To me, yes. I shows how that person carried themselves, how much they respected not only themselves but their partner, and how much my partner was able to keep himself controlled. I'm a Christian girl so it does matter a whole lot to me.
Not anymore no. My boyfriend had slept with one woman before me and - seriously y’all - I struggled with being with him because of it. I wanted my man to be a virgin like me. Now? It’s not an issue at all, and I don’t think about his past except when questions like this pop up lol
It only matters if it affects us now, like she's got an STI or a history of cheating etc. Otherwise no it doesn't matter. I might be curious to know just to know her better as a person and her past, but not to judge or anything. It's not going to change my feelings for her.
Only women ask this because generally, it's women who have the slutty pasts and want it to be forgotten and act like it didn't happen when they choose to settle down. It is and should be a problem. Investing your time and life into someone is a massive deal, so having someone who had zero standards about who they let into their body is a major deal. If you are investing in anything else in your life, you wouldn't choose something that has been used and abused by everyone, over something less used and taken care of.
To me it doesn't matter it shouldn't make a difference we are all human we all have guilty pleasures me personally I wouldn't even ask because the only thing that matters is when we were in bed It's All About Us in her answer me that's all I care about
I only care where it comes to gauging what I want out of the relationship.
If she's got a history of getting into relationships for a couple of years and then moving on to something new, I know not to get myself in too deep. That sort of thing.
I'm more interested in how she's treated her past partners than how many of them she's had.
The past matters for when you want to determine compatibility. If she slept around I would want to know since our views on sex would not be the same. And I would want to know the extent of the sexual things she did with her partner as I would not want her to not want to do the same with me. Like, I'm not getting together with someone who used to do blowjobs but no longer wants to do them to me for some reason.
It matters, makes her more spoiled. I'm a single virgin guy, why would I want a girl who has slept with men. If she was married and her husband died, or if she was raped that's another story altogether.
When I was a virgin, it used to matter a lot because I waited so long to lose it and don't regret it. Now, though I have have only had sex with one other guy, it isn't as important. Kind of like smoking pot. it's only a big deal until you do it and realize it's not the end of the world.
I'd tell her everything 100% truthful and honest from the start, as long as I'm her forever next and never one of her 'Ex's' 😊
Then I accept her for being honest and open with me from the start, and I won't judge her at all if she did, especially if she was open about her 'sexual past' as well and said she's 'clean' (disease free).
No offence to any females directly, before I get called sexist! So DON'T take offence please.
I would rather her not tell me about her past honestly. Maybe later on in the relationship and as long as she adores me and doesn't openly compare me, doesn't act irresponsible, or has ongoing FWBs that she still talks to. If she had that guy friend she was a little too friendly with, I'd ask her about him. Other than that, if she is experienced, wants to be monogamous with me, desires me, craves me, then I'm not going to complain.
Yes. I'm only interested in long term relationships where sex comes in at the appropriate time... when you both love each other fully! I expect the guy I'm with to share the same values and to not have any past relationships that were not built on full love and trust.
Well!! its ok for me if my partner had some relationships in her past. Right now i really feel like sexting and romancing and having sort flings with girls... but finally i just think i'd be more comfortable to be a virgin while i enter into a serious relationship and i expect the same amount of seriousness from my partner if at all its about having long term plans with me
Yes as horrible as it sounds of me to say , I know man love to brag about how many women they've slept with but it just tells me they need to get down to clinic and If I was to be with them I'd just be another number to them and obviously they aren't very good in relationships if they've been in a lot of them that never work out. Id say anymore than five is fine but this is just my opinion you what they say you have to kiss a lot of frog's to find your Prince
I wasn't really bothered by the past sexual life of any girl I have ever dated. But I always try to find if she have got fetishes because weird fetishes are indicative of mental disturbances, I want to keep distance from this kind of girl. I also tend to avoid promiscuous girls because they almost always have anxiety issues.
Yes. I want know how many people my partner had been with, if they've ever gotten an std, if they used condoms/protection etc... the amount of people doesn't bother me but if they have an std or ever had one and if so how many times etc that matters if they're careless about themselves I don't need that some attitude when it comes to my sexual health
Not only her past sexual life but her past intimate life as well (dating, kissing, cuddling, hookup, etc.) It's a personality thing. Any other experienced or used up girl would be a total turn off and could F***K OFF!!!##!!! But lucky for them, that's just me lol.
I want to know what I'm looking at in terms of the potential for STD's and STI's as well as giving me a glimpse of if I'm dealing with a player/fuckboy.
Only to the extent it may be a practical issue. I recommend going with a potential partner to give blood or plasma; that comes with testing for STDs. A virgin requires different handling than an experienced Domme, let's say. Beyond that, it doesn't matter.
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To me, yes. I shows how that person carried themselves, how much they respected not only themselves but their partner, and how much my partner was able to keep himself controlled. I'm a Christian girl so it does matter a whole lot to me.
Not anymore no. My boyfriend had slept with one woman before me and - seriously y’all - I struggled with being with him because of it. I wanted my man to be a virgin like me.
Now? It’s not an issue at all, and I don’t think about his past except when questions like this pop up lol
It only matters if it affects us now, like she's got an STI or a history of cheating etc. Otherwise no it doesn't matter. I might be curious to know just to know her better as a person and her past, but not to judge or anything. It's not going to change my feelings for her.
What about you?
I don't care about his past sex life at all
Only women ask this because generally, it's women who have the slutty pasts and want it to be forgotten and act like it didn't happen when they choose to settle down.
It is and should be a problem. Investing your time and life into someone is a massive deal, so having someone who had zero standards about who they let into their body is a major deal.
If you are investing in anything else in your life, you wouldn't choose something that has been used and abused by everyone, over something less used and taken care of.
To me it doesn't matter it shouldn't make a difference we are all human we all have guilty pleasures me personally I wouldn't even ask because the only thing that matters is when we were in bed It's All About Us in her answer me that's all I care about
I only care where it comes to gauging what I want out of the relationship.
If she's got a history of getting into relationships for a couple of years and then moving on to something new, I know not to get myself in too deep. That sort of thing.
I'm more interested in how she's treated her past partners than how many of them she's had.
The past matters for when you want to determine compatibility. If she slept around I would want to know since our views on sex would not be the same. And I would want to know the extent of the sexual things she did with her partner as I would not want her to not want to do the same with me. Like, I'm not getting together with someone who used to do blowjobs but no longer wants to do them to me for some reason.
It matters, makes her more spoiled. I'm a single virgin guy, why would I want a girl who has slept with men. If she was married and her husband died, or if she was raped that's another story altogether.
When I was a virgin, it used to matter a lot because I waited so long to lose it and don't regret it. Now, though I have have only had sex with one other guy, it isn't as important. Kind of like smoking pot. it's only a big deal until you do it and realize it's not the end of the world.
If she tells me everything.
I'd tell her everything 100% truthful and honest from the start, as long as I'm her forever next and never one of her 'Ex's' 😊
Then I accept her for being honest and open with me from the start, and I won't judge her at all if she did, especially if she was open about her 'sexual past' as well and said she's 'clean' (disease free).
No offence to any females directly, before I get called sexist!
So DON'T take offence please.
I'm just being honest.
I would rather her not tell me about her past honestly. Maybe later on in the relationship and as long as she adores me and doesn't openly compare me, doesn't act irresponsible, or has ongoing FWBs that she still talks to. If she had that guy friend she was a little too friendly with, I'd ask her about him. Other than that, if she is experienced, wants to be monogamous with me, desires me, craves me, then I'm not going to complain.
Yes. I'm only interested in long term relationships where sex comes in at the appropriate time... when you both love each other fully! I expect the guy I'm with to share the same values and to not have any past relationships that were not built on full love and trust.
Well!! its ok for me if my partner had some relationships in her past. Right now i really feel like sexting and romancing and having sort flings with girls... but finally i just think i'd be more comfortable to be a virgin while i enter into a serious relationship and i expect the same amount of seriousness from my partner if at all its about having long term plans with me
Yes as horrible as it sounds of me to say , I know man love to brag about how many women they've slept with but it just tells me they need to get down to clinic and If I was to be with them I'd just be another number to them and obviously they aren't very good in relationships if they've been in a lot of them that never work out. Id say anymore than five is fine but this is just my opinion you what they say you have to kiss a lot of frog's to find your Prince
I wasn't really bothered by the past sexual life of any girl I have ever dated. But I always try to find if she have got fetishes because weird fetishes are indicative of mental disturbances, I want to keep distance from this kind of girl. I also tend to avoid promiscuous girls because they almost always have anxiety issues.
Yes. I want know how many people my partner had been with, if they've ever gotten an std, if they used condoms/protection etc... the amount of people doesn't bother me but if they have an std or ever had one and if so how many times etc that matters if they're careless about themselves I don't need that some attitude when it comes to my sexual health
As long as she hasn't done anything crazy or freaky then I wouldn't mind as long as she hasn't slept with too many men then that'd be better
Not only her past sexual life but her past intimate life as well (dating, kissing, cuddling, hookup, etc.) It's a personality thing. Any other experienced or used up girl would be a total turn off and could F***K OFF!!!##!!! But lucky for them, that's just me lol.
Yes, it matters a lot.
I want to know what I'm looking at in terms of the potential for STD's and STI's as well as giving me a glimpse of if I'm dealing with a player/fuckboy.
Only to the extent it may be a practical issue. I recommend going with a potential partner to give blood or plasma; that comes with testing for STDs. A virgin requires different handling than an experienced Domme, let's say. Beyond that, it doesn't matter.