Girl gave my boyfriend her number, am I over thinking?

[Anonymous]

I'm in a ldr and a few nights ago my boyfriend went to some bars with his buddies, which I knew about, and later on said that sone girls gave him their numbers. Instead of saying that he has a girlfriend he told me that he gave them his friend's number I think as a joke. Is it still wrong for me to be upset that he didn't even mention he has a girlfriend though? As a girl I totally would've been proud to say I have a boyfriend thanked them for the number and walk away. Am I being way to nervous and over thinking this?

[RokFerry]

Yes, you are hurting only yourself. I would say this if you was the man and he the girl. If you come across to him as prying on his ways then your asking for trouble. Ask yourself this: If you accepted some lads number what would you do? Do you love your boyfriend enough not to slag-off behind his back or what? I personally beleave that if my relationship come to this rocky stage I would turn and bolt out the door. I wouldn't stay and allow myself to suffer any longer, there is plenty more people to go out with in the world. It only takes one doubt about your relationship to cut it clean and get out. Cos there's no way you can repair what cannot be repaired from there on in. It all takes experience you see girlie. Take it as a learning curve... and move on.

[NearlyNapping]

Way over thinking. You can't read anything into that. If you start reading into things like that you'll drive yourself nuts. Life has too much stress without adding more to it.

Base your relationship on things you KNOW about each other, not things that may or may not be. Almost anything *might* be. You'll go crazy thinking about what *might* be.

If you're in a relationship, you just have to let each other live your lives. Having trust means you don't even think about it.

[Anonymous]

That is a red flag. I would not give them any number and say I have a girlfriend. It's weird that he gave them any number, unless he wanted to hook up his friend with someone... i think that would maybe be the only acceptable way.

[lifeisgames]

he was honest and told you about it. he gave then a number that was not his and does not have their number. you gotta let it go. tell him how you feel that if it happens again you'd prefer him to just say he has a girlfriend.

[worldscolide]

I think he was trying to be a wingman for his friend. to be honest you're over reacting a bit. they don't have his number. it boils down to trust, do you trust him. if you do.. let it go.. if you don't then you shouldn't be in a ldr to begin with, you're not mature enough for it.

[Justinaveragedude]

You are over thinking it. Not saying he has a girlfriend is nothing against you, the simple thing was that he wasn't interested in them and gave them another number to get them on their way. They didn't matter to him so he just sent them on their way.

[IEat70sBush]

ldr says it all. Those always end with one or the other either ghosted or cheated on (you are not physically there, so if he gets horn sooner or later he might be thinking of you while fucking someone else, at best).

[10dsw]

Nope you're not. It's a guarantee he's texting those numbers.

Here's the problem: you're not physically there. Guys need someone to PHYSICALLY have sex with, otherwise they WILL find it elsewhere.

[Anonymous]

It's good to be cautious in these situations, but it was a number and not a kiss, I wouldn't decline a number if I had a girlfriend, but I wouldn't call her, just remember it like a little trophy that I was so attractive to someone they felt compelled to get to know me better based of of first impression.

[joshboyyyy]

man chill he didn't give the girl his number and he my be setting his friend up so no need to get mad and he did tell you about it if he was lying he wouldn't tell you

[Anonymous]

Girl, sometimes in this world, you can be as loyal as you want but don't expect to get the same in return. Do not listen to those that say it's ok and you are overreacting. Think, if the guy wants nothing with the girls, why even give out number in the first place? Every affair starts somewhere

[manx98]

he probably was just being curteous and instead of flat put rejecting them or telling them he wasn't available he gave them the consolation prize that was his buddies #

[manx98]

flat out*

[alien_shayar]

dont overthink it
if he is not talking to that girl
than its fine

[Anonymous]

Yes, you are overthinking it. He wouldn't have told you this if there was something to worry about.

[jaydtre]

I think you're overreacting and the bottom line is that he doesn't have her number.

[Pizzalover101]

Only if he don't through it away

[Anonymous]

You're not good enough for him.

[Anonymous]

he is trying to help out his friend it's normal

[LGRITN]

You're over reacting

[Anonymous]

Dont worty about it.