I’m the go to relationship advice person in most of my friend groups until they realize I’ve been single for majority of my life. Most of my advice is still high quality stuff but people feel reluctant to trust it because they see singlehood as a stepping stone of life rather than a consistent basic condition. Your “feelings” about relationships aren’t feelings but facts. We are 100% being pushed around by the chemicals in our brains but what you’re scratching the surface of is an old philosophical debate on the potential illusion of freewill and determinism. Personally I believe freewill is nonexistent but it’s unnecessarily difficult to live as if it wasn’t. Your belief in the existence of freewill will change your behavior but the shifts will only reflect whether or not you feel comfortable with a lack of control or defeated by it. So you could avoid relationships out of rebellion to your nonsensical biological drives to hang on to the illusion that you’re a clear headed rational thinker or you can accept that no matter how hard you try your mind will never be entirely free of irrational thought. You could lean into the crazy dumb irrational sides of life and look for things to be enjoyed their or suffer at the hands of never ending torment from fighting against your subconscious animal brain. Doing irrational things doesn’t make you any less of a person of value unless you choose to believe in the validity of that perspective. But to answer your question no having a significant other doesn’t make you understand life more just differently.
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Of course it's true. Humans have been learning from and adapting to our experiences since the dawn of man. Frankly, we wouldn't be here if we hadn't. Learning from explanation alone is newer to our species, and learning vicariously through textbooks and other written mediums is barely a blip on the timeline by comparison.
You could sit alone in a room reading books and watching movies & TV shows about people for 40 years and not learn as much as you would in 10 years of dating and relationships. If that ever reverses, it's safe to say we'd have reached a new stage of evolution.
Not completely true but at the same time not completely false. While some actually understand things happening and coming into the relationship and know how to handle them, there are some that don’t. Though, it’s nice to get advice from certain ones that have likely had the longest and happy marriages together, getting to know possible ups and downs, things that could happen, and things that may be difficult to handle sometimes. Somethings have a similarity in relationships that are common, but it matters on how to handle it afterwards. Getting to know practical things before getting too far into things helps and it’s not just relationship wise. The ‘want’ for a partner i do not believe relies on the thought for just someone to share your feelings to, it should be a lot more than that. When i am searching for a boyfriend, i am searching for a potential partner, and in the future be married to my partner sharing our lives together.
Not necessarily. Just because someone has not had a relationship it does not mean they don't understand relationships. Similarly there are so many people lucky enough to be in one, unfortunately not understanding relationships, which leads to that many failures
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Anything new that you do expands your world, so I would say it's true. Did you ever see the movie Zorba The Greek? Zorba didn't have much formal education, but he experienced many things in life because he did things. He was trying to teach living life to his friend, a man who was very book-smart, but had never actually done anything else.
It's not true. Here is why: relationships are not like a school subject that you take and become proficient at at a certain level. It depends on how mature is the person, how he/she understands life in general. Of course, relationships help us know the other sex better, but chances are you will later get in situations where you have no clue how to act.
They don't know shit. They are young and think they are invincible. They haven't experienced real life yet. When they are married for more than 10 years then they are in position to make such claims. Those who aren't dating probably know more because they were in several relationships and learned from them.
This is funny cause my family have a really shitty history with relationships. I've never had one but studied attraction and dating through a course I did for 3 years and put in heaps of practice meeting and dating girls. My brothers are lazy and never approached unless on liquid confidence. Yet the moment I try give advice they undermine my opinion on the basis I've never had a girlfriend.
It depends on how matured you are. I have seen enough relationships that i know how to make it work when i have one. As long as you are level headed, you should be able to make good decisions. People in relationships often overlook or over react. Anyone close enough to them would easily see whats wrong.
Live and learn.people dont understand relationships really. its common the people base their relationships off of looks. And think the hormones that arise when your with this person is love. But eventually it gets old and your hormones aren't as wild for this person and make you feel you lost something you never really had
I once made a comment about how usually the loud girls want to submit and the quiet girls enjoy being dominant.
My friends girlfriend tried to accuse me of lying by asking "how would you know" because Im single.
I just went quiet because I didn't wanna start a fight, but my friend then pointed out I have slept with multiple girls whilst he believes that she has only had sex with him. He's her first and only ever boyfriendI don't believe so because apparently these days relationships are considered just for sex because all we hear is breaking up after having sex all day all night, but basically relationship is considered as a true feeling exists forever.
I don't think that being in a relationship adds or detracts from knowledge of any relationship besides their own. Especially when it comes to other peoples relationships. Just because you've tried something that doesn't make you an expert :)
The only people who can really answer this question are those who have experience with both conditions. That is, they have experienced being single AND have experienced a good and lasting relationship. I think that alone provides the answer to your question.
No. They might be better than those who've never had a bf/gf but just because you're single at the moment (or widowed or divorced) doesn't mean you suddenly lose all the information you've picked up over the years.
I understood relationship dynamics a lot better after me and my ex boyfriend broke up. Being in a relationship didn't personally help me understand relationships better, it just helped me grow in general. It really only reiterated the things I already knew before I had my first boyfriend
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I can't count the number of times that my very taken friends hit my forever-alone ass up for advice and date ideas.
It's not true to me. You could have great understanding of life without committing to a long term relationship. Actually I believe it is healthy to be single for some parts of your life. If not most parts of it.
My friends with boyfriends are always getting into stupid arguments with their boyfriends so no. But I don’t think they would understand life without their boyfriends.
no that is not true. They can claim all they want but being in a relationship doesn't mean your smart enough to learn from it.
Obviously is true. How can you know how to run a bussiness if you never owned one? The same for a relation.
I don’t know as I’ve never had a proper relationship, but even from my experiences with dating and flings, that there is no one way of doing things. Everyone is different. What may work for one person may not work for another.
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