Is love at FIRST sight possible? I would have to say probably not, but at NEAR first sight, I'd say possible I think. I sound like a MythBusters, so I'm gonna have to explain hah! Without even talking to a girl I can discern a lot of things about her if I look closely. Guys are notorious for not picking up on details, but that's my job as an engineer and it spills out into my regular life. So first is her physical appearance. Obviously looks are looks, but they aren't everything. You can tell a lot of things about her by the way she dresses. Is she wearing super expensive designer clothes? What about her purse? If she has a brand new $300 Luis Vuitton bag and some stilettos that screams high maintenance and possible bitch to me. How about her clothes in general? Low key, model-like, or casual? A girl going out to location x in one set of clothes probably has a different personality than a girl going out to the same location with something completely different on. Can give a clue whether she's high maintenance, or laid back. How does she carry herself, does she stand up straight or sit up straight? If at a party, I'd have to be checking her out for 5 minutes or so to get a feel for how she carries herself in general. What about hair, how does she do it up, is it natural? Sometimes I can't tell, but many times you can tell if it's not natural. Why would a girl dye her hair? Only if she's really not happy or bored with her natural look. Says something about her personality. How much makeup? Another clue. What about her focus? Is she curious about her surroundings or like blocking out her surroundings? What phone does she have and is she always on it? If something funny or unusual were to happen in those few minutes that you're sizing her up, what's her reaction? Reactions tell a whole lot about a person. Doesn't always happen though if you're sitting on the Metro or waiting at the DMV or something. Of course I have to talk to her for a little, and see if what I think to be true is. You can usually tell within the first 15 minutes or so depending on what you talk about. I was once on the Metro for all of about 5 minutes, like 3 stops. I sat next to a girl. I sized her up. I saw she had an iPhone, she was playing a neat game on it, the app gave away more about her personality. She looked like she was hunkered down for a long ride, so I knew generally where she was going, which gave away more about her. After just picking up on all her details, I knew I would like her and we might get along. So I struck up a short conversation, and she pretty much reacted as I expected. We had a good, but short conversation and she ended up being a type of girl I could really like. So I believe that it's POSSIBLE for love at NEAR first sight if you can figure out a lot of the important details about a girl right from the start. Personally, I've never fallen in love like that, but it's possible if you can size up a girl really well from the start.
Simple answer. Absolutely not. Do not fall for the movies, or any guys who tells you this. Here's why.
Some guys don't even know what love is. In no way can only looks, style, or anything seen from a distance for a brief moment make someone LOVE you in the true sense of the word. It can inspire lust, sexual desire or attractiveness, or a genuine hope that the real her will be as amazing as the picture he paints in his mind in 3 seconds.
That said...If a guy is attracted by the first sight, there's obviously a much better chance of it developing into something real, real love. He will be more likely to start a conversation, he'll have the obvious intent of getting to know you, and he will give you every chance to live up to the hopes he has.
Hope this helps!
Opinion
9Opinion
Absolutley not. For starters, for a man to actually say the 'love' word it takes a long time and its a big deal for us. I definitely don't use the word lightly.
I've met girls who look gorgeous but the second they open their mouths I run a mile. We might be shallow when it comes to looks but for us to stay interested in anything more than sex, a brain that's actually switched on is very important :) . I always laugh at the film/movies where you see a love at first sight scene, there's no such thing. Only lust at first sight :) .
I've done it but not at first sight. I never talked with the girls I had crushes on high school but every time I saw them I feel like my feelings for them deepened. I wasn't looking for purely physical gratification from them. Not that I wouldn't have enjoyed it but that wasn't really the kind of feelings I had for them.
However that's only my personal experience, other guys might be different. It's not safe to assume that a guy is only for sex if he shows a lot of interest right off the bat. In my opinion, if you don't know anything about the guy, he deserves the benefit of the doubt but proceed with caution. At that point you don't have enough information to accurately discern his intentions, I think.
I don't really believe in love at first sight, but the girl I'm currently trying to get involved with I felt some sort of connection with from the moment I walked into the room and saw her sitting there. I just knew I wanted to be around/with her somehow. I wouldn't say love though, that's far too strong for this, and it wasn't lust either, just some sort of connection. We did get along pretty well after a little while and now we're pretty close.
So yes, I believe in some sort of connection being possible, but not love, that's far too strong without knowing anyone for sure.
I would say not. Lust at first sight yes, love is ascertained later and is much deeper than simply being attracted to somebody aesthetically. Inevitably, when one falls for someone from afar they are often projecting some quality or ideal they have (which is invariably wrong or misguided) and as such, are operating under a misapprehension that is often dispelled spectularly upon meeting and speaking to this person. Looks aren't everything-physical beauty fades, inner beauty shines on.
I'm not so much a believer in faith and "must be" kind of beliefs. I do believe in hard work and going after what you want. But I can't deny that there can be heavy attraction with a simple glance. But falling in love? That's going to require a little more.
"Love at first sight", or based completely on a physical basis, is nothing more than lust. Love at first sight does not exist.
Yep. There's a girl I can think of I have that for. Ever since I saw here in a class in high school I've been like :o. lol
it could be in some weird way...like a you have no life way...but no when it gets right down to it...you sould first meat the girl then deside if you like her or not... (FIRST SIGHT + NOT KNOWING INTERESTS ECT. = JUST A BUNCH OF GOO GOO)
I could not. Maybe other men can?
You can also add your opinion below!
Most Helpful Opinions