I want a polyamorous relationship but don't want to be labeled a whore?

[lovelyyyyy]

I want to date 2 guys at one time. I don't know how to approach this is my dating life though. It's usually 2 girls 1 guy bit when it's 1 girl 2 guys it's usually connected to "gangbangs" how can I come out about wanting to enter the poly world without being labelled a whore.

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It's not that I seek a poly relationship for sex it what others see it as. Most people see it as a girl being done by 2 men at once when for me it has nothing to do with sexual gratification

[ONIT247]

So, you know who you are, your partner know who you are. Your making a commitment to 2 men in a relationship outside most of societies comfort zone. Being happy and making this work is the question. If approached in a negative way from someone you should not be concerned, it is not their fault. Their narrow mind as the insufficient compacity to comprehend the vast intricacies of a polyamorous relationship.
The majority of the people whom think this way should be asking for relationship help as that is impressive. Most dating and marriage end. To keep this happy takes a lot of co. munication and trust

[MrKinktastic]

I was poly for 4 years, you will have to get over that label bothering you as they won't stop calling you it.

[MrKinktastic]

People still try to tell me I didn't love my girlfriend etc. You've got to have a thick skin for ignorance if you're going to be outside the norm.

[lovelyyyyy]

Thank you I will try

[MrKinktastic]

That part sucks but the cuddles are amazing.

[Mandycandy42]

As other posters have said there are poly communities in your area, of people that are open and comfortable about polyamory and forums that specifically connect polyamorous people. Poly relationships can consist of many forms, not just two girls dating one guy. You will NOT be labeled a whore simply due to your dating preferences except by intolerant assholes. The best thing is to be honest with yourself and be able to communicate and state this within a relationship with men who care enough about you to unequivocally support your life choices and demonstrate a commitment to you

[DidiXDidi]

There's plenty of communities for polyamorous people, and it's worth your time to become acquainted with them, either locally or online. Non-poly people will be judgmental, obviously, and that's something you can't really avoid. However, other poly people are generally very accepting, and it's good to surround yourself with people who get your lifestyle preferences.

[lovelyyyyy]

Thanks for the advice

[VIVANT]

its not dating two guys its a three way relationship. they date each other too.

its not a three way lol its a relationship. guys looking for that kind of relationship, want a relationship. as for other people -screw it. there will always be people commenting on things on which they have nothing to say lol

im curious how you decided. i ask bc i think of it from time to time but I don't know why it appeals to me, im not even thinking of the sex.

i think the challenge is everyone feeling included. and not branching of. unintentionally.

[vaibhav29]

three way relationship means@VIVANT

[VIVANT]

@vaibhav29

dating two guys separately is not them all dating each other, i was just making sure which
she referred to.

[vaibhav29]

ohhh i got

[VIVANT]

@vaibhav29

Cool.. now DE- down vote me ;p
:)

[vaibhav29]

howw

[VIVANT]

@vaibhav29 oh... it was not you :)

[vaibhav29]

then?

[VIVANT]

@vaibhav29

who down voted me it was nolt you :) so you can't fix it.

[vaibhav29]

yeah

[ScaryCool]

By somehow actually proving that it isn't just for the sex. If you think that society thinks it's fine for guys to do it and not girls, that's wrong as I believe the same for anyone who tries it. You live your life and do you though, only you know who you are.

[stailor]

I understand where you are coming from. There are times when you would want to be with someone, want to be heard, appreciated, feel loved and for some reason your partner isn't available. That's not to say it's their fault. Your partner may be busy with something important, unavailable emotionally or maybe that they are simply unable to understand how you feel about a certain thing/situation. Nobody is perfect after all. It's completely fine.
But then you tend to wonder if you had someone else who understood those aspects and give you emotional support or affection.
Although I feel it's going to be a challenge as guys hate any sort of competition especially when it comes to their lady love. Maybe for short time it may work but eventually you'll have to stick to one.
That's my 2 cents on it.

[Byakugan]

But it doesn`t have to be gangbang, lol.

You can have sex with one, and not have sex with the other at all.

You will only be labeled a whore by those who do not understand Poly

[marce97caste]

Thats hard in this society. Fuck one first then the other

[WhoKnoes]

Who cares about what others think if you're happy? Also honesty with the 2 guys would be recommended from me

[CaptainLegal]

Haven't you seen Vampire Diaries? It won't work. Guys get jealous more than girls. Every guy wants to be an alpha male and this comes from nature you can't change it.

[taleswapper]

Some people will label you a whore anyway. It's false. Whores get paid for their work.

[slaveboi]

Poly won't ever label you a whore, that's what ignorant people do, we are about loving our carrying about each other not swinging, enjoy yourself and don't worry about labels

[2opaz]

You're a whore

No way around it. Quit trying to play it off. Everyone knows you are

[i1T2daty]

If it’s all among consensual adults.

[Anonymous]

Do what makes you happy and damn what they think.

[Anonymous]

I think it's immoral, and it should be ILLEGAL

[mythreya18]

What is your age

[Nachowedgie]

Tough

[ParvezGazi69]

Wanna try?