I gave him my number and he gave me his but I haven’t heard from him. Should I move on?

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Ok I was reintroduced to this guy I had a thing for a couple years back by some good friends of mine and we’ve all been hanging out and him and I have hit it off. We’ve been flirting and I’ve been making it obvious that I’m into him and his friend told me he liked me too. So Friday night we’re all hanging out and I decided I wanted to give him my number as we left but it was pouring rain so we ended saying bye and running to our cars. So I messaged him on Instagram and gave him my number and he replied back with “I see we think alike, I was going to give you mine too” and then gave me his number. And I haven’t heard from him since. So I guess I’m just trying to figure out wtf he is thinking. Like is he shy? Is he not interested? Playing hard to get? I have no idea wtf I am doing. And I’m overthinking and it’s bugging me. What do you think?

YourGirlGigi · Accepted Answer

Since this is a text world, what was the reason for not continuing to text when you first reached out to him? Were you both driving?

The other thought.

If you have to ask yourself if he's interested, he's not.
You're desire is you want him to show interest. Reciprocate the same energy. I know one thing for sure, if a man is interested he will text, call, etc. I don't care if he's shy, etc. You want have to guess at whether or not he likes you. Shy? No. He knew you were interested because a mutual friend told him, right? You both were flirting (which means nothing and basically something to do to waste time or feel good at that moment), right Yet? Yet, you initiated first contact and put it out there to a friend that you liked him. Now it seems "you" will initiate the conversation. You see were this is going? He could have asked when you all were hanging out before the rain started. Or, asked for your number from the mutual friend. Or, told the mutual friend he likes you with hopes the interest would be made known to you.

If you're desire is for a man to show interest as you do and he doesn't, he's not an option. If he's shy and you desire a man to be assertive (which it sounds like you do), he's not option.

Nothing wrong with being attracted or liking someone. It doesn't mean they will reciprocate the same.

Think about the guys that liked you in the past... Did you have to guess that they liked you? No, because they took the initiative to show that they like you and wanted to hear your voice, see you and read anything sent by you. "They liked you and wanted your attention" They were attracted to you and wanted to be in your presence.

He may like you as a person, but beyond that "?"

If you contact him and you all start to talk, pay attention to how he shows interest in the conversation. Are you the one asking questions about who he is, what's his interest, his intentions, etc. If you're doing all the asking and invitation to hangout, he's not interested. Now, he will respond to your questions which will keep the conversation flowing. The main thing is does he reciprocate. He should show "interest" by wanting to know "you" or start a topic in the conversation to know how "you" think, etc. He must show interest. He must be engaged. It's tricky because you like him and it's exciting for you that you are talking to him so you don't see the obvious. People will let you their interest and intentions. You just have to pay attention to the cues being given by him.

All that you have done shows me he likes the attention but not interested.

You're the fan, he's the star.

_food_lover234 · Accepted Answer

he might be waiting for you to reach out, but he also might not be. try reaching out to him first, it will be a power move for you and I hear a lot of guys like it when the girl reaches out first. see how the conversation goes, and if it feels more forced- then you have your answer. if it just flows and there's no problem, great! but see if he'll reach out the second time. if he doesn't, move on. if he enjoys talking to you, he will reach out. or make an effort to talk to you some way, guys are pretty simple like that. try not to overthink, you got this!

AmanoYin · Accepted Answer

He's thinking the same thing.

No one wants to call first and seem desperate. But then when you don't hear back from the other, you think they don't like you.

If friends introduce you both then it's a good sign you both like each other.

Since he won't message you first take advantage.

If you're shy ask. "Do you like me"

If you have a more brave side say,
"Since you hadn't messagedme first, you owe me s good first date. "

Something like that.

Any time your guy hesitates, do something like this. Subtle challenge them to grow...

Lovelyflowercutter · Accepted Answer

I think you need to calm down as you are knowingly overreacting. From the little you've given its clear both of your intentions. He probably is waiting to not seem desperate or the right occasion

Tstrbrainer · Answer

Wow, sounds almost similar to a situation I was in a few months ago.
See, sometimes guys can also be too shy or they don't have any topic to chat with you.

You said you saw him after a couple of years, so even if he was interested, he might think that the year gap might have reduced his chances and you were just being nice.

Or he just sees you as a friend.
We can go on making assumptions, but I think it's better to stay in touch till and look for favourable chances to meet him.

Or, you can move on, the excitement will gradually fade, but it will take time depending on the intensity of your feelings and your amount of socialisation

TheAfrikan · Answer

It simple it is High time for you text him, Break out of your insecurities text him. And you can find out why he doea not text you.
If He is man enough he will give you a reason. If you still have feelings for him it is better that you act upon it.

Afrenchgirl · Answer

Call or text him ! Chances are he will be happy to hear from you. If he doesn’t, then you’ll know that it’s better to move on. But before giving up, give it a try

luvstoned4him · Answer

guess you can step up to the plate and text him. After all he gave his number so there could be some interest there. Maybe he is shy or not good at initiation.

Adam1978 · Answer

He might be doing what you do. So use his number to call him. Instead of doing reverse chicken and see how long time you can wait before showing interest.

sensible27 · Answer

Maybe he's shy.. i sometimes do things like these but maybe you should message him if you can't wait and are impatient. There's not (that much) downside to it.

sheikalana · Answer

He probably got busy with something else. Don't stress yourself so much if you're so intrigued about what's going on just text him and start a conversation. End of the story. Men don't always need to be the first ones to make a move.

dmvgirl16 · Answer

I think that guy was just playing with ur feelings because a guy that likes u would call u so move on

Finchie40 · Answer

The phone works both ways , send him a text first ,

Branden315 · Answer

Think about how he feels, it's the same, send him a text and casually ask if he's still interested

Matieux · Answer

Since you got his number you can just text him or call him

Anonymous · Answer

Ya move on for sure. There will ALWAYS be a surplus of men willing to do what the other one didn't. Guys need to up there game these days if they wana keep up in the dating world

Anonymous · Answer

You have his number; so try calling him and find out what is up.

NYCQuestions1976 · Answer

It's only been four days. Did you try calling him? Why is this question unnecessarily Anonymous?

Agem123 · Answer

How long has it been since you texted him? If more than a week, I would have moved on.

Raymond11 · Answer

Don't care. If you are really into him and want to hang out just call him. Maybe he is a bit shy but can't really tell.

Amanda2 · Answer

Most likely he isn’t interested don’t bother chase him

joackim93 · Answer

He probably love someone else or he's shy and get scared about if he asked you to go out you will reject him

Anonymous · Answer

Omg 🤦‍♂️. If you want to talk to him then how about you use the fricking number he gave you to contact him? Jeez. Why is the first stop always “I should just move on” with you people?

By “you people” I mean women.

dublin_sexyeyes0 · Answer

If you give me your num ill contact you to make sure the line is good 😂😂

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