ready, you won't be anything but frustrated with how things are. You can't rush someone who isn't ready. It may mean they aren't wanting you specifically or it may mean that they are not wanting a relationship at this time,

Either way, if they want you, they will allow it to happen. If not, then maybe they aren't all that crazy about you in the first place. And who wants to be with someone who is just settling?

CreativeMumble · Accepted Answer

It can be both.

But sometimes it is just because the person might not really have a good reason not to be with the person - without being mean, and then they say it to let themdown easily.
- Or some other reason.

And some people might actually not be ready to be in a relationship.

But I also think that if you really like the other person, then even though you think you might not be ready in a relationship, then you would still go for it.

But it's difficult to come with an answer that applies for everyone.

Jupiter35 · Accepted Answer

When I say it, it 100% means it is directed towards the person I'm dating. When I was younger, I worked a lot and didn't really have time for one. And by that, I meant that I didn't see the person I was dating as the best choice for my path at that time. Working was my way to distract until I found a good partner. If I didn't feel like he added that motivation to ease up on my work, it meant I was not ready to be in a relationship with him. But it really did feel like I was not ready at all.

lexi786 · Accepted Answer

It depends honestly, some use it as an excuse but some really mean it.

ThisDudeHere · Accepted Answer

Women who say that may just want to let a guy down easily. How often do you hear of it when a girl actually does straight out say that she isn't interested only for the guy to overreact and call her a bitch? A lot.

CisScum · Accepted Answer

How are we supposed to know, some people just don't want to date.

OlderAndWiser · Answer

Total 100% organically grown bullshit of the highest order.

Anonymous · Answer

From my experience it has been mostly BS. I think a small percentage of people actually mean it for one reason or another. Maybe they got out of a bad relationship recently, they are still in love with their ex or maybe they are trying to get their crap together and a relationship isn't a priority at the time. I know that what I have dealt with wasn't that. One guy in particular had told me its a bad time right now and he has other things going on. Then he disappeared and one day a couple months later on his facebook it said he was dating someone else. It is hard to tell who is telling the truth when they say this.

Anonymous · Answer

it can mean many thing. 1 she doesn't want a relationship right now, 2 she doesn't want a relationship with you, 3 doesn't want a relationship with you at the moment but will do when she is in a better space 4 she is fed up with men at this moment in tie and needs space to be able to appreciate then in the future. (I'm number 4)

snowangle · Answer

In my case it's the truth. I just got out of a 2 year relationship so I'm pretty determined to be single for a while.

MargaritaPeach · Answer

I think if there is true interest and a spark there, they say something more along the lines of "yes, but can we take things slow". Because they won't want to risk losing you. And even when you are barely making through life, you still need people that you want/desire/love around you. Granted, there are exceptions to this, because everyone goes through tragedies and dark periods in their lives. But normally, I would call B. S. on this excuse.

Shorty1991 · Answer

Nah, some people really mean that when they say it. Like if they want to work on improving themselves it their lifestyle.
Others may lie though. Some just say that because its their way of saying "sorry, but I'm not into you" they just don't want to hurt your feelings. But really, as if you wouldn't be able to tell that they're bull shiting you. I'd rather a guy was just honest with me and say "sorry but I the feeling isn't mutual".

Apple38 · Answer

I use it bc I'm genuinely not ready for a relationship and I won't be unless someone comes along and changes my mind. I honestly like the single life as of right now but I'm young so

Sara413 · Answer

I think people generally mean it. Even if some2said it and then ended up dating someone else not much later. Sometimes meeting the right person makes you suddenly ready when you weren't before.

starryeyedkitten · Answer

When i got an anullment i could barely get myself up and dressed for the day, i was that sad. Many men asked me to be their girlfriend but i simply wasn't ready

Izzex3 · Answer

Nah. When I say that I actually really mean it. Means I'd rather continue focusing on whatever else I'm doing at the moment.

Mayamoon02 · Answer

It means I am not looking for a relationship right now and I don't feel strongly enough for you to change my mind.

Stephbs2 · Answer

She means it. Some times on your life you really just don't want to be in a committed relationship that's not allways a cover up

RJGraveyTrain · Answer

It goes both ways. Some girls don't mean it, while others do. Sometimes you're just ready to commit to a person, and other times you just don't want to smash their ego.

Anonymous · Answer

Yes, I've said this and meant it several times in life when I had too much going on and dating was the easiest to drop. There is a lot of inconvenience and emotional expenditure when dating.

paetaytoe · Answer

Honestly relationships are Such a big part of your life when you choose to commit to one. If someone's not ready to make that leap they're just not ready :/

Cosytoasty · Answer

I don't often agree with these sweeping statements, but in this case, the instances where she actually means is are SO rare you can consider the phrase to be complete bullshit.

BellePepper · Answer

Bro, some people just don't want to date anyone. It's okay.

Prof_Don · Answer

Most of the time when a woman says that, it is bullshit. If she thought that you were that much of a catch, she wouldn't be so blunt to scare you away.

babeeeone · Answer

Yes it can be used as an excuse but some people really do want to be alone

Anonymous · Answer

If somebody likes you that much, they won't think of that tbh. If they do, they might think you're cool, but you've done nothing to truly wow. Otherwise, she'd snap you up fast.

Anonymous · Answer

In my opinion, if she told you that she's not ready as soon as you ask her, that means she's not ready for you. But, if she wants time to answer means she really mean it. It happens with me couple times. I don't know

capturemyheartnow · Answer

Could be anything. Sometimes you don't understand what is inside a girls mind. Most probably , I think , that you have been rejected.

chey1995 · Answer

Me personally, I've said it when I mean it. I'm not looking for a relationship at that time because I'm too busy, or something personal is going on. The first and only time I used that was when I was going through losing a job.

jman46241 · Answer

Yep, it's total bullshit. Almost as bad as "It's not you It's me"..

Gommers · Answer

15 women so far are liars, 11 guys have been with enough women to know otherwise. Keep that knowledge dropping guys.

Anonymous · Answer

It's bs, she either isn't interested in you or just wants casually sex.

Anonymous · Answer

Not ready for you but for some others mens she's

Anonymous · Answer

not sure to be honest

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