Falling for a girl who doesn't believe in love?

[adintva]

There's this girl in my class that I REALLY like. I love being with her, talking to her, going for coffee with her and just listening to her voice makes me feel good. I've never liked a girl this much before.

But there's this problem... she has made very clear (not only to me, but to all her friends) that she doesn't believe in love and will never get married or engaged. She never had a boyfriend because of this conviction...

What should I do? How can I win her?

Is there any girl here like her and maybe changed?

We are good friends, but nothing more, and I really want something more...

[BennyF]

Totally have to agree with her on the getting engaged/married thing, value my freedom wayyy to much. Anyway, my best friend totally fits the description above. There was a guy she liked similar to you about a year ago. They were both on the tennis team and always played each other for hours a day, talked about everything and then some, ect. He asked her out. She said no, gave a great big speech with words most the average world is unware are actually in excistance on how she wasn't going to ever date. She gave that speech 17 times, once yelling at the top of her lungs in front of a silent crowd. Poor, stupid guy didn't give up. 18th time he put everything out there. She said yes.

[adintva]

so, what should I do?give up or not

[delicatedreams]

I can relate to her. I'm probably the sort to say that kind of thing. The thing is no matter how much I think it would be more realistic not to believe in love, part of me still wants to.

People need a reason to believe in love. If conditions in her life have not been conducive to love, ergo past issues or even just never having had a boyfriend, she may not want to believe in something she has not experienced. Make her believe you really want her. I wouldn't give up just yet.

[derrick112]

There's not too much you can do in this situation considering it's her personal problem that is completely out of your control. It's obvious she has a problem that was probably caused by a traumatic experience that happened earlier in her life. Until she gets it fixed by a therapist she'll be closed off the the idea of loving someone.

[Anonymous]

How did it go for you? I would love to know.