My boyfriend is taking Xanax for recreation, I hate it?

[Anonymous]

He has taken Xanax around be a couple times & he seems like he's drunk, slurred speech, off balance, mentally slower, but he's also more pissy, argumentative about things that really don't matter & wouldn't matter to him if he were sober), he's super talkative & defends his action, and tries to convince me that it isn't the Xanax's fault.. He's just a different person that I'm not very fond of..

I learned he used to take it regularly & was addicted.. Now he takes it very occasionally, but it's been twice this week, 2 days in a row & I feel like I need to stop this shit immediately, or he could lose control again. He also tries to hide that he's on it, but I can instantly tell now because of his mini mood swings & being pissy over nothing.

How should I go about telling him I love him to death, but if he wants to keep popping pills, it's going to ruin the relationship because I know one day he's going to cause an argument or say something stupid because of the Xanax.. that he won't be able to take back & I don't want to be with someone that does drugs anyway.

Any experience or advice on this?

[AlphaMale1]

You are dealing with a very powerful thing called the addicted brain. I seriously doubt you can help him. My younger brother died a drug addict and in spite of all our efforts and the clinics he went to the drugs finally ended his marriage, family, business (he had a successful business) and in the end, his life.

I was engaged to an alcoholic for a couple years. To make things worse, she won the lottery in our state and had more money than was good for her. She got into drugs and drinking and was arrested three times for drunk driving. Other than the night in jail she always hired a good lawyer and got her off of the jail time. A few years after I left her she took her life with a gun.

You are dealing with something that is very powerful and destructive. It hurts to see a loved one live their life in this way. From my experience there is nothing you can do to "fix" his addiction. Remember, an addiction is for life. It can be managed. Never cured.

[casscade]

actually xanax on its own can't do anything , consuming alcohol with it on the other hand does a lot I would suggest getting therapy or just packing his schedule with fun stuff to the extent that he won't need / have the time to take it
I hope this helps x

[Asker]

Xanax on its own actually has a shitload of side effects, Google it. Alcohol just magnifies the effects. I can't patrol him, he hung out with his friends that he also works with, after work.. And they both have a bunch of Xanax.

[casscade]

I don't really think xanax gets you high on its own does it? anyways I meant spend a bit more time with him maybe?

[Asker]

It does.. but not "high" like weed

[casscade]

ah I see because I used to take xanax on plane trips because I had a fear of flying

[Asker]

The people that take it for recreation are taking a lot more than a "calming" prescription dose.

[casscade]

Okay , relax I'm not questioning you , I'm just sharing my perspective. . . .

[SleepyChan]

He's going to have to keep increasing his amount and if he's buying off the street, he'll get busted.

I can't handle pissy people. Life is too short for that.

[Asker]

He tried to justify it to me by telling me he got it for free, and that he doesn't take it all the time (also true, but I think it's been 2-3 days this month, which is more than enough for me)

[SleepyChan]

I don't know anyone who gets Xanax for free. I know that you shouldn't be taking something that mood-altering. Have you looked up Xanax, what's it's used for and it's side affects? I used to take it for to help me relax and sleep at night but I told my doctor to take me off of it because my body was becoming addicted to it.

[Asker]

I've read all about it.. Drugs are easy to buy in bulk, enough profit is made so they can give some away for free to close friends.