I think my boyfriend is asexual?

[Anonymous]

He’s had sex with other women before. I’m not sure how often nor do I care do ask but I’m pretty sure this is the case. He doesn’t get turned on by securing and he said he’s never been into it either, he also thinks that sex isn’t an important thing in a relationship. Which I agree it’s not the most important but I just don’t know what to do? He doesn’t get turned on very often and it’s kinda making me feel like I’m the problem like he’s not sexually attracted to me. No I don’t think he’s gay, and I don’t think he’s seeing somebody else I just think his sex drive isn’t as high as most guys. How can I fix this? Or I guess cope with it

[englisc]

Perhaps he suffers with low testosterone, this is becoming more and more of a problem even for young men these days with the amount of estrogen mimicking chemicals in many foods, cleaning products including soaps and shampoos, lack of exercise, lack of quality sleep, alcohol consumption especially when it comes to beer etc. One of the symptoms of this is low sex drive. Research low-testosterone further and bring up the topic indirectly, if he thinks he might be affected he'll most likely want to fix it - testosterone is what makes a man a man after all. Also, once he does get his drive back, sex increases testosterone. More sex = more testosterone = higher sex drive = more sex.

[Anonymous]

He probably just has a very low sex drive.

And also there around only 2 genders. Male Female

But your sexuality can be whatever you want to.

(I only put those last two segments to see if I could make people mad)

[spacegal]

he may be asexual but don’t ask him straight on (if he is and hasn’t come out to and said it then drier than confrontation may make him uncomfortable) and maybe have the conversation of what he doesn’t like

[yourmad101338]

Its not asexual if he's banging girls. He just has low testosterone

[WhereAmI]

Tell him #ChallengeAccepted, make like Barney Stinson and go to town on him trying to turn him on. :)

[Regular1]

What is "securing?"

[Asker]

Sexting

[Regular1]

I'm not turned on by that either, so I shouldn't comment.

[disgustingweebtrash]

You might be ugly