If my boyfriend thinks I'm not marriage material yet, why is he still with me? (Page 2)
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I think he's still immature or a bit toxic if he routinely throws something like that in your face. "You're no where near marriage material, I don't see you as wife material yet"
I think you SHOULD look within yourself and at your actions and act more mature and rational if you're being childish.
You two should communicate better, good relationships aren't founded on people throwing constantly shit in the face of the person you love.
he is still with because he loves you and wants to probably make you his wife one day...
when you love someone you dont just throw them away if they aren't perfect. He is willing to wait for you to become wify material because he loves you... sounds like you actually have a guy that knows what love is.
Still loving someone & them not being READY for a marriage are completely different things.
All it means is he doesn't think you're ready to make the most of life as a married couple, but he loves you & wants you to get there.
Or it's just an excuse for other intentions, I don't know.
He’s on some bullshit. I see where you’re coming from. He can just leave and get to stepping. Find his “wife material”. He clearly likes you a whole bunch, but he’s playing games. He wants you to step up in some way that satisfies him. But is he actually giving you CONSTRUCTIVE criticism? You’re 23. You have a right to still be a little immature. He shouldn’t have gotten in a religious with you if he didn’t want to deal with you like that.
I agree with your boyfriend, you are immature. He doesn't see you as wife material because you lack maturity but he's hoping that you'll get your shit together and become wife material in the future so he can marry you. Whether or not you do is up to you.
How am I immature?
How would u know that? Lmao wtf 😂
Just reading your question. Its comes off really emotional and blown out of proportion. He says he loves but you're not wife material yet and you turn around and wonder why he hasn't left you. That's blowing something out of proportion which is a sign of immaturity.
Ok fair enough
But then there's some guys below that says he's just in it for sex? Thats why he's not leaving?
I can't speak to his motivations. I don't know the guy or what goes on inside his head.
Well the free sex is hard to come by these days and its always good to have few woman as backup. I would suspect he is talking to someone else or you are seriously AMATURE.
I used to send same message to 3 different woman and they all think I am loyal good B. F. Its very easy to cheat and hide it especially if She is not good with tech.
dude... absolutely no respect for you
@mishanw_1071 I am not cheater but I am just telling you... how its even possible.
@mishanw_1071 I was just telling her WHY? cuz she asked about it.
... ok
It means you need work on yourself, examine yourself, get to know yourself better to gain insights on whether you both are truly compatible for long term without ever parting ways.
Sage wisdom.
He does truly love you. Marriage is much more than love. At this moment he still looks at you like a girl, immature, emotionally unstable. He loves you, but marrying you now would not be a good choice. Once he believes you are ready to be "a woman" he will take the step. Untill then, work on yourself, as a person and as a partner
Yes, seriously, QUIT ARGUING. This has to be the worst female trait in the world. Right up there next to NAGGING.
If you're having sex with him and arguing about stupid shit, he's never going to marry you. He'll just keep doing you as long as you let him, or 'till he finds someone else.
Maybe he sees something in you, and would like you to make some changes, and then, he would like to marry you. If he isn't leaving, why are you complaining? Shouldn't you be asking 'What does he mean? What do I need to do to be with him?' or are you just mad, and want him to leave?
Let me recap and point out clues:
- IMMATURE
- NOT marriage material YET
Obviously he hopes that with time you'll become mature enough. Which means you have some evolving to do but he's hopeful about your evolution to come.
I sometimes wonder are girls like you just stupid, or are you deliberately pretending you don't understand someone just so you can dump them and not feel guilty.
He says you're not marriage material YET. He obviously DOES see a future with you. A future where you improve, he proposes, and you both get married.
My god, maybe you really are just as childish and immature as he says.
What he said doesn't mean that he doent want the to marry you. Actually if he didn't think about it he wouldn't have opened the topic of marriage. But he wants you to get more mature so that he can marry you one da. It looks like he has a specific expectation of a woman who is "mariage material".
Ask him what he would want you to change about your behaviour and be opena to it... no one is perfect and there is
nothing wrong with doing what pleases your partner.
He could be waiting for himself to be mentally prepared for marriage. He may also be waiting for something for a better job, a raise, some money for a ring, or even for you to change or learn something. Though as being not married I dont't have the best opinion ever.
End goal of your relationship is marriage.
For a marriage to be successful, you 2 need to have shared VALUES and not just interests. Values can range from moral all the way up to political because those are what you will raise your child based on!
Well many guys these days see marriage as a danerous path. ITs extremely risky to marry as a dude. For multiple reasons. Unless he can fully trust you (which he never can) he probably won't marry at all.
He can probably see that you may become marriageable. But he he wants you to settle into who you are before he's ready to marry. If you take the stertypical guy always trying to get sex and girls being slow in deciding to do so, swap the sexes and replace sex with marriage.
Let's see? OK, I'm using all the rocket science I have been taught on this one... He doesn't want to get married maybe? ... lol
It's because you are 23yo and you don't have a hurry. He cares about you for doing it. It means you two might date for another few years and then go to marry. You should be happy that he does this for you, 'cause I feel too that 23yo might still go couple/few years without marriage.
huh , your profile picture is you now
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~ Mrs Manson
@marilynmansonssextoy Yeah. My comments are even more respected now when they know that I look smart. 😀
that's quite a stretch. but k. I don't have myself, I prefer to have some eye candy in my pfp <3
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~ Mrs Manson
@marilynmansonssextoy Eye candy? I tought it was a dead body.
it's so obvious that you're jealous. that does make sense. super sexy, super intelligent, super talented.
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~ Mrs Manson
there may be things about you he is hoping that will change. i’m guilty of saying this to my boyfriend and it’s becuase he has bad habits that i would not want him to have around children. when we argue and can’t compromise, it makes me wonder how we would compromise in marriage. especially when it comes to moral differences.