Boyfriend likes my boobs more than my face?

[Hannah313]

So I asked my boyfriend this question to see if I was going to be right about what he would say. I asked him: "Which part of my body do you like the most?" He said: "That's a tough one." After thinking for a while, he said "I love all of your body, but I would say... Boobs, belly, face, thighs, then butt." I couldn't help to feel a little hurt that I was right, but I know it isn't his fault. He said he still finds me attractive everywhere, and that he didn't mean to hurt my feelings. Am I right to be a little hurt?

You're right to be offended

He was just being honest-you shouldn't have asked!

What's the big deal? He still said he finds you attractive.

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[Pyrofox]

I'd say it could just be chance the way how he ordered his response just flowed better in that order. XD.

I mean reorder latter part "boobs, belly, face, thighs, then butt"

I'm guessing he said it more likely thinking of what order would flow the best and not sound like an awkward coming out off the top his head.

I say this cause the way how the letters and body parts flow seems like his brain was just coming up with an answer that wouldn't come out with awkward pauses between each response.

OR it is really how he feels in which maybe you should just change up your appearance and put how you show your bust on the back burners and make it its your face that is or other body parts that are more apparent and first noticed.

(I mean all this postively in order to help you figure out this confusion. NOT to be rude just want to be clear. As chatting through text can easily be misunderstood.)

[boggboss]

And so the circle continues of asking a question knowing the answer and getting upset over the answer are your boobs not a part of u how is liking them first a take away from u they are u

[Hannah313]

I just feel a little sexualized. I know they are a part of me, an I'm happy that he likes me, but I just feel a little sad. I like that he thinks I'm sexually appealing, but I'd like to think he loves me beyond everything. My face is a better reflection of me than my tits-they aren't the same, you know?

[boggboss]

U say that but it's not that simple not even close your face Is just a face u can't expect him to put the same amount of value u put in a face

[Hannah313]

Yeah, I guess you're right, I can't expect him to value my face over the sexual parts of my body. I guess guys are like that. I am still a little hurt that he wouldn't see the difference in value. I know guys are more visual in females and that men and women view sex differently, but I expected myself not to be looked at by what's the best looking vs what is the most emotionally valuable in this point of the relationship. In a relationship, is sex just about feeling good, or should it be about the emotional connection behind sex when two people love eachother? You may say I shouldn't expect him to value emotional sex, but if we are in a loving relationship, I expect him to be a little more advanced than "That feels good" or "Boobs look good".

[boggboss]

U are over thinking loving your face is a visual thing not a emotional thing that's not the same thing u can't say my face equals a emotional level of live that's not how it works

[Hannah313]

Yeah, you're right.

[boggboss]

Visual and emotional are two separate things u asked for visual so he gave a visual answer

[Malita55]

You asked for an honest answer so you shouldn’t be offended but it’s understandable to be kinda hurt. I would want my boyfriend to find my face the most attractive thing about me

[NoGamePlan]

Ask him if that was in order. If not then you're making yourself upset for nothing! He could just have been listing things as they came to mind.

[Gavyn]

Well, I mean, if BOOBS came into his mind first, chances are that's number one, because it's probably what his mind associates with her beauty.

[NoGamePlan]

@Gavyn Don't just assume that! Maybe he was thinking of sexual attraction, and not romantic attraction. He could have just interpreted the question differently than you were saying it. Just ask him what he meant. He also could have been thinking something like "Well of course her face is obvious so I'll name her other parts I love," and then when he realized his mistake "Oops I should say it in the list too just so she knows I do love her face too, so that she doesn't assume I only like her body"

[linds34]

I think when you asked "body part," that sounds like a part other than your face. So there's nothing to be worried about.

[iBluestar]

Boobs pretty much always look good, its pretty uncommon to have bad looking boobs, even smallish ones look good, the same however, is not true for faces. Unless you have a smoking hot face and some not good looking boobs, your face won't look better, at least in a sexual or arousing way

[chriscdi]

You have the rights to be offended cause he likes your parts better than your face, if anything the face is what you look at during sex so face is always my favorite even sexually, dont you think it pretty much means if your body wasn't so good he wouldn't even be with you?

[-Beonkia]

Seems that's what all guys care about. You are definitely right to be offended. But then again, he's a guy, so he can't help it. Guys really should be more considerate

[Gavyn]

The way I see it, she asked a question, and received an honest answer to that question. If she thought she already knew the answer and didn't like what it was, she shouldn't have asked. But let me say this: boobs are just as unique as a face. I'm no perv, but if we're honest, there are no two pairs of boobs that look exactly alike, just like faces. So, at least he likes something unique about you? Lol?

[-Beonkia]

@Gavyn If you stare at them long enough, there's nothing interesting about them other than they contain breast milk once we get pregnant

[Gavyn]

You're a girl, I doubt you'd understand. Since American society has sexualized breasts, we (guys) associate them with sexual thoughts and acts. They look very appealing to guys, but as a woman I guess you wouldn't understand, would you? :d

[-Beonkia]

@Gavyn yeah a weird crevice, I guess you could say, or an ass crack on our chest is something I wouldn't be able to understand, even though I've had them for years

[-Beonkia]

But it's unsettling to know that some guys just like it better than our face or overall personality

[Gavyn]

Exactly, the fact that you have them completely undermines your ability to understand why guys find them appealing. I get it, they're painful, and sweaty, and annoying. I also get that every time you take a shower, you look down and see them. So, because they've just *been there*, you don't get what guys find appealing about them. For instance, if they're big enough, they're squishy, they bounce a little bit, and plus from what I've heard a lot of women love using breasts in foreplay and sex because they're sensual. If you think about them that way, from a guy's perspective, what's NOT to love? Sorry if I offended you, and I hope this doesn't creep you out (haha), but I do hope that you gained a little bit of insight into a guy's mind. :) Cheers!

[Swolebusser]

Guys are such pigs

[Gavyn]

@Swolebusser Says the guy. I am not overly sexual at all, I'm just explaining why I personally would find boobs appealing. I find a more love-based relationship/marriage more in my taste, not sexual. :)

[Swolebusser]

@Gavyn men like you are what’s wrong with the world. Right @-Beonkia?

[Gavyn]

@Swolebusser Stop white-knighting. She's being sexist against guys, don't sit there and kiss her ass for it. I AGREE, guys nowadays are WAYYYY too focused on sex. But don't kiss the ass of women for brownie points, it makes you look worse.

[Swolebusser]

@Gavyn bro all women are queens

[Gavyn]

@Swolebusser Tell that to the hoes who are 20 and have like 3 kids. Tell that to the whores who don't even know who the father of their kids are because they slept with like 4+ people at the time of conception. A queen is someone born or married into a royal family. Do all women fall under those conditions? No? Then they're not. However, chivalry should still be practiced. Chivalry as it is known today is really just good manners and treating women well. But treating women well does NOT include becoming a yes-man and an ass-kisser.

[winterfox10]

See this is part of the danger of those little tests that women like to put their guys through. He said that he finds all of you attractive, but here you are getting all bent out of shape about the fact that he gave you his honest opinion.

[Unit1]

Damned if we are being honest.
Damned if we are not.
Some women can't make up their mind.
With that being said, some women cannot be happy - ever.

Just something to consider.

[ScottieBoy]

you're right to be offended, sadly some people care about body more then personality

[Swolebusser]

The correct answer was I love all of you. And should have stuck with that. It does damage cause you’ll find something to complain about no matter what, but it does the least damage.

[TinaSP]

Whats the issue here. The guy thinks you are hot everywhere. Such drama for shit

[Leo3572]

He is a man. What did you expect?

[-Beonkia]

We expect them to like the face over everything else.

[Leo3572]

The face is the most important part of course, but boobs are just more attractive in a sexual way. They looks so... Rrrrrr god I love them ❤️

[-Beonkia]

Just now attractive. Imagine if the skin was removed, would they still be attractive or would they just be there to feed kids? Fucked up but still

[Hannah313]

I know, of course, he would like the sexual parts of my body. But I just thought that maybe, somehow, he'd like the less sexual parts of my body because he loves me and appreciates my face more.

[Leo3572]

Well I would say it's the face. A beautiful smile from a cute girls face is like the key to my heart, but that might not be for other guys too. Maybe he just got other priorities I don't know this man, but it doesn't mean that he doesn't love you, or that you aren't attractive to him 😊
And @-Beonkia please no more horror stories here l. I'm emphatic and just try to understand this guy to be able to give an answer like he would.

[Revolver_]

He was just being honest-you shouldn't have asked!

[Anonymous]

Dump