I ask this because I know I've caught myself thinking :"He'll switch in a few weeks/months" then "he's probably just a psychopath/manipulator out to get someone".
So far, I don't believe anything good he does is genuinely out of affection and care. It's not against him but I've been accustomed to toxic men so yeah... in my case it's getting hard to believe that there are good guys interested in me. I see and acknowledge everything he does, I don't tell him anything negative but my brain keeps buzzing... I just do my best to keep a poker face whenever he does something nice and be enthusiastic about it, but in my head it's:"I don't believe you". I don't even believe him when he seems honest about something. Terrible right? Lol
In my case, it's a fairly new relationship (about 3-4 months now) so, I'm not being too hard on myself š
But, people with trauma, when was that moment you realised that your partner wasn't out to get you and they really cared about you and how you felt? That how they treat you is genuine?
Maybe that could help a few other people in my situation as well ā¤ļøāš©¹