Confront her. Explain to her that this is concerning, that she is distant from you yet spending time with others one of which is a man who she knows is interested in her. Let her know that it bothers you a lot. See how she responds. If she tries to justify it, if she gets angry at you and tries to turn things on you then chances are she either is cheating or thinking about it. When you confront her do not attack her, let her know your concern, let her know that its because you value your relationship with her that this bothers you, if she gets angry at you and tries to accuse you of being paranoid or dismisses your feelings then again, their is a good chance that she is thinking about straying or has. At that point I would say that you should break up with her. Waiting is going to do nothing but let her get closer to this guy, it gives her time to assume you don't care and neither does she. Also she has a shitty friend so I would if you do manage to convince her to cut contact with this guy to also try and get her to reject this friend, she tried to convince her to cheat on you that's fucked up. Let her know that she is risking her relationship with you, that she is going to throw away the three years you have had together, and if she decides to continue, break up with her. You need to stand strong in this as hard as it will be, because this is unacceptable behavior and you cannot allow yourself to be in a relationship with some one who does not respect and love you, its simply not fair to you. I hope things work out.
Yeah, it's time. She's hanging out with a guy that has a crush on her. Her friend might be there, but that doesn't mean anything. It's the only thing keeping them from locking lips. She's obviously really interested in that guy, so here's what you're going to do: First, cry as much as you have to. You are not less of a man for expressing your emotions, so let it all out into your pillow until you feel you don't have to. Then, get a box and grab all of the things in your house that belongs to her and put it in that box. When you know she's home, take the box, go to her place, knock on the door, say "hey, you seem interested in that other guy, so go ahead and have fun with him. You can burn all my stuff for all I care. I'm out". At which point, you go home, you cry again, then call a friend you trust and tell him that this shit just went down and you need to get out of the house and your mind off of things. Screw this girl. She's not the one anymore. Don't try to fix this. It's a wrap. Count your losses and be happy it happened before you had kids and bought a place with her because you could have lost the place you lived and had kids that half look like her and you'd never get over that completely. I'm sorry this happened, but now is the time to dump her. And now is a good time to work on yourself. Work on your career, your health and enjoy being single for a while. Everyone should be single for at least one year in their 20s and late teens. Nows your turn.
How were you treating her prior to this? Is sounds like she has drawn away to this new guy. I was in a long term relationship, and ended it because there was no communication, he was controlling manipulative, and he went like 2 weeks not wanting to talk always letting me go. Actually, more said even if we were on the phone there was never a conversation, everything waa just out of place. Soon enough that feeling of abandonment got to me , and I gave myself the chance to talk to someone new. Throughout this period I was blind folded, and realized how much was missing in my relationship that my goals, and dreams for it diminished. I started to pull away, and the more I talked to this person the more I found my self not wanting to talk to my partner anymore. Things grew awkward, and I let it go. Til this point he reacted and wanted to try and go through all the motions. This is just my situation I do not know what is your situation, but I hope this helps. At this point there really is nothing you can do because its either there or its not. If she is distancing her self then thays because she may be attracted to him or her friends are being an influence. I would talk to her because she may get drawn in to more then just crushing. Save yourself from a heartbreak.
There are a number of things wrong here. One, why is her friend encouraging this behavior? She's in a relationship which automatically should mean no pursuing crushes. Two, your girlfriend seems to have no regard for you. Your in a relationship and she's ignoring your texts to hang with friends and she's becoming distant! There's a problem here.
What you need to do is sit down with her and have a heart-to-heart. Tell her everything your feeling, ask how she's feeling. Don't be afraid to ask questions or of hurting her feelings. If this keeps up after you've tried to solve any problems that might be present, I think it's time to move on to someone who actually respects their partner and relationship. Also someone who doesn't have friends who support cheating.
Try and do new things girls usually get tired of guys because of boredom... spice things up... take her out and do things you don't usually text her you have a surprise... and plan a day or weekend of fun crap...
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That sounds like a real shit situation your in - must be painful...
I was in a similar situation in your age, where my girlfriend had a „flying change“.
What would I do about it with my knowledge today?
Talk about it. When you want to know more about how I would approach her in such a situation- just ask me.
I talked with no one about what happend at that time - but today I would express my feelings to people I trust and talk over it a lot.
When I was younger I had a different worldview: that my girlfriend is not free to choose what seems best for her or what she wants. Over the years I changed that - everyone is fully free to decide what is good for him and what we do not prefere or that does not fit (!) - Conclusively: When you want the best for her, then accept and welcome that she can choose freely what she wants - period!
All the best - and take such a situation to grow up - and not bitter up
She has lost respect and attraction for you, you need to be pro-active and re-attract her, but first, ask yourself why this happened, were you too weak for her and let her have her own way or did you take her for granted and didn't care much for her? Only you know the answer.
To reattract her you need to interact with her and make her smile and laugh, she needs to feel that you have addressed your issues and now have a new found confidence where you are able to dominate your woman in a loving way. Do not waste time, be pro-active and get her back, she hasn't gone yet so you still have a chance to bring her back
Sounds like she's probably too comfortable with you. 3 years is a difficult mark. You can find yourself questioning whether you really love your significant other and it's so easy to find someone new and unknown so much more interesting than your other but the best way to deal with it is to talk about it with her. Get everything out there and make sure she does too.
You have to talk to her about it, but don't accuse her right away. Calm yourself down first, and do not snoop on her phone even though it can be tempting. A healthy relationship is all about trust and open communication. If this doesn't get resolved, you are gonna have to ask yourself if you really want to love and be with a girl who is so easily swayed and would entertain every guy who looks at her.
It is obvious she is straying, or at least beginning to.
You can do one of two things. Wait and get more and more hurt.
The other is end it yourself and save a lot of agonising.
meet her, face to face, tell her that you sense she's becoming distant. ask her why.
U can't do anything ... u can wait and watch... let her take her own time... or else talk to her...
dump her ass what there is to do besides that? she is flat out disprespecting you, if you dont hit first she will cheat on you and dump you, be the man in the relatioship my friend.
Wow no offense but you have a shitty girlfriend. If I started pursuing every guy who had a crush on me, I would've cheated like 50 times by now lol.
Just love her more , also open up conversations about it , listen to what she feels , if u can , go travel somewhere with her for a weekend only to get closer to her
I would meet up with her and have a talk about it. Good luck:)
Do you know what this crash was about? I think this can be decisive
Have a chat with her about it.
You have to kill the guy, obviously
Make him little little surprises.
tell her how you feel about it.
Dump her she's not into you anymore.
Contact her.
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