Do you think ignoring is the best weapon?

[Anonymous]

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when I choose the category of this question, I was thinking of human relationships of all kinds not really relationships based on love.
What I meant was ignoring a person you know who mistreated you.

[seregunda]

Situation dependent. If the person you're arguing with has been made aware of the problem at hand multiple times, and you've tried other avenues, by all means ignore away. Make sure the opposite party knows what they did to upset you, otherwise you risk their getting angry instead of apologetic if they don't understand.

I've always viewed ignoring someone as a last resort - when their behaviour is both deplorable AND repetitive and they show no signs of listening when logic is used. Because at the end of the day ignoring someone is the equivalent of saying they aren't worth your time which is a damaging tool, and in my opinion only necessary on rare occasions.

[AskAlthea]

No, it's a horrible idea. Ignoring your SO just lets them know something is wrong but it doesn't tell them WHAT is wrong, if they don't know what is wrong how can they fix it? Plus, what if you're ignoring him during a time when he's really busy or kind of wants some personal time and so he doesn't notice, it's going to piss you off while he won't even notice that you were upset about something. Communication is important in a relationship, ignoring your SO is NOT communicating. If you have a problem, TALK to him about it.

[AskAlthea]

What do you get out of ignoring someone who mistreated you. Generally people use "ignoring" to punish that person. If the person mistreated you, there's the case where they mistreat you because they don't care about you, in which case, they won't care you're ignoring them so that "punishment" falls short. If the person does care, well once again, communication is important in all relationships, if they do care about you all they'll know is that you're mad, not what made you mad. They might just be like, this girl is cray-cray, she just randomly starts ignoring me when I didn't do anything.

[RJGraveyTrain]

A balance between not acknowledging bullshit and then refusing to take it. Sometimes it's best to brush off petty shit, but if someone wants to intimidate you and back you into a corner it's time to get mean and teach them that they can't treat you that way.

[SarahsSummer]

No. Not usually. But I guess it would depend on what you are defending/fighting against.

[SaramadHill]

It's certainly a weapon, alright. Lots of men, including myself, really hate being ignored, it creates animosity between the couple. Don't just ignore someone to let them figure it out alone, because it just makes them angry.
It's more like "I know something's wrong, but I don't know what to do about it, or even what I did in the first place."

So... Yes, the silent treatment is effective at getting a guy's attention-- but it annoys the heck out of them to the point to where you almost get a new problem entirely. Like medicine with a bad side effect, why cure a headache to get a toothache.

[Abusci]

Ignoring isn't a weapon, it's a wall. Whether the person on the other side fruitlessly wails on the wall or decides to move on, is where you see it's effectiveness ( in hurting someone).

[Nephilim000]

as much as I don't like violence i feel sometimes a good couple of punches to the face is necessary. often ignoring people just motivates them to escalate their behavior

[Viperkiss]

This isn't elementary school. Grow up. Attempting to manipulate people through games is a shitty thing to do and not a foundation for love, respect and friendship.

[lovelyhoneybones]

I do not think it's the best weapon, but my current relationship started because I was ignoring this guy.

[nala_rawr]

i think it is...
but its also childish and CAN backfire...

[carlos1955]

Depends on the situation for example if your arguing with your partner and totally ignore him or give him the silent treatment then all your doing is giving him what he wants peace and quiet but as I said it does depend on the situation

[Cloudy25]

For attention whores yes.
With other people it's often best to face things head on.

[Annaaaax]

oh yeas i use it but sometimes people dont get it and its annoying!

[Anonymous]

yea and staying silent absolutely kills women. You should see their faces

[Asker]

and men?

[Opinion Owner]

Doesn't really phase us

[rzvcam]

No but it is the best armour ;)

[pratsjoshua]

no. deal with a situation and find out a simple solution and use it.

[Anonymous]

It is second only to knocking the sh!+ out of them...

[realperson02]

yes it's the best weapon for self destruction.

[Anonymous]

To serian gas is much more effective

[Viperkiss]

Lol.

[abc3643]

LOL GOD NO!

[Anonymous]

no, passivist behavior is weakness.

[Ammarahmed]

Yeah

[Anonymous]

yes, yes it is.