Should I give her my number?

[Anonymous]

When chatting with women I'm interested in I've recently started to give them my number instead of asking for theirs, especially if they're at their place of work. I feel like I'm too respectful for my own good, I dont want to be intrusive and make them uncomfortable so I'll often save the compliments and flattery for text, if they ever text me. Now, I tell myself this is because I'm respectful but honestly I'm kinda just scared to ask for their number or compliment them in person, I'm so awkward I usually just bomb it. I haven't had much success with this method so I'm just wondering, do they just think I'm not man enough to say it in person so they aren't interested? Thanks!

Compliment in person, ask for her number

Give her my number, save compliments for text

[DaveJord]

Well it depends on the scenario... usually I do not ask for or give her my number until after I ask her out. So it usually go like this... after I talked to the women a little bit and get a good feel from her.

" How would like to meet some time for cup of coffee or walk in the park?" If she says sure, or yes... in most cases she offers me her number without me asking. But if she doesn't offer me her number then I give her mine.

But here is the deal, if I give her mine and she takes it then I assume she is just being nice and is saving me face by not out right rejecting me. But I have gotten hits off of a women more than once by offering my number first. But if she offers me her number then I am feel pretty good about it. But you got to be prepared for rejection... I mean rejection is just part of the dating process so its nothing to get down or upset about. I mean trying to date someone from your day to day life is hard to do... women are intimidated by that because if it doesn't work out then they will still see you all the time and it can be awkward.

So I will be honest online dating has worked best for me, because you know the women on line are actually available to you if they have a profile and are responding to you. But do not fool yourself on line dating is very difficult... you have to do a lot of research on it and really fully commit to the process... from building a strong profile, using the right type of photos... and that's before you can learn how to chat on line and get good rapport going. Takes a lot of trail and error and you can get frustrated about it, takes time to learn how to get good at it from a lot of mistakes and lessons learned.

Go on line but read everything you can read about it, do your home work and try to get smart on it. It a simple fact the women on line get flooded with guys requesting matches. There are 3 to 1 more men on line than women. So as a guy you got to hit up 10 women to every one, and then out of every one that replies, only 1 in 5 will result in a date, and for every date you get 1 in 3 will result in a second date. Seriously so you got to try to connect with like 50 women before you find one to get to a 2nd date with. As you get better at it those numbers come down drastically but it takes time and a lot of effort. But it worked for me.

[TommyMountainFigure]

Have you considered the possibility that just giving a girl your number isn't good enough?
You have to make it exciting for them, then they will want to call you. There are all sorts of things you can do.. You could have a 250 pack of pre printed cards.. .. Take them out.. Shuffle them.. and say pick one and phone the number on the card.. When they ask what it is. say it's a magic trick.. Wait for your phone to ring and you have their number. If that's a bit too sneaky for you.. You could always say I'm too shy to ask for your number,.,, will you go out with me instead because that is much easier for me.. Something like that!!! Girls enjoy a laugh.. Make it so it's not forced.. and if you strike out.. so what.. you'll both laugh about it the next day.

[Asker]

This is great advice thanks

[TommyMountainFigure]

You're welcome.

[MoniqueTLC]

Giving your number is great because it shows assertiveness and that you're not afraid for take the lead. A subtle compliment in person will let her know you're interested and confirm that there's attraction there. A woman will remember how you made her FEEL, not what you SAID so if you make her smile or even a little shy, she'll remember that when she starts to think about whether to message you or not. If you don't say anything at all, she won't have any feelings attached to you, and will be easier to just disregard your number.

[CrazyGirl2]

You can always do a mix n match! Compliment her now, but still give her YOUR number! That way she won’t feel threatened by you asking for her number, and she is the one who gets to decide whether to call/text you or not! It’s always a better gesture to give a woman your number, as it removes any pressure, embarrassing situations, and it leaves the choice open to her. I say try that. And seriously… good luck, I hope it works out for you!

[Pinay_ako]

A nice genuine compliment goes a long way… go from there

[Guy13]

Want to really impress her THEN give her a Business card with your email and phone. Email says, “I respect your privacy.” Number says, “yes I’m serious and please call if you prefer.” -That’s a guy who has determined there is going to be a second date. At least you know you did everything possible…

[Guy13]

And of course as it goes without saying…request a means to contact her.. not necessarily phone number as that is her decision to offer.

[Anonymous]

i haven't really been asking for #'s either , more just focus on talking to them in person , you can always ask later on if it becomes more obvious there is stronger potential and a genuine desire to communicate

guess giving your # is an option too , depends on the situation and how well you know them if at all , they likely won't text you if they don't know you at all though if you give it to them in like the first encounter you see them

[Avicenna]

It's usually better to ask for theirs unless they're at work

[strateguy632]

you should