Signs of a CONTROLLING man/partner?

[Anonymous]

What are a few signs of a controlling man/partner saw a few signs of a controlling partner from my boyfriend and got a little scared last night by how demanding he spoke to me like 'Do you know who your talking to... don't speak to me like that. I think your being influenced by your friends' What makes it worse we were meant to be getting married soon as well...

[lemi123]

I'm not an expert on this, but here's a few very obvious signs of a controlling boyfriend/husband/partner.
If your guy has many of them, I'd suggest you to think over your relationship. Doesn't matter if you're getting married, it's your future! Imagine being married to a control freak... not good.
I also suggest you to talk about it with your partner, and see if he's willing to acknowledge his problems and change.

- He tells you not to go out with your friends/colleagues/family just because he doesn't like them
- He tells you how to dress ("that shirt is too revealing" "That skirt is short" "Don't dress like a slut")
- He gets anger fits that are uncontrollable (I'm not talking about getting just angry, I'm talking about breaking things, shouting for no reason)
- He threathens you in any way, phisically or psychologically
- He plays the victim when you don't do what he wants you to do ("If you don't do THAT, I'll kill myself/ I'll hurt myself")
- He's mean to small animals and children
- He demeans you constantly, saying that your opinion doesn't matter or it's wrong (even when you know more about it)

These are the most obvious signs. If you think you're in danger, please talk to your family or friends or someone you trust. Don't let a controlling person take hold of your life.

Good luck <3

[Izumiblu]

I recall you posting before that you guys were joking around on the phone, you told him to shut up and he reacted this way. Sounds to me like there was a misunderstanding... it happens when you are on the phone, people can't see body language, or here your tone and inflectiosn quite as well. If this is all you have to go on then i'd say you are overthinking this right now. If im remembering that wrong then i may be off here, but thats what i remember from your previous post.

To him it could conceivably sound like you were being controlling and manipulative of him by telling him to shut up, which drove this reaction.

[springocelot]

generally, they will charm you initially. then, they will gradually start isolating you from friends and family. many times, the girl won't notice that this is happening. he will dictate the choice of dress, friends, threatens you, etc. and if it gets far enough, he may even hit you.

in your specific case:
*more context needed*

[CyberToothTiger]

They want know where you was at all the time.
They want know can they see your cell phone.
They want know if they can come with you.
They tend to text and call you compulsively
while your out with friends.
They show up at your door with no apparent
reason.
They argue with you over petty things make
no sense.
They can get in your face to bring a point
across to you.

[CyberToothTiger]

Thank you for most helpful guy :)

[Djaaaaay]

Your controlling and trying to blame guys for your foul out burst. Disrespect works this way when initiated towards the other person , then generally followed by a reaction from the other person. So labeling someone for your outburst in the first place becomes sexist in nature

[Anonymous]

You told him to shut up over the phone. He got offended because he wasn't there in person so couldn't tell you were joking. If you were talking, would you want him to tell you to shut up?

[musicbrain5]

How do you know that? Says nothing about a phone conversation in the question.

[Opinion Owner]

@musicbrain5 you haven't seen the asker's other questions? She's asked the same question anonymously for a while. On this version, she didn't include the phone conversation. I've seen 2 others worded literally the exact same

[bcromartie]

Context is everything. Answering this without real context is just jumping the gun.

[Because-I-Have-Too]

Leave him it's only going to get worse